(Mano atradimai aukl\u0117jant ma\u017eyl\u012f)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Na \u0161tai, ir tre\u010di\u0105j\u012f kart\u0105 \u012fsisuku \u012f ,,terrible two” rat\u0105. Tik \u0161\u012fkart patirtis daro savo: ma\u017eiau streso, ma\u017eiau neai\u0161kum\u0173. Tik nuoseklus darbas su savimi ir ma\u017eyliu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jei esi t\u0117vas ar mama, tikriausiai bent kart\u0105 susid\u016br\u0117te su situacija, kai 2\u20133 met\u0173 vaikas tiesiog atsisako j\u016bs\u0173 klausyti. Toks \u012fsp\u016bdis, kad viskas, k\u0105 sakai, eina pro vien\u0105 aus\u012f ir i\u0161eina per kit\u0105. Ir tas pokytis \u012fvyksta labai netik\u0117tai – dar prie\u0161 kelias savaites jis ar ji buvo toks mielas ir paklusnus ma\u017eylis, o dabar rodos, kad prasid\u0117jo mai\u0161tas. Bet ar i\u0161 ties\u0173 taip yra?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kas vyksta ma\u017eylio galvoje?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vaikai, ypa\u010d 2-3 met\u0173 am\u017eiaus, i\u0161gyvena mil\u017eini\u0161kus poky\u010dius \u2013 tiek fizi\u0161kai, tiek psichi\u0161kai. Jiems viskas nauja, \u012fdomu ir kartais visi\u0161kai nesuprantama. Ma\u017eyliai mokosi i\u0161 aplinkos. Jeigu mums, kaip t\u0117vams, vaiko elgesys kartais atrodo kaip tikras chaosas, tai da\u017eniausiai yra tod\u0117l, kad jie taip mokosi tyrin\u0117dami ribas. B\u016btent tokio am\u017eiaus vaikai da\u017enai nepakl\u016bsta ne d\u0117l to, kad mai\u0161tauja, bet tod\u0117l, kad jiems tiesiog tr\u016bksta patirties ir supratimo. Tai nat\u016brali \u0161io am\u017eiaus vaiko raidos dalis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Stebiu, kaip vaikai tyrin\u0117ja pasaul\u012f<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Labai greitai pasteb\u0117jau, kad 2-3 met\u0173 vaikai pradeda intensyviai tyrin\u0117ti pasaul\u012f. Jie nebe nori tiesiog s\u0117d\u0117ti ir daryti tai, k\u0105 jiems pasakai. Man da\u017enai tenka matyti, kaip mano ma\u017eylis i\u0161bando ribas: palies tai, k\u0105 neleid\u017eiu, ir bandys steb\u0117ti mano reakcij\u0105. Supratau, kad jie taip mokosi. Ar sudau\u017eys stiklin\u0119? Tik\u0117tina. Ar sulau\u017eys k\u0105 nors, kas jam per didelis i\u0161\u0161\u016bkis? Visi\u0161kai \u012fmanoma. Ta\u010diau tai tik pamokos, kurios veda juos link supratimo, kaip veikia pasaulis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mano pamoka \u2013 nieko nesitik\u0117ti per daug greitai<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pasteb\u0117jau, kad kai kurie t\u0117vai reikalauja i\u0161 savo vaik\u0173 dalyk\u0173, kuri\u0173 dar j\u0173 neparuo\u0161\u0117. A\u0161 ir pati kartais buvau linkusi reikalauti, kad jis elgt\u0173si \u201ekaip suaug\u0119s\u201c, nors dar jo nemokiau, kaip tai daryti. Prad\u0117jau \u017ei\u016br\u0117ti \u012f tai papras\u010diau. Supratau, kad visi mes i\u0161mokstame i\u0161 aplinkos ir patirties. Dabar, kai matau savo vaik\u0105 darant k\u0105 nors, kas man nelabai patinka, stengiuosi suprasti, kad jis taip bando suprasti pasaul\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0160velnumas ir kantryb\u0117 \u2013 mano geriausi draugai<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ilgainiui supratau, kad jokios grie\u017etos taisykl\u0117s nepad\u0117s taip gerai, kaip \u0161velnus ir nuoseklus elgesys. N\u0117ra taip, kad man pavykt\u0173 visada likti ramiam \u2013 juk esu \u017emogus. Bet kai tik sugebu i\u0161likti rami, pastebiu, kad tai turi didesn\u0119 \u012ftak\u0105 mano vaikui nei bet kokios pastabos ar pamokslai. Jei jis mato, kad reaguoju ramiai, tada ir jis pradeda elgtis ramiau. Tai, \u017einoma, n\u0117ra greitas procesas \u2013 tai ilga kelion\u0117, pilna i\u0161\u0161\u016bki\u0173, bet ir pasitenkinimo. Tam reikia aukl\u0117ti ne tik vaik\u0105, bet ir save pa\u010di\u0105. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vaikai \u2013 mano atspindys<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kart\u0105 supratau, kad vaikai yra kaip veidrod\u017eiai \u2013 jie atkartoja visk\u0105, k\u0105 mato aplink save. Pasteb\u0117jau, kad mano vaikas perima mano elges\u012f su kitais \u017emon\u0117mis, mano po\u017ei\u016br\u012f \u012f kasdienes situacijas. Pavyzd\u017eiui, jei man r\u016bpi aplinkos tvarkymas, jis stebi ir mokosi i\u0161 mano veiksm\u0173. Man tai tapo puikia galimybe parodyti jam, kaip nor\u0117\u010diau, kad jis elgt\u0173si \u2013 ne \u017eod\u017eiais, o savo elgesiu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Laikas, kantryb\u0117 ir dar kart\u0105 kantryb\u0117<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Aukl\u0117jant vaik\u0105, kantryb\u0117 tapo mano kasdieniu palydovu. A\u0161 ne visada i\u0161laikau pusiausvyr\u0105, kartais ir supykstu, ir ne\u017einau kaip reaguoti. Ta\u010diau stengiuosi prisiminti, kad taip vaikas tiesiog tyrin\u0117ja pasaul\u012f ir vienintelis jo paie\u0161k\u0173 palydovas esu a\u0161. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Auginant ma\u017eus vaikus, kantryb\u0117 yra m\u016bs\u0173 geriausias draugas. Vaikai yra smals\u016bs, kartais u\u017esispyr\u0119, bet visada mokosi i\u0161 m\u016bs\u0173 ir aplinkos. O mes, galb\u016bt turime palaikyti vieni kitus, \u0161ypsotis ir priminti nepamir\u0161ti m\u0117gautis \u0161iuo kelion\u0117s etapu \u2013 net jei kartais atrodo, kad kelias pilnas i\u0161\u0161\u016bki\u0173, gal\u0173 gale viskas atsiperka.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0160velnumas ir nuoseklumas \u2013 raktai \u012f s\u0117km\u0119<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pabaigai \u2013 kantryb\u0117 ir dar kart\u0105 kantryb\u0117<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Auginant ma\u017eus vaikus, kantryb\u0117 yra tavo geriausias draugas. Vaikai yra smals\u016bs, kartais u\u017esispyr\u0119, bet visada mokosi i\u0161 tav\u0119s ir aplinkos. Ir nors gali b\u016bti sunku, kai jie neklauso ar daro ka\u017ek\u0105, kas tave i\u0161veda i\u0161 pusiausvyros, svarbu prisiminti, kad jie taip tyrin\u0117ja pasaul\u012f. Tad \u0161ypsokis, gilink savo kantryb\u0119 ir m\u0117gaukis \u0161iuo kelion\u0117s etapu \u2013 net jei kartais atrodo, kad kelias pilnas i\u0161\u0161\u016bki\u0173, gal\u0173 gale viskas atsiperka.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Man palengv\u0117jo i\u0161siai\u0161kinus, kad \u0161is vaiko elgesys turi paai\u0161kinim\u0105, apie kur\u012f ne\u017einojau tapusi mama pirm\u0105 kart\u0105. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
(Mano atradimai aukl\u0117jant ma\u017eyl\u012f) Na \u0161tai, ir tre\u010di\u0105j\u012f kart\u0105 \u012fsisuku \u012f ,,terrible two” rat\u0105. Tik \u0161\u012fkart patirtis daro savo: ma\u017eiau streso, ma\u017eiau neai\u0161kum\u0173. Tik nuoseklus darbas su savimi ir ma\u017eyliu. Jei esi t\u0117vas ar mama, tikriausiai bent kart\u0105 susid\u016br\u0117te su situacija, kai 2\u20133 met\u0173 vaikas tiesiog atsisako j\u016bs\u0173 klausyti. Toks \u012fsp\u016bdis, kad viskas, k\u0105 sakai, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":18696,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18697","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vaiku-auklejimas-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/dea070a4-62e1-4c2d-856e-224f146f9ba4-1.jpg",1366,683,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/dea070a4-62e1-4c2d-856e-224f146f9ba4-1-800x683.jpg",800,683,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/dea070a4-62e1-4c2d-856e-224f146f9ba4-1-800x400.jpg",800,400,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/dea070a4-62e1-4c2d-856e-224f146f9ba4-1-768x384.jpg",768,384,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/dea070a4-62e1-4c2d-856e-224f146f9ba4-1-1024x512.jpg",1024,512,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/dea070a4-62e1-4c2d-856e-224f146f9ba4-1.jpg",1366,683,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/dea070a4-62e1-4c2d-856e-224f146f9ba4-1.jpg",1366,683,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"(Mano atradimai aukl\u0117jant ma\u017eyl\u012f) Na \u0161tai, ir tre\u010di\u0105j\u012f kart\u0105 \u012fsisuku \u012f ,,terrible two” rat\u0105. 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