{"id":11488,"date":"2021-11-05T00:47:09","date_gmt":"2021-11-04T22:47:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=11488"},"modified":"2021-11-05T00:51:37","modified_gmt":"2021-11-04T22:51:37","slug":"kai-noriu-daugiau-negu-galiu-sumoketi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/kai-noriu-daugiau-negu-galiu-sumoketi\/","title":{"rendered":"KAI NORIU DAUGIAU NEGU GALIU SUMOK\u0116TI"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Nesu labai didel\u0117 ekonomikos \u017einov\u0117, bet kasdien matau kaip finansiniai reikalai \u012ftakoja \u017emoni\u0173 tarpusavio santykius. Ne vienoje \u0161eimoje kyla barniai susij\u0119 su pinigais. Nors ir abu partneriai stengiasi juos u\u017edirbti, bet visuomen\u0117s tempai tokie mil\u017eini\u0161ki, kad tiesiog ne\u012fmanoma sp\u0117ti gyventi taip, kaip gyvena kiti. Tur\u0117ti to, k\u0105 turi kiti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pamenu, ka\u017ekada skai\u010diau knyg\u0105 apie i\u0161laid\u0173 planavim\u0105 (nepamenu pavadinimo) ir joje autorius pasidalino viena i\u0161 savo paslap\u010di\u0173, kaip sutaupyti pinig\u0173 &#8211; pinigin\u0117je, matomoje vietoje ne\u0161iotis kortel\u0119 su u\u017era\u0161u: ,,Ar tikrai tau to reikia?\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Psichologinis momentas, kuris tam tikr\u0105 laiko period\u0105 tikrai veikia. Bet ilgai atsilaikyti nepavyksta, nes kylantys norai taip atakuoja, kad nebesusigaudai reikia man to ar nereikia, tiesiog noriu ir tiek. Ir b\u0117da ta, kad norime tur\u0117ti visk\u0105, k\u0105 matome aplink (o matome labai daug) ir tam mums vis tr\u016bksta pinig\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>O dar kai \u0161eimoje du ar trys vaikai, vyras ir \u017emona, kiekvienas su savo norais ir reikalavimais..? Taip ir parne\u0161ame namo vidin\u0119 \u012ftamp\u0105. Tada \u0161eimoje atsiranda priekai\u0161tai kitiems (da\u017eniausiai antr\u0105jai pusei), kad jie ka\u017ek\u0105 daryt\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>O pagalbos rank\u0105 da\u017eniausiai i\u0161tiesia kreditin\u0117 kortel\u0117. Ta\u010diau taip problema nedingsta: kit\u0105 dien\u0105 v\u0117l matome kaip visuomen\u0117je atsiranda nauj\u0173 dalyk\u0173 ir v\u0117l norime j\u0173, tada v\u0117l tenka skolintis ir gyvename tarsi u\u017eburtame rate, i\u0161 kurio ne\u012fmanoma i\u0161tr\u016bkti, nes aplink veikia tokios galingos sistemos, kurios nenori palikti tau laisvai rinktis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ra\u0161au apie tai, nes tai gana svarbus momentas ne tik santykiuose tarp sutuoktini\u0173, bet ir vaik\u0173 aukl\u0117jime.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Vaikams svarbu i\u0161siugdyti savyje suvokim\u0105, kad gyvenime teks riboti tam tikrus norus, teks patiems viskam u\u017esidirbti. Tod\u0117l jau dabar jie turi tai \u017einoti ir mokytis tam, \u012fgyti specialyb\u0119 ir gyventi su tuo, k\u0105 realiai turi savo ki\u0161en\u0117je.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0160eima, aklai siekdama viso, k\u0105 mato visuomen\u0117je, nebus laiminga, nes t\u0117v\u0173 galvos bus nuolat u\u017eimtos mintimis apie pinigus, o vaikai bepaliavos reikalaus vis brangesni\u0173 ,,\u017eaisliuk\u0173\u201d. Tada t\u0117vai, nor\u0117dami, kad vaikai jaust\u0173 j\u0173 meil\u0119, bandys kompensuoti d\u0117mesio stok\u0105 pinigais, o vaikai taip i\u0161leps, kad visai nevertins ry\u0161io su t\u0117vais, nes jie net ne\u017einos kokia yra tikroji meil\u0117. Didel\u0117 tikimyb\u0117, kad ir patys vaikai ateityje paseks t\u0117v\u0173 p\u0117domis, nes alternatyvaus varianto ne\u017eino.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>O ar galime pasakyti ,,STOP! NORIU KITOKIO GYVENIMO. NORIU LAIMINGOS \u0160EIMOS\u201d?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Imu tik\u0117ti, kad taip. Yra antra \u0161io rei\u0161kinio pus\u0117 ir ji man kvepia laime\u2026Nors kaina &#8211; did\u017eiul\u0117. Tik \u010dia jau reikia mok\u0117ti ne pinigais, o pastangomis. Bet rezultatas &#8211; laiminga \u0161eima.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>O kokia yra laiminga \u0161eima?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tai \u0161eima, kuri nuo pat prad\u017ei\u0173 nusprend\u017eia, kad ji laikysis tam tikro bendro susitarimo, b\u016bdingo tik jai. Tai \u0161eima, kuri supranta, kad nor\u0117dami b\u016bti laimingi, jie privalo kartu ka\u017ekaip ,,ap\u017eaisti\u201d tuos begalinius norus tur\u0117ti visk\u0105, m\u0117gd\u017eioti visuomen\u0119. Tai \u0161eima, kuri ie\u0161kos savo individualimo pagal savo galimybes. Tik tokiu b\u016bdu ji gali i\u0161tr\u016bkti i\u0161 visuomen\u0117s spaudimo, i\u0161silaisvinti i\u0161 vidin\u0117s \u012ftampos ir prad\u0117ti gyventi d\u0117l tikr\u0173 \u0161eimos poreiki\u0173 ir vienas d\u0117l kito.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tai n\u0117ra lengva nei t\u0117vams, nei vaikams. Ta\u010diau logi\u0161kai m\u0105stant, jeigu gyvename tik taip, u\u017e k\u0105 galime sumok\u0117ti, tada nebereikia nuolat skolintis i\u0161 banko, kad padengtume perteklinius, gal net ir dirbtinai su\u017eadintus norus. Paseka to, nebekyla stresas, kad reikia vienam va\u017eiuoti ka\u017ekur, papildomai dirbti naktimis, pervargti, atsiskirti, jaudintis\u2026 Mes tada galime susikoncentruoti ties savo \u0161eimos ,,burbulo\u201d b\u016btinais poreikiais, susitaikyti su faktu, kad turime tik tiek, kiek u\u017edirbame ir privalome \u012ftilpti \u012f tai. Ir svarbiausia, jau\u010diame, kad kuo labiau ribosime save vardan m\u016bs\u0173 susitarimo, tuo labiau jausim\u0117s partneriai \u0161eimoje ir \u0161i vidin\u0117 pilnatv\u0117 padengs visus i\u0161orinius nepatenkintus norus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ar tai \u012fmanoma? Ne\u017einau. Bet bandyti performuoti \u0161iandienos m\u0105stym\u0105 tikrai verta, jeigu noriu i\u0161sivaduoti i\u0161 vidin\u0117s \u012ftampos, kuri\u0105 galiausiai nukreipiu \u012f \u017emones, kuriuos myliu labiausiai ir d\u0117l to labai ken\u010diu. Ir ken\u010diu daug labiau negu nenusipirkusi dar vienos naujos suknel\u0117s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nemanau, kad pinigai yra ka\u017ekas blogai. Mums j\u0173 reikia. Tai m\u016bs\u0173 egzistencijai reikalingas dalykas, tik klausimas kiek ir k\u0105 mes paaukojame d\u0117l \u012fvairi\u0173 i\u0161laid\u0173, kurios gal\u0117t\u0173 palaukti arba n\u0117ra b\u016btinos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Akivaizdu, kad gyvenimas mus ver\u010dia rinktis &#8211; t\u0119sti gyvenim\u0105 toliau pagal visuomen\u0117s diktuojam\u0105 ritm\u0105 ar ie\u0161koti savo \u0161eimai priimtino gyvenimo b\u016bdo, kuris mus i\u0161laikyt\u0173 kartu ir suteikt\u0173 vaikams realaus pagrindo j\u0173 atei\u010diai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pasirinkimas m\u016bs\u0173 rankose \ud83d\udda4.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Nesu labai didel\u0117 ekonomikos \u017einov\u0117, bet kasdien matau kaip finansiniai reikalai \u012ftakoja \u017emoni\u0173 tarpusavio santykius. Ne vienoje \u0161eimoje kyla barniai susij\u0119 su pinigais. Nors ir abu partneriai stengiasi juos u\u017edirbti, bet visuomen\u0117s tempai tokie mil\u017eini\u0161ki, kad tiesiog ne\u012fmanoma sp\u0117ti gyventi taip, kaip gyvena kiti. Tur\u0117ti to, k\u0105 turi kiti. Pamenu, ka\u017ekada skai\u010diau knyg\u0105 apie i\u0161laid\u0173 [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":11487,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11488","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vaiku-auklejimas-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/9622cafc-89eb-4be1-bc05-d0df2c3bb318-scaled.jpg",2560,1280,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/9622cafc-89eb-4be1-bc05-d0df2c3bb318-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/9622cafc-89eb-4be1-bc05-d0df2c3bb318-300x150.jpg",300,150,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/9622cafc-89eb-4be1-bc05-d0df2c3bb318-768x384.jpg",768,384,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/9622cafc-89eb-4be1-bc05-d0df2c3bb318-1024x512.jpg",1024,512,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/9622cafc-89eb-4be1-bc05-d0df2c3bb318-1536x768.jpg",1536,768,true],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/9622cafc-89eb-4be1-bc05-d0df2c3bb318-2048x1024.jpg",2048,1024,true]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Nesu labai didel\u0117 ekonomikos \u017einov\u0117, bet kasdien matau kaip finansiniai reikalai \u012ftakoja \u017emoni\u0173 tarpusavio santykius. 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