Viena da\u017eniausiai mano kartot\u0173 klaid\u0173 (bent jau pirmuosius dvejet\u0105 met\u0173) buvo galvojimas, kad ma\u017eas vaikas privalo sugeb\u0117ti atsirinkti kas gera ir teisinga, o kas ne. A\u0161 sukuriu jam ,,pagund\u0105\u201d, o jis turi pasirinkti mano variant\u0105 (ir dar teising\u0105). V\u0117liau suvokiau, kad toks elgesys i\u0161 mano pus\u0117s n\u0117ra savaranki\u0161kos asmenyb\u0117s aukl\u0117jimas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gerai \u017einomas pavyzdys – rozet\u0117. Vilioja ji vaik\u0105 labai labai, nors \u0161imtus kart\u0173 sakyta, kad pavojinga ir pan. Neveikia. Jis prie jos braunasi ir viskas. Sprendimas? Kaip sakoma: ,,Nestatyk kli\u016b\u010di\u0173 prie\u0161 akl\u0105j\u012f\u201d. Kitaip tariant, padaryk taip, kad rozet\u0117s (kli\u016bties) n\u0117 neb\u016bt\u0173 vaiko (aklojo) akyse!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ma\u017eas vaikas dar nepaj\u0117gus atskirti kas yra mums teisinga, gerai, o kas ne. Jis \u017eino tik vien\u0105 krypt\u012f – noriu. Juos veda toks stiprus pa\u017einimo noras, kad jie nieko nemato, bei negirdi. Tad reik\u0117t\u0173 vaikui palengvinti \u0161\u012f jo augimo proces\u0105 ir nesukurti provokuojan\u010di\u0173 situacij\u0173, kuriose vaikas vistiek nebus paj\u0117gus pasirinkti. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Vaikams reikalinga saugi aplinka, kurioje jie dr\u0105siai, pagal savo am\u017ei\u0173, gali tyrin\u0117ti pasaul\u012f ir save.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Taigi, vienas i\u0161 svarbi\u0173 princip\u0173 – ma\u017eam vaikui neduoti dviej\u0173 variant\u0173 ir liepti rinktis vien\u0105 (geresn\u012f). V\u0117liau, kai vaikas paaugs, taisykl\u0117s keisis ir mes palaipsniui \u012fvesime pasirinkimo galimybi\u0173. Bet viskas savo laiku ir savo vietoje. Kantryb\u0117s \ud83d\ude4f\ud83c\udffb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dar vienas principas, gim\u0119s i\u0161 ugdymo \u0161eimoje praktikos – tai jeigu norime, kad vaikas augt\u0173 savaranki\u0161kas, laisvas, k\u016brybi\u0161kas, turime neriboti to, nepavogti galimybi\u0173 jam pa\u010diam suvokti ir atrasti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kart\u0105 su vaikais smaginom\u0117s vaik\u0173 \u017eaidimo aik\u0161tel\u0117je. At\u0117jo mo\u010diut\u0117 su an\u016bku. Ji atsis\u0117do ant suolelio, jis nub\u0117go susipa\u017einti su nauja aik\u0161tele. Prib\u0117go prie vieno \u012frenginio ir visaip sukin\u0117ja, vyksta procesas, m\u0105sto kaip veikia \u0161is daiktas. Staiga, i\u0161girstu kaip ateina mo\u010diut\u0117 ir susako visas instrukcijas kaip \u012flipti, kaip suktis ir kaip i\u0161lipti. Pamok\u0117. Viskas kaip gerai. O kaip atrodyt\u0173 situacija, jeigu a\u0161 siekiu, kad mano vaikas i\u0161laisvint\u0173 k\u016brtbi\u0161kum\u0105, i\u0161mokt\u0173 pats priimti sprendimus? Tada a\u0161 jam leid\u017eiu pa\u010diam paplu\u0161\u0117ti ir atrasti kaip veikia \u0161itas daiktas. Leid\u017eiu pasinervuoti jeigu reikia. Pamotyvuoti nepasiduoti, svarbu, kad jis \u012fprast\u0173 savaranki\u0161kai priimti sprendimus, kuriais pats did\u017eiuosis.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Tai labai daug pastang\u0173 reikalaujantis principas, nes i\u0161 meil\u0117s taip norisi pad\u0117ti. O pasirodo, kad kartais did\u017eiausia pagalba yra nesiki\u0161imas \u012f vykstant\u012f proces\u0105, o tik buvimas \u0161alia ir palaikymas. Da\u017enai atsargiai reikia elgtis net ir su savo nuomon\u0117s i\u0161sakymu, kuri gali labai greitai demotyvuoti vaik\u0105 siekti atrasti savo viet\u0105 po saule. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Stipriausiai turb\u016bt veikia principas, kai vaikas jau nuo pirm\u0173j\u0173 dien\u0173 priimamas kaip individuali, unikali asmenyb\u0117. Ne vaiko statusu, bet \u017emogaus. Mani\u0161kiai vaikai tiesiog pra\u017eysta, kai sugebame parodyti jiems, kad j\u0173 nuomon\u0117 svarbi visai \u0161eimai, kad jie svarbi sudedamoji dalis ir j\u0173 ind\u0117lis reikalingas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u0161 vienos pus\u0117s vystome kiekvieno nario unikalum\u0105, leisdami jam atsiskleisti, vystyti potencial\u0105 ir tapti vis labiau savaranki\u0161kais, suvokian\u010diais kas atsakingas u\u017e j\u0173 veiksmus, jausmus, o i\u0161 kitos pus\u0117s vertiname ir svarbiname individ\u0173 ind\u0117l\u012f \u012f \u0161eim\u0105, kaip bendr\u0105 darin\u012f tarp m\u016bs\u0173. Nors dar tai tik m\u016bs\u0173 kelion\u0117s prad\u017eia link \u0161io siekio, bet mes jau pakeliui ir tikiu, kad toks derinys yra s\u0117km\u0117s garantas bet kuriai \u0161eimai.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Viena da\u017eniausiai mano kartot\u0173 klaid\u0173 (bent jau pirmuosius dvejet\u0105 met\u0173) buvo galvojimas, kad ma\u017eas vaikas privalo sugeb\u0117ti atsirinkti kas gera ir teisinga, o kas ne. A\u0161 sukuriu jam ,,pagund\u0105\u201d, o jis turi pasirinkti mano variant\u0105 (ir dar teising\u0105). V\u0117liau suvokiau, kad toks elgesys i\u0161 mano pus\u0117s n\u0117ra savaranki\u0161kos asmenyb\u0117s aukl\u0117jimas. Gerai \u017einomas pavyzdys – rozet\u0117. 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A\u0161 sukuriu jam ,,pagund\u0105\u201d, o jis turi pasirinkti mano variant\u0105 (ir dar teising\u0105). V\u0117liau suvokiau, kad toks elgesys i\u0161 mano pus\u0117s n\u0117ra savaranki\u0161kos asmenyb\u0117s aukl\u0117jimas. 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