A\u0161 ir Jis. Du skirtingi pasauliai, skirtinga prigimtis, poreikiai, norai ir l\u016bkes\u010diai. Bet mes kartu. Ir kaskart siekiame vis gilesnio, tvaresnio ry\u0161io.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bet gamtoje egzistuoja \u012fdomus d\u0117snis: viskas nuolat kinta. \u0160iandien mes jau\u010diam\u0117s artimi vienas kitam, o rytoj jau kaip du svetimi \u017emon\u0117s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kod\u0117l?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vos tik bandome suart\u0117ti vienas su kitu – i\u0161ry\u0161k\u0117ja m\u016bs\u0173 skirtumai, \u012fvyksta susid\u016brimas, atmetimas, neapykanta, nepasitenkinimas, nesusipratimai. Ir viskas tik d\u0117l to, kad mes esame skirtingi ir nemokame priimti t\u0173 skirtum\u0173 tinkamai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Norintiems i\u0161laikyti santykius – \u0161iame etape prasideda tikra k\u016bryba. Tarpusavio supratimo, gilesnio ry\u0161io statymas vir\u0161 i\u0161kilusio konflikto.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Prad\u0117ti reik\u0117t\u0173 nuo suvokimo, kad konfliktas yra geras dalykas, vedantis mus prie stipresnio ry\u0161io.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jeigu n\u0117ra konflikt\u0173 – vadinasi ka\u017ekas yra negerai. Santykiai yra statomi b\u016btent vir\u0161 nesusipratim\u0173, nesusikalb\u0117jim\u0173 ir pan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
B\u016bdami abu skirtingi mes mokom\u0117s pa\u017einti savo bei partnerio prigimt\u012f ir kaip pastatyti tilt\u0105, jungiant\u012f m\u016bs\u0173 prie\u0161ybes. Taigi, konfliktas ir yra viena i\u0161 priemoni\u0173, parodanti vir\u0161 ko t\u0105 tilt\u0105 turime statyti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Priimti konflikt\u0105 kaip dovan\u0105 ar galimyb\u0119 dar labiau suart\u0117ti yra velni\u0161kai sunku. Da\u017eniausiai stabdo i\u0161didumas, noras \u012frodyti savo ,,ties\u0105\u201d, sav\u0119s gail\u0117jimasis ir pan. Ir tai normalu, \u017emogus toks yra. Ta\u010diau toks kelias labai greitai nutolina dvi, viena kitos siekian\u010dias, \u0161irdis. Atsiranda ka\u017ekoks blokas ar stabdis, kuris neleid\u017eia \u017eengti pirmo \u017eingsnelio, nusileisti ar palaikyti partner\u012f. Taigi, nor\u0117dami jausti vienas kit\u0105 ar\u010diau ir ar\u010diau kartais turime save paspausti ,,per j\u0117g\u0105\u201d pasistengti vardan m\u016bs\u0173 santyki\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mes esame labai skirtingi ir kiekvienas \u012fveikiame dalykus savaip. Bet man taip patiko i\u0161 kit\u0173 moter\u0173 i\u0161girstos patirtys, kurios visada \u012fkv\u0117pia. Galb\u016bt atrasite ka\u017ek\u0105 ir sau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vienas i\u0161 toki\u0173 pavyzd\u017ei\u0173 yra nuolatos kurti savyje \u017emonos, kokia noriu b\u016bti vaizdin\u012f. Prie\u0161 akis i\u0161keltas vaizdinys da\u017enai ,,i\u0161traukia\u201d tave i\u0161 u\u017eburto rato savyje ir leid\u017eia pa\u017evelgti \u012f santykius i\u0161 pauk\u0161\u010dio skryd\u017eio ir nu\u0161vie\u010dia keli\u0105, kur visgi siekiu eiti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u012evertinti santykius be emocij\u0173 ar kaltinim\u0173 padeda ir baim\u0117 netekti esam\u0173 santyki\u0173. \u010cia kaip investicijos banke: kuo daugiau suinvestuoji, tuo labiau bijai prarasti. Tad norint i\u0161laikyti meil\u0119, reikia pasir\u016bpinti, kad ir baim\u0117s jausmas b\u016bt\u0173 \u0161alia. Da\u017enai \u017emon\u0117s ima vertinti tik netek\u0119.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Padeda ir pauz\u0117, atsitraukimas, susilaikymas. Da\u017eniausiai po kurio laiko \u012f t\u0105 pat\u012f dalyk\u0105 \u017evelgiame visai kitaip.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Svarbu kilus konfliktui neskub\u0117ti ai\u0161kintis kas teisus, o kas kaltas. Geriau savo priekai\u0161tus susira\u0161yti ant popieriaus lapo ir, kai jau v\u0117l b\u016bsime ram\u016bs, aptarti kas nutiko, kod\u0117l nesuaikalb\u0117jome. Tokiu atveju pri\u0117jimas prie situacijos yra i\u0161 meil\u0117s. Kartais pasitaiko, kad temos vistiek b\u016bna jautrios vienam ar kitam partneriui, tad reik\u0117t\u0173 dar atid\u0117ti aptatim\u0105 kol bus galima pa\u017evelgti \u012f situacij\u0105 ramiai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Svarbiausia, kad abiej\u0173 partneri\u0173 tikslas b\u016bt\u0173 tvar\u016bs, gil\u016bs, artimi santykiai. Tada pats likimas juos abu ves pro nuostabi\u0105 kelion\u0119, kurioje jie pa\u017eins ne tik save, kit\u0105, bet ir vis\u0105 palet\u0119 niuns\u0173 santykiuose tarp \u017emoni\u0173.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
A\u0161 ir Jis. Du skirtingi pasauliai, skirtinga prigimtis, poreikiai, norai ir l\u016bkes\u010diai. Bet mes kartu. Ir kaskart siekiame vis gilesnio, tvaresnio ry\u0161io. Bet gamtoje egzistuoja \u012fdomus d\u0117snis: viskas nuolat kinta. \u0160iandien mes jau\u010diam\u0117s artimi vienas kitam, o rytoj jau kaip du svetimi \u017emon\u0117s. Kod\u0117l? Vos tik bandome suart\u0117ti vienas su kitu – i\u0161ry\u0161k\u0117ja m\u016bs\u0173 skirtumai, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":10503,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[44],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10507","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vyrai-moterys-santuoka-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/dd46bbd1-3700-495d-8d3e-d627cee21385.jpg",800,400,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/dd46bbd1-3700-495d-8d3e-d627cee21385-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/dd46bbd1-3700-495d-8d3e-d627cee21385-300x150.jpg",300,150,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/dd46bbd1-3700-495d-8d3e-d627cee21385-768x384.jpg",768,384,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/dd46bbd1-3700-495d-8d3e-d627cee21385.jpg",800,400,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/dd46bbd1-3700-495d-8d3e-d627cee21385.jpg",800,400,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/dd46bbd1-3700-495d-8d3e-d627cee21385.jpg",800,400,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"A\u0161 ir Jis. 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