Pastaruoju metu mokausi pa\u017evelgti \u012f visk\u0105 kitomis akimis. Ir sekasi \u2026 vidutini\u0161kai. Vis i\u0161lenda ,,i\u0161mintingoji a\u0161\u201d, kuri visk\u0105 i\u0161mano geriausiai. O ypa\u010d kaip aukl\u0117ti vaikus. Kit\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kaip kartais juokauju pati su savimi: ,,Mani vaikai tai \u0161aunus, bet va kaimynai tur\u0117t\u0173 padirb\u0117ti\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u0161 suprantu, kad \u0161i\u0173 dalyk\u0173 kaip ir nekontroliuojame, jie tiesiog gyvena mumyse ir tam tikrose situacijose i\u0161ry\u0161k\u0117ja. Ta\u010diau turiu prie\u0161 akis vaizdin\u012f \u017emogaus, kuris yra lankstus, supratingas, j\u0173 nesmerkia, nemenkina, nes suvokia kod\u0117l \u017emon\u0117s elgiasi taip ir ne kitaip. Noriu to pasiekti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kuo toliau ai\u0161kinuosi kaip b\u016bti tokiu \u017emogumi, tuo labiau suprantu, kad visas gyvenimas toks subtilus. A\u0161 matau labai ma\u017eai tikrojo vaizdo, tod\u0117l negaliu nei tinkamai patarti, nei komentuoti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pavyzd\u017eiui, matau \u017eaidim\u0173 aik\u0161tel\u0117je vaik\u0105 ir mam\u0105. Vaikas stumdo kitus vaikus, cypia, reikalauja d\u0117mesio. Kokia pirma reakcija?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
,,Negi ji nemato, k\u0105 jos vaikas \u010dia i\u0161darin\u0117ja?\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ji mato. Turb\u016bt mir\u0161ta i\u0161 g\u0117dos, \u012ftampos ir aplinkini\u0173 reakcij\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Da\u017enas \u017emogus nesikuklina ir imasi aukl\u0117ti svetim\u0105 vaik\u0105. Juk viskas taip paprasta: tereikia sug\u0117dyti, i\u0161g\u0105sdinti ar duoti saldain\u012f. O kas toliau? O toliau jau nelabai \u012fdomu, nes vaikas lieka su savo mama. Su mama, kuri stebi vaik\u0105 i\u0161tis\u0105 par\u0105. Ji juo gyvena, nemiega naktimis, ie\u0161ko \u012fvairiausi\u0173 b\u016bd\u0173 u\u017emegzti kontakt\u0105 ir susikalb\u0117ti. Galb\u016bt ji net dabar i\u0161bando kok\u012f nauj\u0105 aukl\u0117jimo pratim\u0105. To nesimato, mes ne\u017einome, nepa\u017e\u012fstame to vaiko, bet leid\u017eiame sau kritikuoti ir patarin\u0117ti mamai kaip ji tur\u0117t\u0173 elgtis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Esu ne kart\u0105 buvusi tos mamos ,,nei\u0161manel\u0117s\u201d vietoje, kuomet nepa\u017e\u012fstami \u017emon\u0117s staiga ima aukl\u0117ti mano vaikus pagal savo pa\u017ei\u016bras, bando juos \u012fki\u0161ti \u012f savo pasaulio suvokimo r\u0117mus. Vaikai sutrinka. A\u0161 taip pat. Jausmas nemalonus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tod\u0117l ir bandau i\u0161mokti suvaldyti tai, kas mumyse egzistuoja nat\u016braliai. Noriu leisti kitiems vystytis, neatimti laisvo pasirinkimo. O ir pats aukl\u0117jimas – tai nuolatin\u0117 t\u0117v\u0173 ir vaik\u0173 tarpusavio s\u0105veika, o ne dresiravimas d\u0117l patogumo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mokausi laikyti l\u0117\u017euv\u012f u\u017e dant\u0173, \u012fvertinti bet kokias kit\u0173 pastangas padaryti ateities pasaul\u012f geresniu. Net jeigu tai kardinaliai prie\u0161tarauja mano suvokimui.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Pastaruoju metu mokausi pa\u017evelgti \u012f visk\u0105 kitomis akimis. Ir sekasi \u2026 vidutini\u0161kai. Vis i\u0161lenda ,,i\u0161mintingoji a\u0161\u201d, kuri visk\u0105 i\u0161mano geriausiai. O ypa\u010d kaip aukl\u0117ti vaikus. Kit\u0173. Kaip kartais juokauju pati su savimi: ,,Mani vaikai tai \u0161aunus, bet va kaimynai tur\u0117t\u0173 padirb\u0117ti\u201d. 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