Skaitau daug. Labai. Mano savoti\u0161kas hobis – nuolat skenuoti santykius ir u\u017ejautus problem\u0105 – imtis veiksm\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tik vis susiduriu su ta pa\u010dia problema. Atrodo: ,,Na, dabar viskas – veikia, super patarimai”, o u\u017e keli\u0173 dien\u0173, valand\u0173 ar net minu\u010di\u0173 v\u0117l viskas gr\u012f\u017eta atgal. Nusivylimas. Apmaudas. Pyktis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tarsi egzistuoja ka\u017ekoks nematomas \u0161ydas, pro kur\u012f negali prasibrauti ir elgtis kitaip, negu prigimtis tave ver\u010dia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pavyzd\u017eiui, su vaikais. Norisi, kad jie nekonkuruot\u0173, nesibart\u0173, veikt\u0173 i\u0161vien. Susodiname juos kartu, kalbam\u0117s, moralizuojam, galiausiai \u012ftikiname, kad jiems bus naudingiau b\u016bti draugais. Nusiraminame, kai vaikai sutinka su mumis. Juk problema i\u0161spr\u0119sta. Bet tai ne ilgam. Juk konkurencija \u017emogaus kraujyje ir \u017eod\u017eiais to nepakeisi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Labai daug literat\u016bros perskai\u010diau ir viskas teori\u0161kai skamba logi\u0161kai, bet i\u0161band\u017eius – neveikia! (Arba veikia trump\u0105 laik\u0105).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nenusiraminau tol, kol nei\u0161siai\u0161kinau kod\u0117l taip yra. Kas trugdo \u017emon\u0117ms kurti \u017emogu\u0161kuosius santykius?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Visa b\u0117da tame, kad da\u017enai \u012f vis\u0105 paveiksl\u0105 ne\u012ftraukiama m\u016bs\u0173 prigimtis, egoizmas. Vaikai lengvai sutinka su tuo, kad mes juos \u012ftikiname veikti vienaip ar kitaip, bet po to jie v\u0117l gr\u012f\u017eta prie savo egoizmo, savo nor\u0173 ir j\u0173 tenkinimo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u017dmogaus prigimtis tokia stipri, kad sunku jai atsilaikyti. O jau nekalbu, kad 99.9 % situacij\u0173 net neatpa\u017e\u012fstame, kad veikiame b\u016btent jos valdomi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
B\u016bna, kad \u017einai ir suvoki protu k\u0105 turi daryti, kaip elgtis, o ka\u017ekokia vidin\u0117 j\u0117ga tave sulaiko, tu negali jos \u012fveikti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir tai yra tai, kas neleid\u017eia atlikti kr\u016bvos labai ger\u0173 psicholog\u0173 patarim\u0173, \u012fvairi\u0173 technik\u0173 ar elementari\u0173 veiksm\u0173 (kaip i\u0161girsti kito nuomon\u0119, patyl\u0117ti, nusileisti). Tod\u0117l nereikia sav\u0119s kaltinti, bausti ar nek\u0119sti. Atsine\u0161\u0117me \u0161i\u0105 savyb\u0119 gimdami tam, kad i\u0161moktume s\u0105moningai ja pasinaudoti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ankstesn\u0117s kartos nesusid\u016br\u0117 su tokiu rei\u0161kiniu taip a\u0161triai, mat egoizmas nebuvo toks i\u0161sip\u016bt\u0119s ir did\u017eiulis, kok\u012f matome \u0161iandien. Baisu, kai staiga \u017emogus d\u0117l ka\u017eko ima nebepatikti, a\u0161 ramia s\u0105\u017eine nuve\u017eu j\u012f \u012f mi\u0161k\u0105 ir palieku. Arba nor\u0117damas parodyti savo j\u0117g\u0105 ir vald\u017ei\u0105, i\u0161\u0161audau vis\u0105 klas\u0119… Kuo toliau, tuo situacij\u0173 daug\u0117ja ir jos rimt\u0117ja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Akivaizdu, kad yra reikalingos priemon\u0117s, padedan\u010dios suvokti kas dedasi su \u017emogumi, kaip jam veikti vir\u0161 prigimties, vir\u0161 impuls\u0173, vir\u0161 egoizmo. Reikalingos priemon\u0117s, kurios sustiprint\u0173 mumyse supratimo, palaikymo ir meil\u0117s lauk\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Baisu net pagalvoti kaip gyvensime toliau, kai vis daugiau ir daugiau \u017emoni\u0173 vieni kitiems nebepatinka… net \u0161eimoje. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Skaitau daug. Labai. Mano savoti\u0161kas hobis – nuolat skenuoti santykius ir u\u017ejautus problem\u0105 – imtis veiksm\u0173. Tik vis susiduriu su ta pa\u010dia problema. Atrodo: ,,Na, dabar viskas – veikia, super patarimai”, o u\u017e keli\u0173 dien\u0173, valand\u0173 ar net minu\u010di\u0173 v\u0117l viskas gr\u012f\u017eta atgal. Nusivylimas. Apmaudas. Pyktis. Tarsi egzistuoja ka\u017ekoks nematomas \u0161ydas, pro kur\u012f negali prasibrauti […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":15566,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[43,42,44],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15569","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moteris-mama-straipsniai","category-vaiku-auklejimas-straipsniai","category-vyrai-moterys-santuoka-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/000dc0cc-2daa-42cf-ab99-ed83d77a522b.jpg",1366,683,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/000dc0cc-2daa-42cf-ab99-ed83d77a522b-800x683.jpg",800,683,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/000dc0cc-2daa-42cf-ab99-ed83d77a522b-800x400.jpg",800,400,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/000dc0cc-2daa-42cf-ab99-ed83d77a522b-768x384.jpg",768,384,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/000dc0cc-2daa-42cf-ab99-ed83d77a522b-1024x512.jpg",1024,512,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/000dc0cc-2daa-42cf-ab99-ed83d77a522b.jpg",1366,683,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/000dc0cc-2daa-42cf-ab99-ed83d77a522b.jpg",1366,683,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Skaitau daug. Labai. Mano savoti\u0161kas hobis – nuolat skenuoti santykius ir u\u017ejautus problem\u0105 – imtis veiksm\u0173. Tik vis susiduriu su ta pa\u010dia problema. Atrodo: ,,Na, dabar viskas – veikia, super patarimai”, o u\u017e keli\u0173 dien\u0173, valand\u0173 ar net minu\u010di\u0173 v\u0117l viskas gr\u012f\u017eta atgal. Nusivylimas. Apmaudas. Pyktis. 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