Vakaras. Draug\u0117s skambutis. Ji parke. Viena. ,,Kas nutiko?\u201d klausiu. O ji: ,,Esu parke. Jau\u010diu, kad i\u0161nykstu. Nieko ypatingo nenutiko, tiesiog rutina, spaudimas i\u0161 vis\u0173 pusi\u0173 baigia mane pribaigti, stumia i\u0161 pusiausvyros, man reikia \u012fkv\u0117pti tyro oro.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u017dinojau, kad ji tur\u0117jo omenyje ne deguon\u012f, o ka\u017ek\u0105 tokio, kas sugr\u0105\u017eint\u0173 j\u0105 \u012f vidin\u0119 pusiausvyr\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Puikiai supratau k\u0105 ji i\u0161gyvena, bet buvo taip sunku parinkti tinkamus \u017eod\u017eius. Ir ne d\u0117l to, kad ne\u017einojau k\u0105 pasakyti, bet d\u0117l to, kad tokioje b\u016bsenoje yra begalo sunku ka\u017ek\u0105 i\u0161girsti. Nors ir reikalingas palaikymas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dauguma \u017emoni\u0173 \u0161iandien jau\u010diasi pana\u0161iai. Atrodo, verdi puode ir n\u0117ra kam u\u017esukti liepsnos. Ne\u017einai nei kiek laiko virsi, nei kas su bus tavimi. Visur jauti spaudim\u0105: darbe, namuose, net gatv\u0117je! Norisi pab\u0117gti kuo toliau nuo vis\u0173 \u017emoni\u0173, kurie tau sukelia tokius jausmus ir ,,\u012fkv\u0117pti tyro oro\u201d. O pab\u0117g\u0119s suvoki, kad tai irgi neteikia laim\u0117s. Prie\u0161ingai, jautiesi dar vieni\u0161esn\u0117.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Manau, kad labai da\u017enai moters gyvenime u\u017epl\u016bsta sunkumas \u0161irdyje, kai atrodo visiems duodi (savo \u0161eimai, namams, darbui), bet negauni nieko atgal. Tada ir ima tr\u016bkti ,,oro\u201d. Dr\u0105sko i\u0161 vidaus. Nebe\u017einai k\u0105 daryti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir ji turi teis\u0119 taip jaustis. Jos aplinkoje tarp \u017emoni\u0173 n\u0117ra bendrumo, priklausomyb\u0117s vienai vietai, susitarimui ar tikslui jausmo. Ji did\u017ei\u0105j\u0105 dal\u012f darb\u0173 atlieka viena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir tai labai lengvai galima pasitikrinti. Kai jau\u010diame, jog kiti priima tavo pastangas ir jas vertina, tada bet koks darbas teikia d\u017eiaugsmo. Nes yra abipusis ry\u0161ys.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tik b\u0117da ta, kad tokios savyb\u0117s (tinkamai priimti, kad suteiktum d\u017eiaugsmo kitam) \u017emogus neturi. \u0160ito reikia mokytis ir \u0161eima puiki vietel\u0117 prad\u017eiai. Mat joje ry\u0161kiausiai ir pajau\u010diame to bendro jausmo tr\u016bkum\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pavyzd\u017eiui, vyro ir \u017emonos santykiuose. Kiekvienas galvoja, kad duoda kitam, bet atgal nieko negauna. D\u0117l to kyla priekai\u0161tai, nepasitenkinimas ir konfliktai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
O jeigu tik sugeb\u0117tume abu tinkamai r\u016bpintis ir priimti kito r\u016bpest\u012f vardan m\u016bs\u0173 ry\u0161io, tada nebekilt\u0173 t\u0173 neigiam\u0173 jausm\u0173. Taip pat yra ir su vaikais. Reikalingas bendra ,,duodu – imu\u201d ir ,,imu-duodu\u201d sistema. Matome, kad \u0161iandien jau niekas neatperka m\u016bs\u0173 pastang\u0173, nebent tinkamas kit\u0173 po\u017ei\u016bris \u012f mane. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Akivaizdu, kad to pasiekti nepavyks be tinkamo aukl\u0117jimo. Mes \u0161eimoje stengiam\u0117s statyti bendrumo jausm\u0105 ir nauj\u0105 santyki\u0173 sistem\u0105 tarp vis\u0173 \u0161eimos nari\u0173. Juk i\u0161 esm\u0117s \u0161eima ir yra bendras darinys tarp m\u016bs\u0173, kuriame egzistuoja tarpusavio pagalba, supratimas, meil\u0117. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kuomet a\u0161 r\u016bpinuosi \u0161eima ir matau, jog kiti nariai ja irgi r\u016bpinasi – man tai pats did\u017eiausias d\u017eiaugmas. Tada nieko nebereikia, ,,kv\u0117puoju\u201d atvira krutine! <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tik kad tas mechanizmas – \u0161eima – nuolatos veikt\u0173, j\u012f reikia pri\u017ei\u016br\u0117ti, kartais u\u017ekurti i\u0161 naujo, pra\u0161yti pagalbos ir nepamir\u0161ti juo naudotis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P.S. O kol mokom\u0117s kaip viskas tarp m\u016bs\u0173 veikia, skanios kavos tylumoje parke \u2026 arba ten, kur galima rasti vidin\u0119 pusiausvyr\u0105 \ud83e\udd70<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Vakaras. Draug\u0117s skambutis. Ji parke. Viena. ,,Kas nutiko?\u201d klausiu. O ji: ,,Esu parke. Jau\u010diu, kad i\u0161nykstu. Nieko ypatingo nenutiko, tiesiog rutina, spaudimas i\u0161 vis\u0173 pusi\u0173 baigia mane pribaigti, stumia i\u0161 pusiausvyros, man reikia \u012fkv\u0117pti tyro oro.\u201c \u017dinojau, kad ji tur\u0117jo omenyje ne deguon\u012f, o ka\u017ek\u0105 tokio, kas sugr\u0105\u017eint\u0173 j\u0105 \u012f vidin\u0119 pusiausvyr\u0105. 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Draug\u0117s skambutis. Ji parke. Viena. ,,Kas nutiko?\u201d klausiu. O ji: ,,Esu parke. Jau\u010diu, kad i\u0161nykstu. Nieko ypatingo nenutiko, tiesiog rutina, spaudimas i\u0161 vis\u0173 pusi\u0173 baigia mane pribaigti, stumia i\u0161 pusiausvyros, man reikia \u012fkv\u0117pti tyro oro.\u201c \u017dinojau, kad ji tur\u0117jo omenyje ne deguon\u012f, o ka\u017ek\u0105 tokio, kas sugr\u0105\u017eint\u0173 j\u0105 \u012f vidin\u0119 pusiausvyr\u0105. 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