Turb\u016bt ma\u017eai toki\u0173 atvej\u0173, kad vestuvi\u0173 dien\u0105 partneriai neb\u016bt\u0173 tikri, jog gyvens am\u017einai kartu. Bet realiai vis ma\u017eiau ir ma\u017eiau por\u0173 i\u0161silaiko kartu kelet\u0105 met\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir manau, jog labai svarbu kalb\u0117ti apie prie\u017eastis – kod\u0117l taip yra?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ka\u017ekas kei\u010diasi pasaulyje ir mes turime \u017einoti kas, kad gal\u0117tume patys kurti savo gyvenim\u0105. Gal\u0173 gale, nuspr\u0119sti kada tuoktis, o kada skirtis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ne naujiena para\u0161ysiu, kad \u017emogaus prigimtis yra egoistin\u0117. Kuo toliau, tuo sunkiau tampa u\u017emaskuoti sav\u0105j\u012f ,,A\u0161”. Norisi parodyti kitiems kokia esu protinga, stipri, savaranku\u0161ka ir t.t. Ir tame nieko blogo n\u0117ra. Tiesiog, kai tas noras pasinaudoti kitais yra nekontroliuojamas, mes nejausdami nukertame tarpusavio ry\u0161ius.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u010cia kaip su katinu, kuomet senolis i\u0161dresiravo katin\u0105 elgtis kaip \u017emog\u0173, bet vos tik katinas pamat\u0117 pel\u0119 – visas \u012fdirbis baig\u0117si, instinktai pa\u0117m\u0117 vir\u0161\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Taip ir santykiuose. Ka\u017ekur\u012f laik\u0105 gaunu labai didel\u012f u\u017esipildym\u0105 i\u0161 kito \u017emogaus: malonu b\u016bti, bendrauti, pramogauti, d\u0117l to galiu ir nusileisti, ,,nepasteb\u0117ti” ka\u017ekoki\u0173 dalyk\u0173, atleisti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bet ateina laikas, kai viduje pajau\u010diu, jog man neb\u0117ra jokios naudos, o tada \u012fsijungia instinktai. Noriu pa\u0161alinti t\u0105 \u017emog\u0173 i\u0161 savo gyvenimo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Prie\u0161 t\u0119siant skaitym\u0105, si\u016bly\u010diau patikrinti ar taip yra i\u0161 ties\u0173; kaip kei\u010diasi po\u017ei\u016bris \u012f \u017emog\u0173, kuris daro man malonius dalykus arba erzinan\u010dius; kod\u0117l erzina? Kod\u0117l patinka?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Taigi, \u017einant \u017emogaus prigimt\u012f, galima sakyti, jog meil\u0117s pa\u017eaidai nieko nerei\u0161kia. Svarbu \u017einoti, kad vis\u0105 gyvenim\u0105 m\u016bs\u0173 santykius lyd\u0117s bendras prie\u0161as – egoizmas – kuris yra stipresnis u\u017e mus. Bet \u017eingsnis po \u017eingsnio partneriai turi stengtis suart\u0117ti. Tik taip galima i\u0161silaikyti kartu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Toks darbas turi vykti reguliariai. Tarsi \u0161okis: prieiti artyn vienas kito, pajutus neigiam\u0105 reakcij\u0105 – atsitraukti, bet po to \u017eengti du \u017eingsnius artyn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mes su vyru daug kalbame apie \u0161\u012f proces\u0105. Nelengva, bet \u012fmanoma prisijaukinti tai, kas mus nuolat skiria (puikyb\u0119, pavyd\u0105, kontrol\u0119). Kiekviena pora atranda savo santyki\u0173 statymo formul\u0119. A\u0161 noriu pasidalinti koks m\u016bs\u0173 \u0161eimos siekis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u25e6 Pirmiausia, reikia labai nor\u0117ti tvirt\u0173 santyki\u0173, grist\u0173 pasitik\u0117jimu ir abipusiu laidavimu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u25e6 Tada reikia dr\u0105sos. Dr\u0105sos \u012fsileisti \u012f savo pasaul\u012f kit\u0105 pasaul\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u25e6 Reikia u\u017esispyrimo eiti iki galo. Tai yra, nelaukti kol ka\u017ekas nutiks. B\u016bti pa\u010biam savo likimo kalviu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u25e6 Reikia kantryb\u0117s duoti laiko sau ar partneriui. Nes b\u016bnai jausmas, atrodo, kad vien\u0105 dien\u0105 myl\u0117jau, o \u0161iandien jau\u010diu atstumim\u0105. Reikia laiko pergalvoti savo gyvenim\u0105, savo b\u016bsen\u0105, partner\u012f ir pasidaryti i\u0161vadas, jog grei\u010diausiai galiu t\u0119sti, tik reikia u\u017emegzti kontakt\u0105 tarp m\u016bs\u0173, kuriame gal\u0117tume atrasti ka\u017ek\u0105 pozityvaus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Did\u017eiausia klaida, kuri\u0105 darome yra tai, jog priimame visk\u0105 taip, kaip matome ir jau\u010diame ir per daug asmeni\u0161kai. O der\u0117t\u0173 sukurti s\u0105lygas parodyti vienas kitam, kad dabar, pavyzd\u017eiui, negaliu priarteti ir partneris turi tai suprasti. Ne\u012fsi\u017eeisti, bet atsitraukti kol a\u0161 suvir\u0161kinsiu kas vyksta. T\u0105 pat\u012f turiu daryti ir a\u0161. Stengtis nesielgti impulsyviai, sulaikyti vidines interpretacijas, nes jos tikrai bus ,,B\u0117k, kovok, ker\u0161yk”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nesivadovaujant vidiniais impulsai, o laikantis bendro susitarimo, atsiranda ir bendras vienas kito supratimas, gimsta meile. Tada myliu kit\u0105, nes jis yra mano partneris, kuris supranta mane ir kartu stato tilt\u0105 tarp mano \u0161irdies ir jo \u0161irdies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Svarbiausia \u017einoti, kad abu turime vidini\u0173 i\u0161\u0161\u016bki\u0173, su kuriais dirbdami kartu galime u\u017emegzti ry\u0161\u012f, kuris taps m\u016bs\u0173 laim\u0117s garantu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kiekvienas netobulas a\u0161trus kampas – tai tobuliausia s\u0105lyga ir galimyb\u0117 mums augti ir tobul\u0117ti. Tad santykiai tobuli ar netobuli priklauso tik nuo pa\u010dio po\u017ei\u016brio.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Turb\u016bt ma\u017eai toki\u0173 atvej\u0173, kad vestuvi\u0173 dien\u0105 partneriai neb\u016bt\u0173 tikri, jog gyvens am\u017einai kartu. Bet realiai vis ma\u017eiau ir ma\u017eiau por\u0173 i\u0161silaiko kartu kelet\u0105 met\u0173. Ir manau, jog labai svarbu kalb\u0117ti apie prie\u017eastis – kod\u0117l taip yra? Ka\u017ekas kei\u010diasi pasaulyje ir mes turime \u017einoti kas, kad gal\u0117tume patys kurti savo gyvenim\u0105. 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