{"id":12886,"date":"2022-02-23T23:16:46","date_gmt":"2022-02-23T21:16:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=12886"},"modified":"2022-02-23T23:16:46","modified_gmt":"2022-02-23T21:16:46","slug":"nestatyti-kliuciu-pries-aklaji","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/nestatyti-kliuciu-pries-aklaji\/","title":{"rendered":",,NESTATYTI KLI\u016a\u010cI\u0172 PRIE\u0160 AKL\u0104J\u012e\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Arba kod\u0117l svarbu \u012fvertinti vaiko norus ir jo prigimt\u012f.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Da\u017enai mums, t\u0117vams, kyla problem\u0173 su rib\u0173 nustatymu vaikams, autoritetu, vaiko motyvacija, jo elgesiu, nes ne\u012fvertiname \u017emogaus prigimties kaip esminio m\u016bs\u0173 ir vaiko veikimo faktoriaus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Turb\u016bt vaikuose ry\u0161kiausiai matomama \u017emogi\u0161ka savyb\u0117 – nesibaigiantys norai ir j\u0173 pildymas. Neveltui sakoma, kad \u017emogus mir\u0161ta, kai jame neb\u0117ra joki\u0173 nor\u0173. O m\u016bs\u0173 vaikuose j\u0173 kyla tiek daug: jie nori pa\u017einti pasaul\u012f, \u017einoti kaip viskas veikia, jaustis gerai, gauti visk\u0105, ko jie nori\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Egzistuoja toks \u012fsitikinimas, kad t\u0117vai gali priversti vaikus tapti gerais \u017emon\u0117mis, u\u017egniau\u017eiant tam tikrus ,,blogus\u201d norus ir pasirenkant tik ,,gerus\u201d. Bet vaikas dar nesugeba pasirinkti vieno i\u0161 dviej\u0173, jis neturi vertinimo sistemos ,,gerai – blogai\u201d, tod\u0117l reik\u0117t\u0173, kur \u012fmanoma, vengti situacij\u0173, kurios verst\u0173 daryti tai, kas ne\u012fmanoma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pavyzd\u017eiui, ma\u017eas vaikas negali susilaikyti nel\u012fsdamas prie rozet\u0117s. K\u0105 darome mes? Vis kartojame ir kartojame ,,negalima!\u201d (vaikui tai skamba kaip ,,nenor\u0117k\u201d). O kas, jeigu vietoj to, mes ,,pa\u0161alintume\u201d rozet\u0119 (kli\u016bt\u012f) i\u0161 vaiko reg\u0117jimo lauko ir neverstume jo atsispirti savo vidiniam norui, nat\u016braliems instinktams i\u0161siai\u0161kinti kas per dalykas yra tos dvi skylut\u0117s (kas jam ne\u012fmanoma)? Nebelikus dirgikliui, nebelikt\u0173 ir noro. Problema i\u0161pr\u0119sta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kiek kitoks pavyzdys: vaik\u0105 supan\u010dioje aplinkoje visi vaikai turi mobiliuosius telefonus, kuriais \u017eaid\u017eia valand\u0173 valandas ir nuolat apie tai kalba, o mes savo vaikui \u017eaidim\u0173 laik\u0105 ribojame. Tad tokioje aplinkoje vaikas gali jaustis nepripa\u017eintas. Tod\u0117l nat\u016bralu, kad jis mai\u0161taus ir reikalaus i\u0161 t\u0117v\u0173 neribot\u0173 \u017eaidim\u0173. Mes galvosime, kad jis nori \u017eaisti, bet i\u0161 ties\u0173 jo tikrasis noras – b\u016bti pripa\u017eintu savo aplinkoje, pasigirti kitiems k\u0105 \u017eaid\u0117, kaip laim\u0117jo ir pan.. Bet k\u0105 daryti? Prisijaukinti fakt\u0105, kad vaikas nor\u0117s b\u016bti kaip kiti, toks yra d\u0117snis, tad t\u0117vai turi atyd\u017eiai rinkti aplinkas pagal j\u0173 norimas \u012fskiepyti vertybes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar vienas, gerai \u017einomas pavyzdys: ne paslaptis, kad dauguma vaik\u0173 negali atsispirti saldainiams. O t\u0117vai, pasinaudodami j\u0173 silpna vieta, bando ugdyti vali\u0105, pad\u0117dami saldainius vaikams matomoje vietoje ir pra\u0161ydami neimti (beje saldainius dar ir suskai\u010diuoja, kad \u012fsitikinti ar vaikas slapta j\u0173 ,,nevagia\u201d). Hm.. Ar vaikas paj\u0117gus atsispirti savo vidiniam norui? Ne. O mes dar visk\u0105 apsunkiname pad\u0117dami masal\u0105, kuris dar labiau provokuoja ir reikalauja \u012fveikti savo prigimt\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u012esivaizduokime save\u2026 tikrai yra ka\u017ekas, ko labai labai norime. Ir \u0161tai tas ka\u017ekas atsiranda \u0161alia. Jau atrodo tuoj b\u016bsiu pati laimingiausia, o \u010dia staiga atsiranda u\u017era\u0161as ,,negalima!\u201d. Ne\u017einau kaip j\u016bs, bet a\u0161 100% suk\u010diau planus kaip pasiimti tai, ko taip stipriai noriu. Kur\u012f laik\u0105 mane gal ir sulaikyt\u0173 ka\u017ekokios moral\u0117s normos, \u012fsitikinimai, bet tikiu, kad galiausiai pal\u016b\u017e\u010diau. Nesugeb\u0117\u010diau nugal\u0117ti noro.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u017dmogaus prigimtis – vis ka\u017eko nor\u0117ti ir siekti t\u0173 nor\u0173 u\u017epildymo, bet kokia kaina. Suaugusiam \u017emogui lengviau sur\u016b\u0161iuoti tuos norus, ie\u0161koti k\u0105 su jais daryti, kaip ir kam panaudoti ir pan. Bet vaikai tokio sugeb\u0117jimo neturi. Tod\u0117l organizuojant savo vaikams aplink\u0105, u\u017esi\u0117mimus bei pramogas, stengiuosi \u012fvertinti tai kaip esmin\u012f fakt\u0105 ir pad\u0117ti vaikams suma\u017einant i\u0161orinius dirgiklius, nestatant kli\u016b\u010di\u0173, i\u0161\u0161\u016bki\u0173, ne\u012fmanom\u0173 pasitinkim\u0173, o dedu visas paj\u0117gas, kad jie pa\u017eint\u0173 save, savo vaidmen\u012f visame bendrame paveiksle, pavadinimu ,,Gyvenimas\u201d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Arba kod\u0117l svarbu \u012fvertinti vaiko norus ir jo prigimt\u012f. Da\u017enai mums, t\u0117vams, kyla problem\u0173 su rib\u0173 nustatymu vaikams, autoritetu, vaiko motyvacija, jo elgesiu, nes ne\u012fvertiname \u017emogaus prigimties kaip esminio m\u016bs\u0173 ir vaiko veikimo faktoriaus. Turb\u016bt vaikuose ry\u0161kiausiai matomama \u017emogi\u0161ka savyb\u0117 – nesibaigiantys norai ir j\u0173 pildymas. Neveltui sakoma, kad \u017emogus mir\u0161ta, kai jame neb\u0117ra joki\u0173 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":12885,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12886","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vaiku-auklejimas-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/3c6b5026-988b-4850-9f91-5991481212ac.jpg",800,400,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/3c6b5026-988b-4850-9f91-5991481212ac.jpg",800,400,false],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/3c6b5026-988b-4850-9f91-5991481212ac.jpg",800,400,false],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/3c6b5026-988b-4850-9f91-5991481212ac-768x384.jpg",768,384,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/3c6b5026-988b-4850-9f91-5991481212ac.jpg",800,400,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/3c6b5026-988b-4850-9f91-5991481212ac.jpg",800,400,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/3c6b5026-988b-4850-9f91-5991481212ac.jpg",800,400,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Arba kod\u0117l svarbu \u012fvertinti vaiko norus ir jo prigimt\u012f. 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