Neseniai su vyru aptikome dar vien\u0105 labai svarb\u0173 dalyk\u0105 vaik\u0173 aukl\u0117jime, kur\u012f tiesiog turime perduoti savo vaikams. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nekart ra\u0161iau, kad \u0161iuolaikiniai vaikai pasaul\u012f suvokia kitaip negu mes, tod\u0117l ir veikia jame kitaip. Ir \u010dia labai reikalingos m\u016bs\u0173 pastangos juos integruoti \u012f gyvenim\u0105 taip, kad jie kuo ma\u017eiau i\u0161stumt\u0173 kitus \u017emones i\u0161 j\u0173 komforto zonos ir patys jaust\u0173si gerai. Kod\u0117l? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nes \u0161iandien tiesiog tr\u016bksta tarpusavio pagarbos. Neseniai draugai dalinosi nemalonia patirtimi kaip sve\u010diuose apsilank\u0119 j\u0173 giminai\u010diai su vaikais padar\u0117 nema\u017eai materialios \u017ealos. Kol t\u0117vai \u0161neku\u010diavosi, vaikai ,,nuleido gar\u0105\u201d, darydami visk\u0105, kas j\u0173 namuose draud\u017eiama: \u0161okin\u0117jimas ant lovos, sien\u0173 tepliojimas, triuk\u0161mas, visi\u0161ka ,,laisv\u0117\u201d vidiniam \u017ev\u0117riui ir t\u0117v\u0173 abejingumas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Per didel\u0117 t\u0117v\u0173 vaikams suteikta laisv\u0117 da\u017enai priveda vaikus prie kenksmingo elgesio ir, svarbiausia, jie gal net nesuvokia, jog tai blogai ir yra visuomen\u0117je nepriimtina. Niekas jiems to nepasako, o jei ir pasako kokia teta gatv\u0117je, bandydama peraukl\u0117ti svetim\u0105 vaik\u0105, vaikai jos negirdi. Nes kalb\u0117ti reikia ne su vaikais, o j\u0173 t\u0117vais. O \u0161it\u0105 da\u017enai irgi norima apeiti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kart\u0105 viename seminare apie vaik\u0173 aukl\u0117jim\u0105 i\u0161girdau nuostabi\u0105 fraz\u0119: ,,Vaikas padar\u0117 ka\u017ek\u0105 netinkamai? Kaltas ne jis, o t\u0117vai, kad ,,ne\u012fra\u0161\u0117\u201d tinkamos programos kaip elgtis tokioje situacijoj<\/em>e ir vaikas elg\u0117si kaip jam atrod\u0117 gerai tuo metu.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Taigi, da\u017enai vaikai elgiasi nederamai, nes arba ne\u017eino kaip elgtis, arba mato tok\u012f suaugusi\u0173j\u0173 elges\u012f ir j\u012f atkartoja. O ir \u0161iandien t\u0117vams sunku net u\u017esiminti, kad j\u0173 vaikas ka\u017ek\u0105 nepriimtino padar\u0117. Tai labai opi problema visoje visuomen\u0117je. <\/p>\n\n\n\n O kai pagalvoju, kad ka\u017ekada tie vaikai bus suaug\u0119 ir savo pavyzd\u017eiu mokys kitas kartas… Ne\u017einau kaip jums, bet man norisi sustabdyti t\u0105 u\u017eburt\u0105 rat\u0105 ir kiek pavyksta vaikuose suformuoti po\u017ei\u016br\u012f, kad gyvenime reikia b\u016bti lanks\u010diam, prisiderinti prie situacijos ir nuolat visk\u0105 tikrinti i\u0161 naujo. Svarbu \u017einoti, kad \u017emoni\u0173 nuomon\u0117s da\u017enai kinta (pagal naujus norus, nuotaik\u0105 ar situacij\u0105) ir kart\u0105 duotas leidimas (pvz. ka\u017ek\u0105 paimti) kit\u0105 kart\u0105 gali nebegalioti. Tik taip galima i\u0161vengti dideli\u0173 skausming\u0173 susid\u016brim\u0173 ateityje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u017dinoma, b\u016bt\u0173 tobula, kad sugeb\u0117tume gyventi laikydamiesi vienos ir tos pa\u010dios nuomon\u0117s, bet steb\u0117dama visuomen\u0119, matau, jog tampa labai sunku nusp\u0117ti \u017emones. Net u\u017esak\u0119s paslaugas negali b\u016bti tikras, kad rangovas nepersigalvos\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n Tai \u012fsivaizduojate kaip sud\u0117tinga m\u016bs\u0173 vaikams suprasti tok\u012f pasaul\u012f? Jokiu b\u016bdu negalime palikti j\u0173 vien\u0173 tame, net jeigu ir patys pavargome nuo visko. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Manau, kad tikrai tik laim\u0117sime, jeigu vaikus aukl\u0117sime taip, kad jie pa\u017eint\u0173 kokia yra \u017emogaus prigimtis, jo m\u0105stymo algoritmas, kas yra netinkamas elgesys visuomen\u0117je ir kokios pas\u0117kmem\u0117s tav\u0119s laukia u\u017e tai, kaip gerbti kit\u0173 \u017emoni\u0173 asmenin\u0119 erdv\u0119 (ar tai b\u016bt\u0173 j\u0173 namai, ar vidinis pasaulis). <\/p>\n\n\n\n Tikrai nelengva u\u017eduotis, bet kito kelio nematau. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Klausimas sau: ,,arba auginame dorus \u017emones, jau\u010dian\u010dius aplink\u0105, arba b\u016bsimus vandalus, kuriems n\u0117ra nieko \u0161venta.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ir \u0161is pasirinkimas galioja kiekvien\u0105 sekund\u0119\u2026 <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Neseniai su vyru aptikome dar vien\u0105 labai svarb\u0173 dalyk\u0105 vaik\u0173 aukl\u0117jime, kur\u012f tiesiog turime perduoti savo vaikams. Nekart ra\u0161iau, kad \u0161iuolaikiniai vaikai pasaul\u012f suvokia kitaip negu mes, tod\u0117l ir veikia jame kitaip. Ir \u010dia labai reikalingos m\u016bs\u0173 pastangos juos integruoti \u012f gyvenim\u0105 taip, kad jie kuo ma\u017eiau i\u0161stumt\u0173 kitus \u017emones i\u0161 j\u0173 komforto zonos ir […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":11740,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11741","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vaiku-auklejimas-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/c6492d94-4232-4f50-bc20-532870674c96.jpg",800,400,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/c6492d94-4232-4f50-bc20-532870674c96-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/c6492d94-4232-4f50-bc20-532870674c96-300x150.jpg",300,150,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/c6492d94-4232-4f50-bc20-532870674c96-768x384.jpg",768,384,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/c6492d94-4232-4f50-bc20-532870674c96.jpg",800,400,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/c6492d94-4232-4f50-bc20-532870674c96.jpg",800,400,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/c6492d94-4232-4f50-bc20-532870674c96.jpg",800,400,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Neseniai su vyru aptikome dar vien\u0105 labai svarb\u0173 dalyk\u0105 vaik\u0173 aukl\u0117jime, kur\u012f tiesiog turime perduoti savo vaikams. 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