Neseniai su keliomis draug\u0117mis tur\u0117jome \u012fdomu pokalb\u012f apie m\u016bs\u0173 vaik\u0173 pripa\u017einim\u0105 ir nepripa\u017einim\u0105 kit\u0173 vaik\u0173 akyse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Galb\u016bt tai nesijau\u010dia kaip problema, kol vaikai ma\u017ei, bet v\u0117liau tikrai mus ima neraminti kod\u0117l vieni vaikai noriai bendrauja su m\u016bs\u0173 vaikais, o kiti – vengia ar net u\u017egaulioja. Paseka to vaikai jau\u010diasi negerai, pradeda nuolaid\u017eiauti kitiems, stengiasi \u012ftikti ir praranda tikruosius save.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u0161 viso pokalbio su draug\u0117mis pasidariau sau tokias i\u0161vadas, kad pirmiausia patys t\u0117vai turi apsispr\u0119sti kokiai socialiniai grupei save priskiria. Ir \u012f koki\u0105 grup\u0119 kreipia vaikus. Da\u017enai kyla vidinis konfliktas pa\u010dioje \u0161eimoje, pavyzd\u017eiui, kuomet t\u0117vai nori ir spaud\u017eia vaikus gerai mokytis, o kai vaikai pasineria \u012f moksl\u0105 ir atranda tame d\u017eiaugsm\u0105, tada t\u0117vai ,,apsiver\u010dia\u201d ir ima kritikuoti kod\u0117l vaikas n\u0117ra klas\u0117s ,,stipruolis\u201d, per ilgai s\u0117di prie knyg\u0173, taps moksliukas ir pan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Esm\u0117 tame, kad t\u0117vai netur\u0117t\u0173 keisti savo pa\u017ei\u016br\u0173 pagal vyraujan\u010dias tendencijas. Tai klaidinas vaikus. Ver\u010diau, atradus kas vaik\u0105 domina i\u0161 ties\u0173, nuosekliai kurti aplink j\u012f toki\u0105 aplink\u0105, per kuri\u0105 vystytusi jo asmenyb\u0117.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dar vienas esminis dalykas – \u017emogus pas\u0105moningai nori, kad visi apie j\u012f kalb\u0117t\u0173 gerai. Bet praktikoje matome, kad tiesiog ne\u012fmanoma \u012ftikti visiems. Ne\u012fmanoma b\u016bti visur populiariu, m\u0117giamu. Visada atsiras toki\u0173, kurie galvos prie\u0161ingai nei tu ir t.t. Tad antras dalykas, k\u0105 i\u0161 draugi\u0173 patirties supratau, jog vaikams svarbu \u017einoti \u017emogaus prigimt\u012f ir m\u016bs\u0173 komunikavimo principus. Viskas labai paprasta – kada a\u0161 esu m\u0117giama?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kada esu naudinga. Naudinga bet kokia forma: palaikau kito mint\u012f, galiu duoti ka\u017ek\u0105, padaryti, atne\u0161u peln\u0105, pritariu id\u0117jai arba tiesiog turiu ka\u017ek\u0105, kas kitam patinka, suteikia ger\u0105 jausm\u0105 b\u016bnant \u0161alia (kas irgi yra nauda).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kitu atveju, a\u0161 nesu naudinga ir su manimi draugauti n\u0117ra prasm\u0117s. O jeigu dar ir mano po\u017ei\u016bris \u012f gyvenim\u0105 kardinaliai kitoks – tai norisi b\u0117gti kuo toliau nuo man\u0119s. Patys matome kas vyksta pasaulyje\u2026 B\u016btent toks atrankos b\u016bdas egzistuoja tarp \u017emoni\u0173. Mes, suaug\u0119, dar visa tai gerai u\u017emaskuojame, o vaikai – pati \u017eiauriausia visuomen\u0117s dalis, kuri nieko neslepia ir akivaizd\u017eiai demonstruoja \u0161\u012f d\u0117sn\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir galb\u016bt nieko su tuo ir negaliu padaryti, bet jeigu a\u0161 tai b\u016b\u010diau \u017einojusi, kai buvau vaikas, tikrai b\u016b\u010diau sutaupiusi daug energijos ir nesibla\u0161kiusi ten, kur nieko \u012ftakoti vistiek neb\u016b\u010diau gal\u0117jusi. Ypa\u010d paauglyst\u0117je tiek a\u0161ar\u0173 i\u0161lieta d\u0117l to, kad ,,populiariosios\u201d merginos nepriima man\u0119s \u012f savo kompanij\u0105, mat neatitikau kriterij\u0173: tur\u0117jau r\u016bkyti, gauti leidim\u0105 i\u0161 t\u0117v\u0173 naktimis negr\u012f\u017eti namo ir pan. \u0160iandien tai atrodo kitaip, negu kai tau 15 ir visi sako, kad turi b\u016bti ,,kieta\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Taigi, ap\u0117jusi rat\u0105, gr\u012f\u017etu prie to, kad visgi svarbiausia, jog vaikas \u017einot\u0173 kokiai socialiniai grupei priklauso ar nori priklausyti ir jaust\u0173 \u0161eimos palaikym\u0105 savo apsisprendime. Nebijot\u0173 ka\u017ekuriose aplinkose b\u016bti nepopuliarus, gudriai \u017eaist\u0173 su \u017emogaus prigimtimi, \u017einodamas, kad ir jam tam tikri \u017emon\u0117s ateityje gali b\u016bti reikalingi, tod\u0117l ir pats \u012f visk\u0105 \u017ei\u016br\u0117t\u0173 lanks\u010diai. Mok\u0117t\u0173 atsirinkti draugus pagal savo vertybes ir po\u017ei\u016br\u012f \u012f gyvenim\u0105, ir jaust\u0173 u\u017etikrintum\u0105, kad vardan populiarumo nei\u0161duoda tikrojo sav\u0119s ir savo gyvenimo tiksl\u0173. Ir vis daugiau pastebiu toki\u0173 vaik\u0173, kurie ry\u017etasi dr\u0105siai ie\u0161koti sav\u0119s. Tik vieni prasiver\u017eia netik\u0117tom kryptim, o kitus susdabdo t\u0117vai, bijodami, kad j\u0173 vaiko nepripa\u017eins, jis bus kitoks, jis bus nenormalus. Tai \u010dia ir gimsta klausimai visai \u0161eimai – kas mes ir kokie \u017emon\u0117s norime kad mus supt\u0173?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Neseniai su keliomis draug\u0117mis tur\u0117jome \u012fdomu pokalb\u012f apie m\u016bs\u0173 vaik\u0173 pripa\u017einim\u0105 ir nepripa\u017einim\u0105 kit\u0173 vaik\u0173 akyse. Galb\u016bt tai nesijau\u010dia kaip problema, kol vaikai ma\u017ei, bet v\u0117liau tikrai mus ima neraminti kod\u0117l vieni vaikai noriai bendrauja su m\u016bs\u0173 vaikais, o kiti – vengia ar net u\u017egaulioja. Paseka to vaikai jau\u010diasi negerai, pradeda nuolaid\u017eiauti kitiems, stengiasi \u012ftikti […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":11626,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11627","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vaiku-auklejimas-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/16ed8f4a-bfac-4bcd-ad2c-a82e63e73f39.jpg",800,400,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/16ed8f4a-bfac-4bcd-ad2c-a82e63e73f39-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/16ed8f4a-bfac-4bcd-ad2c-a82e63e73f39-300x150.jpg",300,150,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/16ed8f4a-bfac-4bcd-ad2c-a82e63e73f39-768x384.jpg",768,384,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/16ed8f4a-bfac-4bcd-ad2c-a82e63e73f39.jpg",800,400,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/16ed8f4a-bfac-4bcd-ad2c-a82e63e73f39.jpg",800,400,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/16ed8f4a-bfac-4bcd-ad2c-a82e63e73f39.jpg",800,400,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Neseniai su keliomis draug\u0117mis tur\u0117jome \u012fdomu pokalb\u012f apie m\u016bs\u0173 vaik\u0173 pripa\u017einim\u0105 ir nepripa\u017einim\u0105 kit\u0173 vaik\u0173 akyse. 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