Prad\u0117siu nuo pavyzd\u017eio, kuris galb\u016bt mums jau akivaizdus – \u012fsimyl\u0117jimas. Sutikus savo antr\u0105j\u0105 pus\u0119 u\u017elieja neapsakoma hormon\u0173 audra. Mes \u017einome, kad tai tik impulsas, duotas \u017emogui i\u0161 gamtos keleriems metams, o v\u0117liau jau partneriai patys turi statyti santykius. Gamta nat\u016braliai \u017emogi\u0161k\u0173j\u0173 santyki\u0173 nebevysto.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Taip pat yra ir su vaik\u0173 ugdymu. Pirmuosius metus ar du beveik kiekviena mama motyvuota u\u017esiimti su vaiku, mokyti jo \u012fvairi\u0173 dalyk\u0173, lavinti \u012fvairius jo \u012fg\u016bd\u017eius. Ir dar tai teikia tiek daug malonumo! Vaiku\u010diai kei\u010diasi kasdien, netik\u0117tai ka\u017ek\u0105 naujo parodo ir pan.. Bet \u0161ie nat\u016bral\u016bs ,,stebuklingi kerai\u201d vien\u0105 dien\u0105 baigiasi ir prasideda kitokio lygio, daugiau pastang\u0173 reikalaujantis etapas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pamenu, kai prie\u0161 metus su s\u016bnumi lank\u0117m\u0117s pas logoped\u0119 ir jis t\u0105dien niekaip negal\u0117jo susikoncentruoti, logoped\u0117 mums pasak\u0117: ,,Man\u0119s niekas morali\u0161kai nemotyvuoja dirbti su j\u016bs\u0173 vaiku. Man patinka ma\u017ei vaikai (parod\u0117 \u012f 2m. dukryt\u0119), jiems viskas \u012fdomu, jie visk\u0105 daro su malonumu.\u201d Ir a\u0161 j\u0105 suprantu. Su vyresniais vaikais jau reikia ,,flirtuoti\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tai apie \u0161ita l\u016b\u017eio moment\u0105 ir ra\u0161au, kai vaikas pereina i\u0161 viskuo besidominan\u010dio k\u016bdikio \u012f vaik\u0105, su besiskleid\u017eian\u010dia asmenybe. Kas n\u0117ra lengva nei t\u0117vams, nei pa\u010diam vaikui.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jau ne kart\u0105 ra\u0161iau, kad nesu tikra ar \u0161iuo l\u016b\u017eio momentu b\u016b\u010diau t\u0119susi vaik\u0173 ugdym\u0105 \u0161eimoje, jeigu ne vyro ir draug\u0173 palaikymas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u0161 vienos pus\u0117s labai atsakingai ir su dideliu noru pri\u0117miau mamos – ugdytojos vaidmen\u012f ir nor\u0117jau j\u012f t\u0119sti, bet tame l\u016b\u017eio ta\u0161ke nor\u0117josi ir pasiduoti d\u0117l keli\u0173 prie\u017eas\u010di\u0173:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2043 aplinkini\u0173 spaudimas, kritika;<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– ne\u017einojimas, kad noro prislopimas yra nat\u016bralus gamtos procesas;<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2043 padid\u0117jusi vaik\u0173 poreiki\u0173 amplitud\u0117, kuri reikalavo t\u0119stinio, tikro pa\u017eintinio proceso (kas b\u016bdinga alfa kartos vaikams), kas ver\u010dia rimtai tuo u\u017esiimti ir skirti nema\u017eai laiko, kilo abejon\u0117s ar sugeb\u0117siu, ne\u017einojimas kuria krypimi jud\u0117ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Su aplinkini\u0173 spaudimu pad\u0117jo susitvarkyti vyras. Jo \u017eod\u017eiai – man did\u017eiausias palaikymas, kur\u012f jausdama galiu ,,kalnus nuversti\u201d \ud83e\udd2b\u263a\ufe0f Taigi, nusprend\u017eiau rimtai rinktis aplink\u0105, kuri supa mane: ,,tavo aplinka \u0161iandien – tai tu rytoj\u201d. A\u0161 pasirinkau vengti pokalbi\u0173 ar net \u017emoni\u0173, kurie \u017eemina tai, k\u0105 darome. Bandymas vienas kit\u0105 \u012ftikinti, kad ka\u017ekuri pus\u0117 yra geresn\u0117 u\u017e kit\u0105 niekur nepriveda, tik prie dar didesn\u0117s kritikos, neigiam\u0173 min\u010di\u0173 ir susiskaldymo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Atsiradus gan nema\u017eai erdv\u0117s mano gyvenime, palaipsniui j\u0105 u\u017epildo \u017emon\u0117s, kurie turi pana\u0161ius siekius kaip m\u016bs\u0173, tad yra labai stipri aplinka, kaskart motyvuojanti siekti to, ko taip norisi giliai \u0161irdyje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Per laik\u0105 i\u0161siai\u0161kinau, kad vaiko ir mamos santykis, poreikiai, siekiai ir l\u016bkes\u010diai kinta. Tad mokausi b\u016bti lanksti, derintis prie vykstan\u010dio proceso, nors dalis man\u0119s nor\u0117t\u0173 susdabdyti akimirk\u0105, kai vaikas dar ma\u017eytis \ud83d\ude48.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
O d\u0117l vaik\u0173 poreiki\u0173\u2026tai taip, tenka vis labiau derintis prie j\u0173, kartu su jais ar vienai naktimis, kai visi miega, ie\u0161koti originali\u0173 sprendim\u0173. Pripa\u017einsiu, ne visada tai darau savo noru, kartais labai labai turiu suimti save \u012f rankas, bet tik tod\u0117l, kad \u017einau, jog likimas mums dav\u0117 ir duoda visus reikiamus \u012frankius, kad savo vaikus u\u017eaugintume s\u0105moningais \u017dmon\u0117mis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir kai man \u0161\u012f siek\u012f primena kiti, tada visos mano pastangos tampa kaip kuras siekti dar daugiau, pajausti vaikus dar labiau ir atrasti b\u016bd\u0173 kaip \u010dia mums visiems susigaudyti \u0161iame pasaulyje, ko i\u0161 \u017emogaus nori gamta, link kur vystosi ar tur\u0117t\u0173 vystytis \u017emogus. Klausim\u0173 begalo daug, \u012f kuriuos atsakymus galiu gauti tik aplinkoje, kuriai r\u016bpi tavo ateitis, kuriai r\u016bpi tikrasis tu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Labai noriu sukurti toki\u0105 aplink\u0105 vaikams, an\u016bkams, pron\u016bkiams\u2026 ir net jei kartais visai n\u0117ra noro to daryti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P.S. \u010cia viskas visai kaip su svorio metimo dieta. Ne visada lengva ar norisi riboti save, bet galvoje besisukantis rezultatas motyvuoja nepasiduoti. O dar kai ir aplinkiniai tave palaiko, o ne gundo, tada 100% tiki savo s\u0117kme \ud83e\udd1d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Prad\u0117siu nuo pavyzd\u017eio, kuris galb\u016bt mums jau akivaizdus – \u012fsimyl\u0117jimas. Sutikus savo antr\u0105j\u0105 pus\u0119 u\u017elieja neapsakoma hormon\u0173 audra. Mes \u017einome, kad tai tik impulsas, duotas \u017emogui i\u0161 gamtos keleriems metams, o v\u0117liau jau partneriai patys turi statyti santykius. Gamta nat\u016braliai \u017emogi\u0161k\u0173j\u0173 santyki\u0173 nebevysto. Taip pat yra ir su vaik\u0173 ugdymu. 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Sutikus savo antr\u0105j\u0105 pus\u0119 u\u017elieja neapsakoma hormon\u0173 audra. Mes \u017einome, kad tai tik impulsas, duotas \u017emogui i\u0161 gamtos keleriems metams, o v\u0117liau jau partneriai patys turi statyti santykius. Gamta nat\u016braliai \u017emogi\u0161k\u0173j\u0173 santyki\u0173 nebevysto. Taip pat yra ir su vaik\u0173 ugdymu. 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