Susitiko jaunas vyras ir jauna moteris. Iki kol susitiko, jie abu tur\u0117jo audring\u0105 gyvenim\u0105, su \u012fvairiom patirtim. Bet jie pamilo vienas kit\u0105 ir ry\u017eosi sukurti \u0161eim\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ta\u010diau sunku ilgai i\u0161silaikyti kartu, nes kiekvienas \u012f pasaul\u012f \u017ei\u016bri per savo asmenin\u012f aukl\u0117jim\u0105, k\u0105 mat\u0117 telefono ekrane ir t.t.. Jis jau negalvoja, kad galb\u016bt moteris tur\u0117t\u0173 b\u016bti \u0161eimyni\u0161ka, r\u016bpintis nam\u0173 \u017eidiniu ir pan., jis pas\u0105moningai lygina j\u0105 su kokia patikusia holivudo aktore ar pop \u017evaig\u017ede.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0160iandien santykiai tampa labiau kaip \u012fprotis, pripratimas. Ach…, koks didelis pavojus kyla \u0161eimos l\u0105stelei, kai joje nebelieka tvirto pagrindo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Karjera, asmenin\u0117s ambicijos nustumia meil\u0119 \u012f antr\u0105 plan\u0105. Ir nemanau, kad galima b\u016bt\u0173 kitaip. Tiesiog esu visuomen\u0117s, kuri mane formuoja, dalis. Ir maitinuosi tuo, kuo maitinasi mane supanti aplinka. O ji kone r\u0117kia: ,,Gyvenk d\u0117l sav\u0119s! Nesiaukok d\u0117l nieko, niekas nei a\u010di\u016b nepasakys! B\u016bk laisva! Daryk k\u0105 nori!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bando. Ji ie\u0161ko sav\u0119s. Jis ie\u0161ko sav\u0119s. I\u0161vyksta atstog\u0173. I\u0161klauso kursus. Niekas nepadeda. Atstumas tarp dviej\u0173, ka\u017ekada vienas be kito negal\u0117jusi\u0173 gyventi \u017emoni\u0173 did\u0117ja. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bet jeigu a\u0161 visgi noriu i\u0161laikyti santykius, jeigu noriu juos stiprinti?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Su vyru pri\u0117jome i\u0161vad\u0173, kad turime rimtai \u017ei\u016br\u0117ti \u012f savo prigimt\u012f – egoizm\u0105 – ir mokytis kaip j\u012f panaudoti tam, kad i\u0161liktume kartu. Kitu atveju, sunaikinsime ne tik \u0161eim\u0105, bet ir patys save. Kaip ir n\u0117ra pasirinkimo ar kito varianto. Arba darom dabar, arba bus per v\u0117lu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Tai rei\u0161kia, kad a\u0161 suprantu, jog nor\u0117dama i\u0161laikyti \u0161eim\u0105, vyr\u0105 ir vaikus, turiu rizikuoti ir bandyti padaryti savo vyr\u0105 man svarbesn\u012f ir artimesn\u012f, nei mano noras valdyti kitus, \u017eeminti kitus ir matyti save kaip pa\u010di\u0105 svarbiausi\u0105. \u017dinoma, t\u0105 turi padaryti ir vyras. Taip, bendromis pastangomis, auginame m\u016bs\u0173 meil\u0119.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ta\u010diau kito \u017emogaus t\u0105 daryti versti negaliu. O paprastai viskas s\u0117kmingai klostosi tik tada, kuomet abu parneriai to nori.<\/p>\n\n\n\n O jeigu jis ar ji to nenori?!<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Prisipa\u017einsiu, da\u017enai mano galva apsikrauna \u012fvairiais kasdieniais dalykais, kurie mane numu\u0161a nuo to kilnaus tikslo – bendro mano ir vyro susitarimo. Bet jis, savo pavyzd\u017eiu, visada man apie j\u012f primena. Jis taip u\u017edegan\u010diai (ir kartais labai akivaizd\u017eiai) parodo, kad nors viduje dega prie\u0161taravimu mano ka\u017ekokiam sprendimui, pasi\u016blymui ar norui, tuo pat metu bando parodyti, kad tik d\u0117l man\u0119s, d\u0117l galimyb\u0117s suart\u0117ti, jis nusileid\u017eia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Tokie poelgiai skatina ir mane nenusileisti. Da\u017eniausiai \u012fveikus t\u0105 vidin\u012f pasiprie\u0161inim\u0105, \u012fveikus save, jautiesi i\u0161 ties\u0173 laimingas \u017emogus. Ir suvoki, kad ne teisyb\u0117 svarbiausia, ar lyginimasis kieno nuomon\u0117 svaresn\u0117, o kad kartu \u0161okame gyvenimo \u0161ok\u012f. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Supratau, kad sveikuose santykiuose abu partneriai turi ir gauti, ir duoti. Kitu atveju, n\u0117ra i\u0161 viso jokio santykio. Tai tapo geras pasitikrinimo kriterijus. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Nepaisant fakto, kad \u0161iandien dauguma santyki\u0173 poroje yra toksi\u0161ki (melas, i\u0161davyst\u0117, i\u0161naudojimas, nepalaikymas, nesupratimas), giliai \u0161irdyje visgi norisi sveik\u0173 santyki\u0173. Norisi \u017einoti, kaip juos s\u0105moningai tokius i\u0161laikyti ir stiprinti, nes akivaizdu, jog nat\u016braliai tai tampa beveik ne\u012fmanoma. Anks\u010diau \u017emon\u0117s gyveno kitok\u012f gyvenim\u0105, tad jiems reik\u0117jo vieniems kit\u0173, kad i\u0161gyvent\u0173. O \u0161iandien, technologij\u0173 pagalba, galime gyventi […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":15782,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[43,44],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15784","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moteris-mama-straipsniai","category-vyrai-moterys-santuoka-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/5807f578-7098-487c-89f0-398a882fa860.jpg",1366,683,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/5807f578-7098-487c-89f0-398a882fa860-800x683.jpg",800,683,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/5807f578-7098-487c-89f0-398a882fa860-800x400.jpg",800,400,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/5807f578-7098-487c-89f0-398a882fa860-768x384.jpg",768,384,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/5807f578-7098-487c-89f0-398a882fa860-1024x512.jpg",1024,512,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/5807f578-7098-487c-89f0-398a882fa860.jpg",1366,683,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/5807f578-7098-487c-89f0-398a882fa860.jpg",1366,683,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Nepaisant fakto, kad \u0161iandien dauguma santyki\u0173 poroje yra toksi\u0161ki (melas, i\u0161davyst\u0117, i\u0161naudojimas, nepalaikymas, nesupratimas), giliai \u0161irdyje visgi norisi sveik\u0173 santyki\u0173. Norisi \u017einoti, kaip juos s\u0105moningai tokius i\u0161laikyti ir stiprinti, nes akivaizdu, jog nat\u016braliai tai tampa beveik ne\u012fmanoma. Anks\u010diau \u017emon\u0117s gyveno kitok\u012f gyvenim\u0105, tad jiems reik\u0117jo vieniems kit\u0173, kad i\u0161gyvent\u0173. O \u0161iandien, technologij\u0173 pagalba, galime gyventi…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15784","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15784"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15784\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":15785,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15784\/revisions\/15785"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15782"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15784"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15784"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15784"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/meiles.jpg\")
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