\u0160iais laikai jau turb\u016bt visi akivaizd\u017eiai jau\u010diame atotr\u016bk\u012f tarp kart\u0173. Vis sunkiau ir sunkiau suprasti ko nori, kuo gyvena m\u016bs\u0173 vaikai. Jeigu anks\u010diau atotr\u016bkis buvo laikomas 25 metai, tai dabar ta riba suma\u017e\u0117jo iki 5-10 met\u0173. \u012esivaizduojate kokiu grei\u010diu viskas kei\u010diasi? Kas \u017eino, galb\u016bt tas tarpas dar suma\u017e\u0117s ir bus dar sud\u0117tingiau suprasti vieniems kitus ir komunikuoti\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Problema ta, kad viskas nura\u0161oma faktui, jog kartas skiria tik technologijos. \u010cia ir baigiasi daugumos t\u0117v\u0173 paie\u0161kos. Bet a\u0161 \u017evelgdama \u012f savo vaikus, matau, jog technologijos tai tik ledkalnio vir\u0161\u016bn\u0117. Yra kur kas gilesni dalykai, kuri\u0173 nematome.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Abi kartos gyvena visai skirtinguose pasaulyje. \u0160iuolaikiniai vaikai gim\u0117 kardinaliai kitokioje epochoje negu mes. J\u0173 pasaulio suvokimas visai kitoks negu m\u016bs\u0173. J\u0173 net darbo specifika ir pob\u016bdis bus kitokie negu mes \u012fprat\u0119 matyti de\u0161imtme\u010dius ir kam juos bandome paruo\u0161ti \u0161iandien.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nepaisant to, prie\u017eastis kod\u0117l apie tai ra\u0161au – mes norime palaikyti ry\u0161\u012f ir \u0161i atsiverianti problema mus tik ver\u010dia ie\u0161koti tinkam\u0173 b\u016bd\u0173 kaip sujungti dvi kartas. Kas yra gerai. Net labai gerai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dar viena problema, kad vis dar galvojame, kad \u017einome ko reikia jaun\u0105jai kartai ir kad galime ka\u017ekaip j\u0105 perlau\u017eti savo \u017einiomis. Kitaip sakant, padaryti \u017emon\u0117mis. Jau prie\u0161 3000 met\u0173 \u0161altiniuose buvo ra\u0161oma kokia ned\u0117kinga karta auga, tad nenuostabu, kad ir \u0161iandien norime i\u0161aukl\u0117ti jaunim\u0105 tinkamai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
O i\u0161 ties\u0173 tai nieko nereikia keisti. T\u0117vams ne\u012fmanoma suprasti savo vaik\u0173, o vaikams – t\u0117v\u0173. Kaip jau min\u0117jau, mes gyvename skirtinguose pasauliuose. Tod\u0117l a\u0161 jau nustojau d\u0117ti pastangas \u0161ia kryptimi. Bet pasukau kita – bendro ta\u0161ko ie\u0161kojimo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0160iandieninis atotr\u016bkis tarp kart\u0173 yra tarsi u\u017etvara, siena. Tai ne kalba, technogijos ar intelektas, bet tai visko suvokimas, pri\u0117mimas, vertinimas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tai tarsi rozet\u0117 ir ki\u0161tukas. Dvi skirtingai veikiantys dalykai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir kaip padaryti taip, kad tarp j\u0173 vykt\u0173 komunikacija?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tai problema, apie kuri\u0105 t\u0117vai tur\u0117t\u0173 kalb\u0117tis su savo vaikais. Tai bendra vis\u0173 problema. \u012e mus \u012fd\u0117tos skirtingos programos, tarp kuri\u0173 turi atsirasti ka\u017ekas bendro, ka\u017ekas jungian\u010dio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir vienintelis toks jungiantis dalykas yra meil\u0117, kuri u\u017epildo visas spragas, kuri palieka atotr\u016bk\u012f antrame plane, jis tampa nebesvarbus, mat noras suprasti kit\u0105 i\u0161kyla \u012f priek\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Meil\u0117, apie kuri\u0105 ra\u0161au, n\u0117ra lepinimas. Tai gerai apskai\u010diuoti veiksmai vaiko at\u017evilgiu, nuolatinis bandymas b\u016bti \u0161alia vaiko, palaikyti j\u012f, br\u0117\u017eti ribas. Tai t\u0117v\u0173 siekis b\u016bti vaikui gerais, kad jis jaust\u0173, jog yra mylimas. Tai savo po\u017ei\u016brio koks yra pasaulis atid\u0117jimas \u012f \u0161al\u012f ir klausymas be jokios kritikos ko nori jaunoji karta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tad norint \u012fne\u0161ti pokyt\u012f, reikia \u012fne\u0161ti nauj\u0105 po\u017ei\u016br\u012f. Be \u017eod\u017ei\u0173, be moral\u0173, bet leisti vaikams patiems mokytis i\u0161 gyvenimo, o mums tik kurti aplink juos tinkam\u0105 aplink\u0105, kad vaikai augt\u0173 patys kaip gimdoje, neatitol\u0119 nuo gamtos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir jeigu manysime, kad savo \u017eod\u017eiais, i\u0161didum\u0105 juos palau\u0161ime – efektas bus prie\u0161ingas. Veikdami su j\u0117ga, grie\u017etai galime tik sugadinti vaiko gyvenim\u0105. Ir tai nuli\u016bdins mus. Norime b\u016bti laimingi? Turime veikti pagal gamtos d\u0117snius. O juose tik meil\u0117 sklinda i\u0161 auk\u0161tesnio (t\u0117v\u0173) \u012f \u017eemesn\u012f (vaik\u0105). Kaip, kad vanduo nat\u016braliai teka visada \u017eemyn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tod\u0117l mokausi aukl\u0117ti vaikus su meile, duodama visko, ko jiems reikia. Kad dar kita karta (mano an\u016bkai) jau gyvent\u0173 apsupti meil\u0117s. Ir tai yra viskas, k\u0105 \u0161iandien gali duoti t\u0117vai savo vaikams. Jeigu n\u0117ra meil\u0117s – n\u0117ra ir kuro vystytis. Vaikas turi jausti, kad juo r\u016bpinasi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir pasikartosiu, kad meil\u0117 tai nera lepinimas, vaiko u\u017egaid\u0173 tenkinimas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vaikas turi suvokti, kad mes esame beribiai meil\u0117s jam vamzdeliai, bet kraniukas tai jo rankose. Jeigu elgiasi netinkamai, mes jam atsakome tuo pa\u010diu. Jis tarsi pats savo elgesiu reguliuoja t\u0117v\u0173 meil\u0117s jam lyg\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir toks dviej\u0173 kart\u0173 nuolatinis tarpusavio \u017eaidimas juos ir sujungia. \u012e tai nukreiptos mano paj\u0117gos – ie\u0161koti ar net kurti bendr\u0105 ta\u0161k\u0105, kuriame gal\u0117t\u0173 komunikuoti, kad ir \u0161imtas kart\u0173!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Oj kaip saldu burnoje pasidar\u0117 nuo tokio siekio :))) <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u0160iais laikai jau turb\u016bt visi akivaizd\u017eiai jau\u010diame atotr\u016bk\u012f tarp kart\u0173. Vis sunkiau ir sunkiau suprasti ko nori, kuo gyvena m\u016bs\u0173 vaikai. Jeigu anks\u010diau atotr\u016bkis buvo laikomas 25 metai, tai dabar ta riba suma\u017e\u0117jo iki 5-10 met\u0173. \u012esivaizduojate kokiu grei\u010diu viskas kei\u010diasi? 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