Taip. Meluoti patiems sau ir gyventi iliuzijoje. Kart\u0105 perskai\u010diau (berods \u0161veicar\u0173 pedagogo A. Farrier) \u017eod\u017eius apie tai, kad vaikai negali vystytis taip, kaip tur\u0117t\u0173, nes egzistuojanti \u0161vietimo sistema juos suvar\u017eo, neatsi\u017evelgdama \u012f \u017emogi\u0161k\u0105j\u0105 prigimt\u012f. A. Farrier ra\u0161\u0117: ,,Vaikas myli gamt\u0105, \u0161tai kod\u0117l jis buvo u\u017edarytas tarp keturi\u0173 sien\u0173. Jis negali nustygti vietoje, o jis buvo priverstas s\u0117d\u0117ti ramiai. Jam patinka kalb\u0117ti – jam \u012fsakyta tyl\u0117ti. Vaikas link\u0119s visk\u0105 tyrin\u0117ti ir liesti rankomis, o jis turi tik\u0117ti teorija ir id\u0117jomis.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
…!Nenuostabu, kad metams b\u0117gant vaikas nustoja b\u016bti kas jis yra ir ima meluoti pats sau… Mane tai lie\u010dia giliai. Visas, v i s a s vaiko gyvenimas tampa iliuzija.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Viskas, ko noriu vaikams – tikro gyvenimo, laisv\u0117s b\u016bti tuo, kas jie turi b\u016bti. Ir sugeb\u0117ti nesiki\u0161ti \u012f j\u0173 likimo kreiv\u0119, drauge su vaiku priimti jos i\u0161\u0161\u016bkius. A\u0161 suprantu, kad vyraujantis vaik\u0173 dresiravimas pagal ,,save” yra patogus mums, ta\u010diau jis pavogia i\u0161 j\u0173 laisv\u0105 vystym\u0105si, galimyb\u0119 atrasti naujus dalykus, naujus d\u0117snius, gal\u0173 gale – pa\u017einti tikr\u0105j\u012f save.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vaikai mokomi tik to, kas naudinga \u017emoni\u0173 visuomenei. Mokomi tik tiek, kiek \u017einome mes. \u0160iandien vaikus pasiekianti informacija yra tokia ribota, perleista per ne\u017einia kieno asmeninius suvokimo filtrus, apipinta savanaudi\u0161kais tikslais, supaprastinta ir, svarbiausia, atitolusi nuo tikros realyb\u0117s, nuo gamtos*.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
(*Ra\u0161ydama ,,gamta”, turiu omenyje ne tik mi\u0161kus, pievas ar pauk\u0161\u010dius, bet vis\u0105, mus supan\u010di\u0173 d\u0117sni\u0173, visum\u0105).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tai, kaip vaikai gali augti laimingi, sveiki, pasitikintys savimi, jeigu vidin\u0117 j\u0173 programa – prigimtis – nuolat prie\u0161tarauja reikalavimams i\u0161 visuomen\u0117s? Mane tikrai g\u0105sdina depresija sergan\u010di\u0173 vaik\u0173 kiekis. Galb\u016bt jis toks tod\u0117l, kad vaikai negauna to ka\u017eko, kas yra u\u017e m\u016bs\u0173 suvokimo rib\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Matau, kad b\u016bsimos kartos turi mil\u017eini\u0161k\u0105 potencial\u0105 pagimdyti pasauliui daug ger\u0173 ir nauding\u0173 permain\u0173, ta\u010diau kol nuo pat ma\u017eens vaikai \u012fspraud\u017eiami \u012f ,,senas” v\u0117\u017eias, tol jie naujo tako nepramins.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Li\u016bdna, bet ne i\u0161 vieno \u017emogaus gird\u0117jau, kad \u0161iandienin\u0117 sistema u\u017edaro vaikus tarsi \u012f individualius kubus, i\u0161 kuri\u0173 vaikai nebegali i\u0161silaisvinti vis\u0105 gyvenim\u0105. Nepadeda nei psichoterapijos, nei kitokios priemon\u0117s. \u010cia vyksta rimti reikalai, \u012f kuriuos reikt\u0173 pa\u017ei\u016br\u0117ti rimtai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vaikai turi augti laisvai. Dalyvauti m\u016bs\u0173 kasdieniame gyvenime, daugiau laiko praleisti su draugais ir mokytojais, kurie padeda per bendrus i\u0161gyvenimus atrasti kas ir kod\u0117l vyksta. Jie tada klausyt\u0173 suaugusi\u0173j\u0173, nes jiems b\u016bt\u0173 \u012fdomu, k\u0105 dar mes pasakysim. Nereikia priki\u0161ti vaik\u0173 galvas \u017einiomis, tai nieko neduoda. Jiems reikia pa\u010diupin\u0117ti, paragauti, paliesti, pajausti tikr\u0105 pasaul\u012f, kuriame jie egzistuoja. Jeigu tik pavykt\u0173 jiems tai suteikti, vaikai be joki\u0173 dideli\u0173 pastang\u0173 \u017einot\u0173 tiek, kiek reikia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gal tokie perversmai ir ne\u012fvyks per nakt\u012f, bet labai l a b a i noriu pabandyti bent truputuk\u0105 prie to priart\u0117ti. Tad jeigu galiu prie to bent kruopel\u0119 prisid\u0117ti, kod\u0117l gi ne. Gerai pagalvojus, k\u0105 jau tokio ypatingo veik\u010diau? \ud83d\ude01<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Taip. Meluoti patiems sau ir gyventi iliuzijoje. Kart\u0105 perskai\u010diau (berods \u0161veicar\u0173 pedagogo A. Farrier) \u017eod\u017eius apie tai, kad vaikai negali vystytis taip, kaip tur\u0117t\u0173, nes egzistuojanti \u0161vietimo sistema juos suvar\u017eo, neatsi\u017evelgdama \u012f \u017emogi\u0161k\u0105j\u0105 prigimt\u012f. A. Farrier ra\u0161\u0117: ,,Vaikas myli gamt\u0105, \u0161tai kod\u0117l jis buvo u\u017edarytas tarp keturi\u0173 sien\u0173. 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Meluoti patiems sau ir gyventi iliuzijoje. Kart\u0105 perskai\u010diau (berods \u0161veicar\u0173 pedagogo A. Farrier) \u017eod\u017eius apie tai, kad vaikai negali vystytis taip, kaip tur\u0117t\u0173, nes egzistuojanti \u0161vietimo sistema juos suvar\u017eo, neatsi\u017evelgdama \u012f \u017emogi\u0161k\u0105j\u0105 prigimt\u012f. A. Farrier ra\u0161\u0117: ,,Vaikas myli gamt\u0105, \u0161tai kod\u0117l jis buvo u\u017edarytas tarp keturi\u0173 sien\u0173. 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