{"id":18184,"date":"2024-06-28T00:27:44","date_gmt":"2024-06-27T21:27:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=18184"},"modified":"2024-06-28T00:27:44","modified_gmt":"2024-06-27T21:27:44","slug":"lukesciai-ir-nusivylimai-santykiuose","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/lukesciai-ir-nusivylimai-santykiuose\/","title":{"rendered":"L\u016aKES\u010cIAI IR NUSIVYLIMAI SANTYKIUOSE"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Pamenu, gyvenime at\u0117jo etapas, kai beproto nor\u0117jau tikr\u0173 santyki\u0173. Bet did\u017eiausias stabdis buvo baim\u0117 ir v\u0117l nusivilti. Surizikavau, nors bijojau. Ir \u0161iandien galiu pasakyti, kad tik tos baim\u0117s d\u0117ka esu ten, kur esu. Po kurio laiko prad\u0117jau pasteb\u0117ti, kad ne \u0161iaip tos b\u016bsenos kinta, ne \u0161iaip tikiuosi ka\u017eko, o paskui nusivyliu. Tai mechanizmas, kuris \u012ftakoja santykius tarp \u017emoni\u0173 ir net santyk\u012f su savimi pa\u010diu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Da\u017enai susid\u016br\u0119 su nusivylimu, renkam\u0117s arba slopinti visk\u0105, arba pakeisti partner\u012f. Ne\u017einau kiek tai \u012f naud\u0105 sveikatai, nes mes su vyru renkam\u0117s tre\u010di\u0105j\u012f keli\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kaip jau min\u0117jau, labai nor\u0117jau stipri\u0173 santyki\u0173, \u0161eimos. Su vyru abu nuo pat prad\u017ei\u0173 leidom\u0117s ta pa\u010dia kryptimi, net nesuvokdami, kad m\u016bs\u0173 trajektorijos labai vinguriuoja, ne visada eina \u0161alia viena kitos. Skirtingi po\u017ei\u016briai, skirtingi norai formuoja skirtingus l\u016bkes\u010dius. Ir jeigu ne bendras tikslas – geri tvar\u016bs santykiai, kurie su\u0161ildo, palaiko, i\u0161klauso ir leid\u017eia tau i\u0161sikalb\u0117ti – tada netur\u0117tume tos bendros abiems krypties, pagal kuri\u0105 galime reguliuoti savo reakcijas, savo pozicij\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vis ie\u0161kau \u017eod\u017ei\u0173 vaizd\u017eiai perteikti t\u0105 vaizdin\u012f, kuomet susitinka du \u017emon\u0117s, kiekvienas turi savo l\u016bkes\u010di\u0173 kito at\u017evilgiu (o jie net be m\u016bs\u0173 pra\u0161ymo kruop\u0161iai sur\u016b\u0161iuoti pagal naudos sau koficient\u0105). B\u0117ga dienos, o tu s\u0105ra\u0161e brauki punktus ir matai, kiek investavau, kiek tik\u0117jausi gauti ir kiek gavau. Matematika. A\u0161 \u012fsivaizduoju kaip sud\u0117tinga atrasti teisingas elgesio, reakcij\u0173 kombinacijas, kad abu \u017emon\u0117s nepajaust\u0173 nusivylimo ir abiej\u0173 s\u0105ra\u0161ai b\u016bt\u0173 \u012fgyvendinti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kai a\u0161 darau ka\u017ek\u0105 d\u0117l kito (su sava potekste kod\u0117l), o kitas elgiasi ne taip kaip tik\u0117jausi, man kyla pyktis. Ta\u0161kas. Nepateisinti mano l\u016bkes\u010diai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Galiu, \u017einoma, bandyti slopinti jausmus, apsimesti, kad to n\u0117ra, treniruoti save netur\u0117ti joki\u0173 l\u016bkes\u010di\u0173 ir taip apsaugoti save nuo nusivylimo. Arba galiu bandyti mokytis gyventi su tuo, k\u0105 man dav\u0117 gamta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0160tai kod\u0117l man norisi pakalb\u0117ti apie \u0161\u012f esmin\u012f \u017emogaus vidin\u012f mechanizm\u0105, nuo kurio priklauso m\u016bs\u0173 nuotaika, santyki\u0173 kokyb\u0117, motyvacija ir dar daug dalyk\u0173. Visa tai formuoja m\u016bs\u0173 asmenyb\u0119.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

L\u016bkes\u010diai – nusivylimas – l\u016bkes\u010diai – nusivylimas – tai svarbi gyvenimo dalis, kurios nepastebime.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kadangi \u017emogaus prigimtis yra kas beb\u016bt\u0173 siekti sau patogios b\u016bsenos, teikian\u010dios kuo daugiau d\u017eiaugsmo ir vidinio u\u017esipildymo, kiekviena b\u016bsima akimirka tampa galimyb\u0117 tai gauti. O \u0161tai kitas ne taip ka\u017ek\u0105 padar\u0117, ne taip pasak\u0117…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u010cia ir prasideda, saky\u010diau, vidin\u0117 transformacija ir dialogas su savimi, kuomet turi apsispr\u0119sti – t\u0119sti vaizduot\u0117s darb\u0105, kuriant naujus l\u016bkes\u010dius su galimais nusivylimais, leisti jiems spr\u0119sti likti kartu ar skirtis, o gal mokytis gyventi nepriklausomai nuo t\u0173 vidini\u0173 impuls\u0173, pa\u017eabojant juos meile ir pagarba tarpusavio santykiams?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Skamba ai\u0161kiai, bet tai \u012fgyvendinti reikia laiko, pastang\u0173 ir palaikymo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u0105 gi. Raitojam rankoves, nes nematau kito kelio kaip tik \u012f stipresnius ir tarpusavio r\u016bpes\u010diu gr\u012fstus santykius!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Pamenu, gyvenime at\u0117jo etapas, kai beproto nor\u0117jau tikr\u0173 santyki\u0173. Bet did\u017eiausias stabdis buvo baim\u0117 ir v\u0117l nusivilti. Surizikavau, nors bijojau. Ir \u0161iandien galiu pasakyti, kad tik tos baim\u0117s d\u0117ka esu ten, kur esu. Po kurio laiko prad\u0117jau pasteb\u0117ti, kad ne \u0161iaip tos b\u016bsenos kinta, ne \u0161iaip tikiuosi ka\u017eko, o paskui nusivyliu. Tai mechanizmas, kuris \u012ftakoja […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":18183,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[43,44],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18184","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moteris-mama-straipsniai","category-vyrai-moterys-santuoka-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/ae35ee78-8022-4e61-877a-acce763fb378-1.jpg",1366,683,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/ae35ee78-8022-4e61-877a-acce763fb378-1-800x683.jpg",800,683,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/ae35ee78-8022-4e61-877a-acce763fb378-1-800x400.jpg",800,400,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/ae35ee78-8022-4e61-877a-acce763fb378-1-768x384.jpg",768,384,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/ae35ee78-8022-4e61-877a-acce763fb378-1-1024x512.jpg",1024,512,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/ae35ee78-8022-4e61-877a-acce763fb378-1.jpg",1366,683,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/ae35ee78-8022-4e61-877a-acce763fb378-1.jpg",1366,683,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Pamenu, gyvenime at\u0117jo etapas, kai beproto nor\u0117jau tikr\u0173 santyki\u0173. 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