{"id":12416,"date":"2022-01-13T23:18:09","date_gmt":"2022-01-13T21:18:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=12416"},"modified":"2022-01-19T21:24:19","modified_gmt":"2022-01-19T19:24:19","slug":"ar-mane-kazkada-supras","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/ar-mane-kazkada-supras\/","title":{"rendered":"AR MANE KADA NORS SUPRAS?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Santykiuose da\u017eniausiai sumai\u0161t\u012f kelia ne\u017einojamas esminio dalyko – kiekvienas \u017emogus pasaul\u012f vertina unikaliu, tik jam suvokiamu b\u016bdu ir n\u0117ra dviej\u0173 vienodai m\u0105stan\u010di\u0173 \u017emoni\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Savo elgesyje man gal ir sunku tai pasteb\u0117ti, bet labai da\u017enai matau tai santykiuose tarp vaik\u0173. Jiems tiesiog misija ne\u012fmanoma priimti kito nuomon\u0119, id\u0117j\u0105, kito \u012fg\u016bd\u017ei\u0173 lygmen\u012f, ar net am\u017ei\u0173!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u0161 vienos pus\u0117s, tas nesugeb\u0117jimas priimti kit\u0105 \u017emog\u0173 atrodo tikra problema (kartais net katastrofa!), bet i\u0161 kitos pus\u0117s – d\u017eiaugiuosi tai atrasdama, nes b\u016btent tai ir yra vis\u0173 m\u016bs\u0173 problem\u0173 ir nes\u0117kmi\u0173 prie\u017eastis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kas nenori b\u016bti suprastas? I\u0161girstas? Priimtas? \u012evertintas? O \u010dia dar gyvenime kaip specialiai vis pasikartoja situacijos, kuriose jauti, kad kiti \u017emon\u0117s tav\u0119s nesupranta, ne\u012fvertina, netgi tave mato visai kitokiam vaizdinyj negu tu i\u0161 tikro esi. Ir toks komunikavimas ne tik, kad nieko naujo nevysto, bet ir ,,g\u0119sina\u201d esam\u0105 ry\u0161\u012f. O be jo \u017emog\u0173 greit u\u017epl\u016bsta vienatv\u0117s jausmas\u2026 kas to nori?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tas klausimas mane neramina jau seniai, nes tikrai bendraujant sukelia daug sunkum\u0173: tu sakai vien\u0105, o tau atsako visai kit\u0105 (pavyzd\u017eiui, tu sakai, kad nevalgai kiaulienos, o tau atr\u0117\u017eia ,,tai tu vegetar\u0117?\u201d). Gal ir smulkmenos, bet jos kaskart pastato plyt\u0105 tarp man\u0119s ir kito \u017emogaus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Galima, \u017einoma, nekreipti d\u0117mesio, apeiti tuos \u017emones ar nuomones, bet tokiu b\u016bdu nepajud\u0117sime pirmyn, nepakeisime savo dabartini\u0173 byran\u010di\u0173 santyki\u0173 \u012f naujos kokyb\u0117s, tvarius ir laim\u0119 suteikian\u010dius.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u0105 daryti? Mokytis. \u010cia labai svarb\u0173 vaidmen\u012f vaidina aukl\u0117jimas. Tiek visuomen\u0117s, tiek individo. Mes, kaip visuomen\u0117, nemokame priimti kiekvieno individo tokio, koks jis yra, o kiekvienas individas irgi nori gyventi tik sau, atsiskyr\u0119s nuo visuomen\u0117s, nepaisydamas bendr\u0173 susitarim\u0173. U\u017eburtas ratas, kuriame sukam\u0117s daug met\u0173 ir niekaip negalime sustoti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mums reikia pasiekti balanso, nes a\u0161, kaip individas, negaliu gyventi tik savo nor\u0173, svajoni\u0173, poreiki\u0173 burbule ir nuolatos reik\u0161ti nepasitenkinim\u0105 kitiems, kad jie man ne tik kad nepadeda, bet dar ir trugdo. Lygiai taip pat ir visuomen\u0117 negali man\u0119s versti u\u017eslopinti, atsisakyti to, k\u0105 turiu unikalaus savyje, k\u0105 privalau realizuoti gyvenime ir vietoj viso to versti tapti vieno \u0161ablono kopija.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tam ir reikalingas teisingas tarpusavio \u017emoni\u0173 komunikavimas, kurio turime visgi mokytis. Nat\u016braliai \u017emon\u0117s savyje neturi sugeb\u0117jimo pa\u017evelgti \u012f visk\u0105 kito akimis. Neveltui sakoma, kad negali matyti toliau savo nosies. Taip, negalime. Viskas apsiriboja tuo, ko noriu a\u0161, kad man patinka ir kaip visk\u0105 suvokiu a\u0161.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bet kasdien vis ai\u0161kiau matome, kad senoji m\u0105stymo linija turi baigtis, ji atne\u0161a tik vidin\u012f skausm\u0105, tu\u0161tum\u0105. Tad svarbu prad\u0117ti ie\u0161koti b\u016bd\u0173 kaip pa\u017einti save kaip individ\u0105 (kas a\u0161, ko man reikia, kad b\u016b\u010diau laimingas, k\u0105 galiu ir ar turiu duoti kitiems) ir kaip formuoti visuomen\u0119 taip, kad joje kiekvienas realizuot\u0173 save. Tik tada kiekvienas pajausime, kad mus i\u0161 tikro girdi, supranta ir priima. Tada ir mes gal\u0117sime i\u0161l\u012fsti i\u0161 savo burbulo ,,\u010cia mano\u201d ir prisid\u0117ti prie visuomen\u0117s gerov\u0117s. Ir visuomen\u0117 ne b\u016btinai 7 milijardai, ji gali b\u016bti tarp man\u0119s, mano vyro ir vaik\u0173. \u0160eima – tai mini visuomen\u0117s modelis, kurioje jau galime bandyti suprasti kas tarp m\u016bs\u0173 vyksta ne taip, kod\u0117l ir kuria linkme jud\u0117ti, kad paskutin\u0119 gyvenimo dien\u0105 gal\u0117tume nuo\u0161ird\u017eiai pasakyti: ,,a\u0161 ramus ir laimingas, nes d\u0117l tarpusavio ry\u0161io padariau visk\u0105, kas buvo mano rankose\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Mat kaip \u017einia, dauguma prie\u0161 mirt\u012f prasitaria, kad jau\u010dia, jog nepadar\u0117 ka\u017eko svarbiausio gyvenime, prasmingo, jog per ma\u017eai skyr\u0117 d\u0117mesio \u0161eimai, santykiams, bendravimui, draugystei\u2026)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Santykiuose da\u017eniausiai sumai\u0161t\u012f kelia ne\u017einojamas esminio dalyko – kiekvienas \u017emogus pasaul\u012f vertina unikaliu, tik jam suvokiamu b\u016bdu ir n\u0117ra dviej\u0173 vienodai m\u0105stan\u010di\u0173 \u017emoni\u0173. Savo elgesyje man gal ir sunku tai pasteb\u0117ti, bet labai da\u017enai matau tai santykiuose tarp vaik\u0173. Jiems tiesiog misija ne\u012fmanoma priimti kito nuomon\u0119, id\u0117j\u0105, kito \u012fg\u016bd\u017ei\u0173 lygmen\u012f, ar net am\u017ei\u0173! 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