{"id":19471,"date":"2025-01-28T23:08:38","date_gmt":"2025-01-28T21:08:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=19471"},"modified":"2025-01-28T23:08:38","modified_gmt":"2025-01-28T21:08:38","slug":"auklejimo-menas-tarp-laisves-atsakomybes-ir-meiles","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/auklejimo-menas-tarp-laisves-atsakomybes-ir-meiles\/","title":{"rendered":"AUKL\u0116JIMO MENAS | TARP LAISV\u0116S, ATSAKOMYB\u0116S IR MEIL\u0116S"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"p1\">Kaip mama, da\u017enai susiduriu su klausimais: ,,Kiek laisv\u0117s tur\u0117tume suteikti savo vaikams? Kur yra ta riba tarp leidimo jiems tyrin\u0117ti savo nepriklausomyb\u0119, klysti ir mokytis atsakomyb\u0117s bei \u012fsiki\u0161imo kaip u\u017e vaik\u0105 atsakingo \u017emogaus?&#8221; \u0160i dilema kone kasdien pasirei\u0161kia m\u016bs\u0173 gyvenime \u012fvairiose srityse ir reikalauja sprendim\u0173, kantryb\u0117s ir daug savistabos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Ra\u0161ant \u0161ia tema, prie\u0161 akis i\u0161niro prisiminimas, an\u0105dien gatv\u0117je prasilenkiau su mama ir dukra. Mergait\u0117, gal \u0161e\u0161eri\u0173 ar septyneri\u0173, verk\u0117, nes nenor\u0117jo eiti \u012f fortepijono pamok\u0105, o mama nuolat kartojo: \u201eTai k\u0105 darysi? Tau reikia i\u0161spr\u0119sti \u0161i\u0105 problem\u0105. Turi nuspr\u0119sti, k\u0105 darysi. Ar eisi \u012f pamok\u0105, ar ne?\u201c O mergait\u0117 dar labiau pravirko, sakydama: \u201eA\u0161 ne\u017einau. A\u0161 ne\u017einau, k\u0105 daryti.&#8221; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Viena akimi steb\u0117jau jas, o kita &#8211; save.&nbsp; Kiek kart\u0173 esu pasielgusi pana\u0161iai? Tikrai ne vien\u0105. Galb\u016bt ne tokiu pa\u010diu b\u016bdu, bet esu atsid\u016brusi situacijose, kai perleidau sprendimo na\u0161t\u0105 vaikui, tik\u0117damasi, kad jis ,,susiprot\u0117s&#8221; ir pasielgs teisingai (kad ir k\u0105 tai reik\u0161t\u0173). Tokios mintys privert\u0117 mane susim\u0105styti: kaip ir kada pad\u0117ti vaikui mokytis spr\u0119sti problemas savaranki\u0161kai, o kada spr\u0119sti pa\u010diai ir leisti vaikui matyti mano pavyzd\u012f.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Nesumeluosiu, kad norisi b\u016bti kiek \u012fmanoma gerais t\u0117vais. Ta\u010diau siekiant \u0161io idealo lengva nepasteb\u0117ti to, kas vyksta \u010dia ir dabar. Tuo t\u0117vyst\u0117 ir nuostabi, jog ji moko lankstumo, pamatyti kito \u017emogaus perspektyv\u0105, i\u0161sikelti aukl\u0117jimo ideologij\u0105 ir pagal visa tai priimti sprendimus. Kitu atveju &#8211; mes tik i\u0161sek\u0119 t\u0117vai, sklendatys ore su viltimi, kad gyvenimas i\u0161mokys m\u016bs\u0173 vaikus gyventi.&nbsp;Tikiu, kad ir i\u0161mokys, tik klausimas ar su tokia meile ir r\u016bpes\u010diu, kaip gal\u0117t\u0173 b\u016btent tam sutverti t\u0117vai?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Aukl\u0117jimas turi pad\u0117ti vaikui jaustis laisvam gamtos d\u0117sni\u0173 pasaulyje. Ne laisvam daryti k\u0105 jis nori ir gyventi savo nor\u0173 vergov\u0117je, o b\u016bti laisvam nuo pa\u010dio sav\u0119s, nuo nevaldom\u0173 impuls\u0173, nuo nesuvokt\u0173 situacij\u0173 ir leisti m\u0117gautis gyvenimu tinkamai.&nbsp;Ir turime apie 20 met\u0173 juos tam paruo\u0161ti.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Kilus bet kokiam klausimui (aukl\u0117jimo tema) a\u0161 visada gr\u0105\u017einu save \u012f prad\u017ei\u0173 prad\u017ei\u0105 &#8211; kaip gimsta, kod\u0117l gimsta \u017emogus ir kok\u012f vaidmen\u012f atlieka t\u0117vai. Tai man leid\u017eia neautralizuoti man\u0105j\u012f ,,A\u0161&#8221; ir nusileisti \u012f mano ir vaik\u0173 bendr\u0105 pasaul\u012f. Tada v\u0117l atgimsta noras lyd\u0117ti vaikus per gyvenim\u0105, savo pavyzd\u017eiu rodyti jiems kaip mes elgiam\u0117s, kod\u0117l. Aukl\u0117ti.&nbsp; Ir tokiu b\u016bdu sukurti tam tikrus \u0161ablonus j\u0173 atmintyje ir \u0161irdyje, jog stresin\u0117je situacijoje jie \u017einot\u0173 kaip elgtis, jog pasekm\u0117s ateityje jiems nepridararyt\u0173 sunkum\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Prie\u0161ingu atveju, vaikas elgsis spontani\u0161kai, turb\u016bt 99 kartus i\u0161 100 netinkamai, juk k\u0105 gali nuspr\u0119sti vaikas, kuris nesuvokia kokioje didel\u0117je sistemoje gyvena, kaip jo sprendimai \u012ftakos jo paties sekan\u010di\u0105 b\u016bsen\u0105 ir pan.. Jau nekalbant apie tai, kad vaikas neturi tos did\u017eiul\u0117s patirties, koki\u0105 turiu a\u0161 ir gebu nujausti b\u016bsimus pavojus. Vaikas ne\u017eino, kad po veiksmo bus ir pas\u0117km\u0117s, vaikas ne\u017eino, kas jo laukia ,,u\u017eaugus&#8221;, koki\u0173 pagrindini\u0173 \u012franki\u0173 jam reikia norint i\u0161gyventi moderniame pasaulyje. To turiu i\u0161mokyti a\u0161, jo mama. Nesitik\u0117ti, jog jis \u012fgaus \u0161ias \u017einias i\u0161 sav\u0119s&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Pagrindin\u0119 mint\u012f i\u0161reik\u0161\u010diau taip: k\u0105 ir kur vaikas geba arba tur\u0117t\u0173 geb\u0117ti pagal savo brandos lyg\u012f padaryti\/ atlikti &#8211; a\u0161 pra\u0161au jo tai atlikti, o tai, su kuo jis dar niekada nesusid\u016br\u0117 mes bandome spr\u0119sti kartu.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Pastaruoju laiku padeda principas 1-2-3.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list ul1\">\n<li>1- \u012evardijame problem\u0105 (kartais vaikas negali \u012fvardyti, nes prie\u017easts gali b\u016bti, jog tr\u016bksta miego, netinkamas maistas, tr\u016bksta ry\u0161io su mama ir pan.);\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>2- Kalbame apie tai, o kaip nor\u0117tume, kad b\u016bt\u0173;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>3- Leid\u017eiame sau svajoti kaip pasiekti norimos b\u016bsenos.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Skamba labai gra\u017eiai. Tad skubu prisipa\u017einti, kad pokalbiai neb\u016bna tokie ,,prie arbatos&#8221; tipo. Audros, a\u0161aros, atvirumas, bet galiausiai, jeigu mums pavyksta i\u0161girsti vieniems kitus &#8211; apsilanko begalinis d\u017eiaugsmas ir jausmas, jog n\u0117ra didesn\u0117s dovanos kaip tai, jog turime vieni kitus.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Ne\u017einau kaip vaikai, bet a\u0161 visada pagalvoju: ,,vaje&#8230; viena jau b\u016b\u010diau prapuolusi savyje&#8230;&#8221;.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Tai veikia mums, neb\u016btinai tai veiks ir kitiems. Bet garantuoju, kad bandymas ne tik ,,i\u0161plaukti&#8221; i\u0161 situacijos, bet ugdyti vaiko geb\u0117jim\u0105 joje kur\u012f laik\u0105 i\u0161silaikyti ir tada atrasti krypt\u012f &#8211; tikrai atne\u0161 daug laiming\u0173, savimi pelnytai patenkint\u0173 veid\u0173.&nbsp;O mes b\u016bsim \u0161alia ir su pasidid\u017eiavimu linktel\u0117sim galv\u0105 ar mirktel\u0117sim ak\u012f \ud83d\ude42 <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kaip mama, da\u017enai susiduriu su klausimais: ,,Kiek laisv\u0117s tur\u0117tume suteikti savo vaikams? Kur yra ta riba tarp leidimo jiems tyrin\u0117ti savo nepriklausomyb\u0119, klysti ir mokytis atsakomyb\u0117s bei \u012fsiki\u0161imo kaip u\u017e vaik\u0105 atsakingo \u017emogaus?&#8221; \u0160i dilema kone kasdien pasirei\u0161kia m\u016bs\u0173 gyvenime \u012fvairiose srityse ir reikalauja sprendim\u0173, kantryb\u0117s ir daug savistabos. 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