{"id":10571,"date":"2021-09-03T08:30:00","date_gmt":"2021-09-03T05:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=10571"},"modified":"2021-09-01T12:05:29","modified_gmt":"2021-09-01T09:05:29","slug":"savivoka-ir-santykiai","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/savivoka-ir-santykiai\/","title":{"rendered":"SAVIVOKA IR SANTYKIAI"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Pirmas \u017eingsnelis s\u0117kming\u0173 santyki\u0173 link &#8211; sav\u0119s pa\u017einimas. Kas a\u0161 esu? Kokia mano prigimtis? Koks yra m\u016bs\u0173 vidinis mechanizmas, priver\u010diantis mus tiks\u0117ti?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jeigu a\u0161 suprasiu save, tai galb\u016bt suprasiu ir kitus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Taigi, kas yra \u017emogus? Jau ne paslaptis, kad \u017emogaus vidinis mechanizmas yra noras gauti maksimal\u0173 malonum\u0105, \u012fdedant minimaliai pastang\u0173. Mes visi norime jaustis gerai, m\u0117gautis gyvenimu. Norime, kad kiti \u017emon\u0117s mus myl\u0117t\u0173, gerbt\u0173, vertint\u0173. Ir tikrai nenorime jausti ka\u017eko tr\u016bkum\u0105 ar b\u016bti \u012fskaudinti. Toks yra pagrindinis \u017emogus prigimties d\u0117snis. Ir kiekvienas turime tok\u012f vidin\u012f mechanizm\u0105, kur\u012f galima vadinti ego arba ,,A\u0161\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mumyse egzistuoja tarsi nor\u0173 skal\u0117, kuri apima pa\u010dius bazinius norus, kaip maistas, sekas, \u0161eima, ir auk\u0161tesnio i\u0161sivystymo norus kaip pinigai, garb\u0117, vald\u017eia ar \u017einios. Kiekviename i\u0161 m\u016bs\u0173 egzistuoja skirtingos t\u0173 nor\u0173 kombinacijos. Pavyzd\u017eiui, vienas gyvena \u0161eimos, buities noruose, o kitas trok\u0161ta vald\u017eios. Tai ir padaro mus unikalius.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ta\u010diau tos nor\u0173 kombinacijos nuolat kinta, stipr\u0117ja. Vos tik \u012fgyvendiname vien\u0105 nor\u0105, netrukus j\u012f pakei\u010dia kitas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>O kas vyksta santykiuose?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u010cia turime du \u017emones, kurie yra visi\u0161kai skirtingi, bet abu nori jaustis laimingi ir u\u017epildyti. Dvi visi\u0161kai skirtingos sistemos, nuolat atsinaujinan\u010dios ir judan\u010dios skirtingomis kryptimis. Tai kaip \u0161ie du subjektai susijungia ir i\u0161silaiko viename kelyje?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tie, kas gali atsakyti \u012f \u0161\u012f klausim\u0105 yra pusiaukelyje link tvaraus ry\u0161io.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ties\u0105 pasakius, tai yra vis\u0173 problem\u0173 santykiuose prie\u017eastis. Apie tai kalba ne vienas specialistas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Visa paslaptis &#8211; mums tik reikia surasti t\u0105 pat\u012f malonumo \u0161altin\u012f, aplink kur\u012f gal\u0117sime b\u016bti kaip vienas. Tai bus bendra erdv\u0117 tarp m\u016bs\u0173, kuri taps m\u016bs\u0173 santyki\u0173 centru, egzistuojan\u010diu vir\u0161 vis\u0173 m\u016bs\u0173 asmenini\u0173 nor\u0173, dr\u0105skan\u010di\u0173 mus \u012f skirtingas puses. \u0160i bendra erdv\u0117 tarp m\u016bs\u0173 bus auginama tik bendru noru myl\u0117ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kaip mes auginame t\u0105 bendr\u0105 nor\u0105?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pirmiausia, reikia pripa\u017einti sau, kad esame du egoistai, su savo individualiais nor\u0173 rinkiniais, kurie mus tempia \u012f skirtingas puses. Bet prad\u0117j\u0119 pasteb\u0117ti tai, galime pa\u017einti savo prigimt\u012f ir mokytis rinktis kitaip.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jau nebe valdomiems emocij\u0173, instinkt\u0173, kit\u0173 nuomoni\u0173 ir t.t..<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Vietoj to, kad leisim\u0117s valdomi savo automatini\u0173 reakcij\u0173, gal\u0117sime i\u0161likti kartu vir\u0161 j\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Svarbu pabr\u0117\u017eti, kad supykti, jausti agresij\u0105 ar tiesiog tur\u0117ti ego yra normalu. Ir kuo daugiau kalbame su partneriu apie tai kaip normal\u0173 rei\u0161kin\u012f, tuo lengviau jausim\u0117s paleid\u0119 t\u0105 vidin\u012f spaudim\u0105, kur\u012f sukuriame patys sau, bandydami pasl\u0117pti tai, kas vyksta mumyse nat\u016braliai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u0161 praktikos galiu pasakyti, kad tai yra raktas \u012f naujus, gilesnius santykius.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"820\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2809\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti.jpg 820w, https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti-300x132.jpg 300w, https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti-768x337.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 820px) 100vw, 820px\" \/><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Pirmas \u017eingsnelis s\u0117kming\u0173 santyki\u0173 link &#8211; sav\u0119s pa\u017einimas. Kas a\u0161 esu? Kokia mano prigimtis? Koks yra m\u016bs\u0173 vidinis mechanizmas, priver\u010diantis mus tiks\u0117ti? Jeigu a\u0161 suprasiu save, tai galb\u016bt suprasiu ir kitus. Taigi, kas yra \u017emogus? Jau ne paslaptis, kad \u017emogaus vidinis mechanizmas yra noras gauti maksimal\u0173 malonum\u0105, \u012fdedant minimaliai pastang\u0173. Mes visi norime jaustis gerai, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":10573,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[43,44],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10571","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moteris-mama-straipsniai","category-vyrai-moterys-santuoka-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/16e66a9c-5299-4e06-ab9b-2d80f07761db.jpg",800,400,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/16e66a9c-5299-4e06-ab9b-2d80f07761db-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/16e66a9c-5299-4e06-ab9b-2d80f07761db-300x150.jpg",300,150,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/16e66a9c-5299-4e06-ab9b-2d80f07761db-768x384.jpg",768,384,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/16e66a9c-5299-4e06-ab9b-2d80f07761db.jpg",800,400,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/16e66a9c-5299-4e06-ab9b-2d80f07761db.jpg",800,400,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/16e66a9c-5299-4e06-ab9b-2d80f07761db.jpg",800,400,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Pirmas \u017eingsnelis s\u0117kming\u0173 santyki\u0173 link &#8211; sav\u0119s pa\u017einimas. Kas a\u0161 esu? Kokia mano prigimtis? Koks yra m\u016bs\u0173 vidinis mechanizmas, priver\u010diantis mus tiks\u0117ti? Jeigu a\u0161 suprasiu save, tai galb\u016bt suprasiu ir kitus. Taigi, kas yra \u017emogus? Jau ne paslaptis, kad \u017emogaus vidinis mechanizmas yra noras gauti maksimal\u0173 malonum\u0105, \u012fdedant minimaliai pastang\u0173. 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