Li\u016bdna, kad daug vaik\u0173 patiria paty\u010dias. Li\u016bdna ir d\u0117l to, kad tik kovojame su jomis, bet nesistengiame u\u017ekirsti keli\u0105 paty\u010dioms, kad nereik\u0117t\u0173 gydyt\u012f skaud\u017ei\u0173 pas\u0117kmi\u0173. U\u017ekirsti keli\u0105 per tinkam\u0105 aukl\u0117jim\u0105, formuojant \u017emon\u0117ms palankius sprendimo b\u016bdus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Visai neseniai s\u016bnus u\u017esimin\u0117, kad i\u0161 med\u017eio nori pasigaminti lazd\u0105. Paklausiau kam ji, o atsakymas buvo tvirtas: ,,Kai prie man\u0119s l\u012fs tie ketvirtokai b\u016brelyje, a\u0161 gal\u0117siu apsiginti”. Tada pokalbis pakrypo ta linkme, kod\u0117l taip yra. Kod\u0117l visada vyresni skriaud\u017eia ma\u017eesnius, stipresni – silpnesnius, garsesni – tylesnius.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
,,Jeigu esu ketvirtok\u0117 lap\u0117, kada a\u0161 jausiuosi stipresn\u0117 ir ,,kietesne” – kai eisiu pas \u0161e\u0161tok\u0105 li\u016bt\u0105 ar pirmok\u0105 peliuk\u0105? Negaliu rizikuoti, \u017einoma, kad ,,su\u017eyb\u0117siu” su peliuku. Jis nieko man nepadarys.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Po \u0161io pavyzd\u017eio sek\u0117 dar daug i\u0161siai\u0161kinim\u0173, bet pagrindin\u0119 mint\u012f vaikas palaik\u0117 ir j\u012f tai nuramino (kuriam laikui).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vaikai kovoja u\u017e save \u012fvairiais, da\u017enai net \u017eiauriais, b\u016bdais. Jie tiesiog ne\u017eino kitoki\u0173 b\u016bd\u0173. Jau ma\u017eas \u017emogus, dar nevaik\u0161\u010diodamas, kovoja u\u017e save, savo daiktus ir savo norus. Jis kaip magnetas, kaip \u017dem\u0117s gravitacija, siurbia visk\u0105 \u012f save. Pabandykime i\u0161 k\u016bdikio ka\u017ek\u0105 paimti ar jam ka\u017eko neduoti. Kyla didelis triuk\u0161mas!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tokia \u017emogaus prigimtis, jeigu tik yra proga gauti naudos sau – i\u0161sijungia moral\u0117 ir valdo instinktai. Jeigu galiu pasipuikuoti prie\u0161 kitus, pa\u017eemindama, pasinaudodama, tai pirmyn – a\u0161 taip ir padarysiu net negalvodama kaip tai palies kitus (jeigu nebandysiu veikti s\u0105moningai). Ir jeigu k\u016bdikis n\u0117ra mokomas kaip tinkamai elgtis sociume, tai jis iki gyvenimo galo ir liks tame pa\u010diame ,,magneto” lygyje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Turb\u016bt net nereikia pamin\u0117ti neseniai Europoje \u012fvykusi\u0173 tragedij\u0173 virtin\u0117s mokyklose tarp paaugli\u0173… kai \u017emogus d\u0117l savo b\u016bsenos, savo pasaulio (ar mums net ne\u012fsivaizduojam\u0173 prie\u017eas\u010di\u0173) ry\u017etasi nutraukti gyvyb\u0119 kitiems ar net sau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u017dvelgiant i\u0161 \u0161alies, akivaizdu, kad \u017emogus nesupranta savo gamyklini\u0173 parametr\u0173, net nekalbant apie j\u0173 tinkam\u0105 naudojim\u0105. Panor\u0117jau – padariau. Nepatinka man ka\u017ekas – pa\u0161alinau ir toliau ramiai gyvenu arba ie\u0161kau kas man trugdo. Mane supykd\u0117, \u012fskaudino, pa\u017eemino – ker\u0161yju.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sunku suvokti kokiame i\u0161 ties\u0173 pasaulyje gyvename ir kaip smarkiai \u012ftakojame vienas kit\u0105. Vienai dalelei pajud\u0117jus, persitvarko visa sistema. O blogiausia tai, kad vaikai apie tai n\u0117ra mokomi. Jie n\u0117ra ruo\u0161iami gyventi su savo egoistine prigimti ir bandyti j\u0105 kompensuoti geru elgesiu. N\u0117ra empatijos. N\u0117ra alternatyvi\u0173 sprendimo b\u016bd\u0173. N\u0117ra aukl\u0117jimo. N\u0117ra tinkam\u0173 pavyzd\u017ei\u0173. Jie tik m\u016bs\u0173, suaugusi\u0173, kopijos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
O jeigu tik pa\u017evelgtume \u012f visa tai rimtai jau dabar? U\u017esiimtume tuo rimtai? Ie\u0161kotume kaip sujungti tas tu\u0161\u010dias ertmes tarp skirting\u0173 kart\u0173? Jeigu su vaikais mokytum\u0117m\u0117s kas mes esame ir kokie tur\u0117tume b\u016bti? Jeigu organizuotume vaikus ir suaugusius \u012f grupes, kartu pa\u017eintume kaip valdyti savo prigimt\u012f, kaip sukurti geresn\u0119 viet\u0105 gyventi? Jeigu nepaliktume vaik\u0173 vien\u0173 spr\u0119sti ateities visuomen\u0117s problem\u0173 pagal ,,d\u017eiungli\u0173” \u012fstatymus, o kartu ie\u0161kotume \u017emogui priimtin\u0173 sprendimo b\u016bd\u0173?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pasaulis kitoks negu buvo, kai mes buvome vaikai… kraujuojan\u010di \u0161irdimi pra\u0161au, pagalvokime, k\u0105 kiekvienas galime padaryti jau dabar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Juk vienai dalelei pajud\u0117jus, persitvarko visa sistema.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Li\u016bdna, kad daug vaik\u0173 patiria paty\u010dias. Li\u016bdna ir d\u0117l to, kad tik kovojame su jomis, bet nesistengiame u\u017ekirsti keli\u0105 paty\u010dioms, kad nereik\u0117t\u0173 gydyt\u012f skaud\u017ei\u0173 pas\u0117kmi\u0173. U\u017ekirsti keli\u0105 per tinkam\u0105 aukl\u0117jim\u0105, formuojant \u017emon\u0117ms palankius sprendimo b\u016bdus. Visai neseniai s\u016bnus u\u017esimin\u0117, kad i\u0161 med\u017eio nori pasigaminti lazd\u0105. Paklausiau kam ji, o atsakymas buvo tvirtas: ,,Kai prie man\u0119s […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4527,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15923","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vaiku-auklejimas-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-5.jpg",1200,628,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-5-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-5-300x157.jpg",300,157,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-5-768x402.jpg",768,402,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-5-1024x536.jpg",1024,536,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-5.jpg",1200,628,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-5.jpg",1200,628,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Li\u016bdna, kad daug vaik\u0173 patiria paty\u010dias. Li\u016bdna ir d\u0117l to, kad tik kovojame su jomis, bet nesistengiame u\u017ekirsti keli\u0105 paty\u010dioms, kad nereik\u0117t\u0173 gydyt\u012f skaud\u017ei\u0173 pas\u0117kmi\u0173. U\u017ekirsti keli\u0105 per tinkam\u0105 aukl\u0117jim\u0105, formuojant \u017emon\u0117ms palankius sprendimo b\u016bdus. Visai neseniai s\u016bnus u\u017esimin\u0117, kad i\u0161 med\u017eio nori pasigaminti lazd\u0105. Paklausiau kam ji, o atsakymas buvo tvirtas: ,,Kai prie man\u0119s…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15923","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15923"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15923\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":15924,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15923\/revisions\/15924"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4527"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15923"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15923"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15923"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}