Visiems gerai pa\u017e\u012fstama situacija, kai t\u0117vai vaikams sako vien\u0105, o vaikai i\u0161klauso, bet po to elgiasi visi\u0161kai prie\u0161ingai. Kod\u0117l taip yra? Mat pas\u0105moningai vaikas nori atrasti kitok\u012f, geresn\u012f, sprendim\u0105 negu jam liepta ar patarta daryti. Tai tarsi bandymas gyventi savo gyvenim\u0105, ne t\u0117v\u0173. Nors da\u017enai toks po\u017ei\u016bris nesibaigia s\u0117kmingai, vaikai toliau jo atkakliai laikosi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u0161 kur kyla tas pasiprie\u0161inimas vyresn\u0117ms kartoms? Kaip su tuo susitvarkyti, neki\u0161ant vaikams savo nuomon\u0117s ar kitaip nepakenkiant j\u0173 augimui?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Svarbu \u017einoti vien\u0105 princip\u0105: kai vaikas (\u017emogus) yra pra\u0161omas pasikeisti, tas pra\u0161ymas i\u0161kart j\u012f atstumia, nes \u0161is noras keistis nekilo i\u0161 jo pa\u010dio. Beto, vaikas (\u017emogus) nemato kokios gaus i\u0161 to naudos, tai kam ka\u017ek\u0105 daryti?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir da\u017enu atveju jis teisus, nes gerai pagalvojus, visi patarimai, duodami t\u0117v\u0173, kyla i\u0161 j\u0173 vaikyst\u0117s \u0161ablon\u0173, tod\u0117l jie tinka jiems, bet ne vaikui. Taigi, tie patarimai aptarnauja t\u0117vus, o ne vaik\u0105, tod\u0117l jis pas\u0105moningai j\u0105 ir atmeta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
T\u0117vai giliai \u0161irdyje tikisi, kad vaikas ,,eis” j\u0173 pasirinktu keliu, bent jau perims \u0161eimoje formuojamas vertybes. Akivaizdu, kad tam reikalingas sveikas ir stiprus ry\u0161ys tarp t\u0117v\u0173 ir vaik\u0173. Norint to pasiekti, reikt\u0173 priimti fakt\u0105, kad kiekviena nauja karta gimsta su tik jai b\u016bdingomis naujomis vertyb\u0117mis, kurios ne visada atitinka m\u016bs\u0173 l\u016bkes\u010dius. Ir jeigu ignoruosime \u0161i konflikt\u0105 tarp t\u0117v\u0173 siekio ir naujos kartos vystymosi ypatum\u0173, viskas baigsis pasiprie\u0161inim\u0173 virtine. O to ma\u017eiausiai norisi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nema\u017eai u\u017etruko surasti tilt\u0105 tarp dviej\u0173 skirting\u0173 pusi\u0173, ir tai – nauda (pelnas \ud83d\ude42 ). Vaikas klausys savo t\u0117v\u0173 tik su s\u0105lyga, jei jaus, jog verta klausyti j\u0173 patarim\u0173, nes jam tai atne\u0161 naudos. Kitais \u017eod\u017eiais tariant, jeigu t\u0117vai patars vaikui tai, i\u0161 ko vaikas pamatys, kad jam naudinga pasinaudoti ta informacija, jis pasinaudos ir liks d\u0117kingas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u0161 to labai noriu. Dar nepavyko to pasiekti, bet stipriai dirbu ties tuo, kad prie\u0161 ka\u017ek\u0105 sakydama sav\u0119s paklausiu: ,,K\u0105 konkre\u010diai aptarnauja mano patarimas?”. Kryptis, \u017einomq, vaiko gerov\u0117. Kartais nustembi, kai atsakymas nesutampa \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Saky\u010diau, kad tikras menas nepaversti savo patarim\u0173 \u012f ,,Daryti” ir ,,Nedaryti” s\u0105ra\u0161us, o palyd\u0117ti vaik\u0105 iki ta\u0161ko, kai jis pats savyje atranda k\u0105 turi daryti, o ko ne. Toks principas leid\u017eia vaikui pajausti, jog sprendimai kilo i\u0161 jo vidaus, o ne ka\u017ekieno kito suformuoti ir ki\u0161ami per j\u0117g\u0105. N\u0117ra spaudimo – n\u0117ra ir pasiprie\u0161inimo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nepamir\u0161kime, kad kiekvienas vaikas giliai \u0161irdyje trok\u0161ta tur\u0117ti tikr\u0105 draug\u0105. Ar tai b\u016bt\u0173 brolis, sesuo, ar net t\u0117vai! Taip, vaikas pasiruo\u0161\u0119s tokiems santykiams su savo t\u0117vais. Klausimas, o ar mes pasiruo\u0161\u0119? Ar pasiruo\u0161\u0119 sukurti tikr\u0105 pokalb\u012f su vaiku, sukurti bendr\u0105 pasitik\u0117jimo lauk\u0105, paremt\u0105 ne vald\u017eia ar \u0161love, o tikra draugyste, siekiant bendr\u0173 tiksl\u0173?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Minut\u0117l\u0117 pam\u0105stymui… \ud83d\ude09\ud83d\udcad\u2615\ufe0f<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Visiems gerai pa\u017e\u012fstama situacija, kai t\u0117vai vaikams sako vien\u0105, o vaikai i\u0161klauso, bet po to elgiasi visi\u0161kai prie\u0161ingai. Kod\u0117l taip yra? Mat pas\u0105moningai vaikas nori atrasti kitok\u012f, geresn\u012f, sprendim\u0105 negu jam liepta ar patarta daryti. Tai tarsi bandymas gyventi savo gyvenim\u0105, ne t\u0117v\u0173. Nors da\u017enai toks po\u017ei\u016bris nesibaigia s\u0117kmingai, vaikai toliau jo atkakliai laikosi. 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