{"id":14061,"date":"2022-09-16T00:01:41","date_gmt":"2022-09-15T21:01:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=14061"},"modified":"2022-09-16T00:02:33","modified_gmt":"2022-09-15T21:02:33","slug":"ugdyti-laisva-asmenybe-ribos-auklejime","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/ugdyti-laisva-asmenybe-ribos-auklejime\/","title":{"rendered":"UGDYTI LAISV\u0104 ASMENYB\u0118 | RIBOS AUKL\u0116JIME"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Daug min\u010di\u0173 sukeliantis klausimas ,,Kiek duoti vaikui laisv\u0117s?&#8221;. Vieningo atsakymo n\u0117ra, nes nevienodai suvokiame kas yra ,,laisv\u0117&#8221; .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pastaraisiais metais vaik\u0173 aukl\u0117jimas labai pasikeit\u0117. Anks\u010diau t\u0117vai vaikams vadovavo ir, jeigu vaikas atsisakydavo vykdyti nurodymus, bausdavo. \u0160iandien kiekvienas t\u0117vas per\u017ei\u016bri savo santykius su vaiku, bando juos kurti kitaip. Ir da\u017eniausiai neriboja vaiko visai, leid\u017eia jam vystytis savaime. Manoma, kad vaikas pats \u017eino ko jis nori ir kas jis yra. T\u0117vams nereikia nieko daryti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Visgi laikausi nuostatos, kad vaikas ne visada supranta, kas jam yra gerai ir blogai. Tikiu, kad jeigu t\u0117vai nori, kad j\u0173 vaikas suaugt\u0173, jie turi jam sukurti tinkam\u0105 socialin\u0119 aplink\u0105 \u2013 toki\u0105, kurioje netgi trimetis ma\u017eylis gaut\u0173 tam tikr\u0173 signal\u0173 i\u0161 aplinkini\u0173, prabudinan\u010di\u0173 j\u012f s\u0105moningai, tikslingai veiklai. O jeigu t\u0117vai augina j\u012f kaip vakuume, nieko nereikalauja ir neai\u0161kina, vaikas nei\u0161moks orientuotis gyvenime, nes nejaus rib\u0173 nei namuose, nei visuomen\u0117je. Toks \u017emogus, i\u0161 pirmo \u017evilgsnio, atrodo ,,laisvas&#8221;, nuo nieko nepriklausantis, darantis k\u0105 nori ir kada nori.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Man patinka posakis: \u201eMa\u017eu gyv\u016bnu gimsta \u017emogus\u201c. Ir palaipsniui, jei mes jo neaukl\u0117jame, jis tampa dideliu gyv\u016bnu. O kad j\u012f i\u0161aukl\u0117tume, visgi reikia taikyti tam tikr\u0105 spaudim\u0105 vystymosi eigoje. Leisti vaikui suprasti, kad darome spaudim\u0105 jame esan\u010dio \u201egyv\u016bno\u201c, o ne \u201e\u017emogaus\u201c at\u017evilgiu. A\u0161 noriu i\u0161vystyti \u017emog\u0173, o gyv\u016bn\u0105 noriu pa\u017eaboti! Be aukl\u0117jimo \u0161is gyv\u016bnas \u2013 laukinis!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Man svarbu, kad vaikas tai \u017einot\u0173. Kad jis jaust\u0173, jog t\u0117vai i\u0161 didel\u0117s meil\u0117s jam riboja ,,laukin\u012f gyv\u016bn\u0105&#8221;, o ,,\u017emogui&#8221; padeda atsiskleisti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>,,Gyv\u016bnas&#8221; \u017emoguje yra ne kas kita, kaip instinktai, kurie u\u017evaldo \u017emog\u0173, tod\u0117l jis n\u0117ra laisvas. O ,,\u017emogus&#8221; &#8211; s\u0105moningai sukurta asmenyb\u0117.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u017dinome, kad \u017emogus &#8211; socialin\u0117 b\u016btyb\u0117 ir vienas pats nei\u0161gyvent\u0173. Jam reikalinga aplinka, i\u0161 kurios jis mokyt\u0173si, j\u0105 valdyt\u0173, jai pavyd\u0117t\u0173, tarnaut\u0173 ir pan.. Kaip gyv\u016bnai turi \u012fvairius jutimo sensorius, padedan\u010dius orientuotis aplinkoje, taip ir \u017emogus turi jausti socialinius ry\u0161ius, ribas, kuri\u0173 geriau neper\u017eengti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Stengiuosi, kad vaik\u0173 aukl\u0117jimas apimt\u0173 \u017emogaus esm\u0119 ir pad\u0117t\u0173 vaikams j\u0105 realizuoti. Pati tai darau ir jau\u010diu, kad \u017einojimas kas esu ir k\u0105 turiu gyvenime nuveikti i\u0161laisvina kur kas labiau, nei ankstesn\u0117s pastangos lau\u017eyti taisykles ir bandyti \u012frodyti kitiems kokia esu ,,laisva&#8221;.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Suprantu, kad tai padaryti sud\u0117tinga. Tai tikras menas, reikalaujantis jautrumo, kantryb\u0117s ir \u017eini\u0173. Bet vaikai neturi nieko artimesnio, kaip mus, j\u0173 t\u0117vus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"820\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2809\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti.jpg 820w, https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti-300x132.jpg 300w, https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti-768x337.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 820px) 100vw, 820px\" \/><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Daug min\u010di\u0173 sukeliantis klausimas ,,Kiek duoti vaikui laisv\u0117s?&#8221;. Vieningo atsakymo n\u0117ra, nes nevienodai suvokiame kas yra ,,laisv\u0117&#8221; . Pastaraisiais metais vaik\u0173 aukl\u0117jimas labai pasikeit\u0117. 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