Jaunyst\u0117je santykiai atrod\u0117 tokie nenusp\u0117jami, pain\u016bs. Po \u0161itiek met\u0173 praktinio santyki\u0173 studijavimo suprantu, jog i\u0161 ties\u0173 tarp partneri\u0173 egzistuoja tik vienas d\u0117snis, kurio laikantis poros i\u0161lieka kartu ilgai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0160iandien, va\u017eiuodama autobusu, nugirdau moter\u0173 pokalb\u012f apie vienos j\u0173 skyrybas. Kokia neteisyb\u0117: ji atidav\u0117 save vis\u0105 vaikams, o vyras susirado jaun\u0105, su dar dideliu noru patirti nauj\u0173 dalyk\u0173, o senoji \u017emona \u2013 jau nebe \u201enauja\u201c, am\u017einai pavargusi, reikalaujanti per daug, nebe tokia linksma kaip jaunyst\u0117je.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mudu su vyru tikime, kad pats gyvenimas rodo, jog negalima nieko palikti savieigai ir visada visk\u0105 galima paai\u0161kinti logi\u0161kai. Ta prasme \u2013 yra prie\u017eastis ir pasekm\u0117.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gan didel\u0117 problema ta, kad \u0161iuolaikin\u0117 visuomen\u0117 nutolo nuo nat\u016brali\u0173 vyr\u0173 ir moter\u0173 vaidmen\u0173, o tai sukelia painiav\u0105 ir nesaugum\u0105 santykiuose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jeigu visuomen\u0117je gautume palaikym\u0105 ir tam tikr\u0105 svarb\u0105 gr\u012f\u017eti prie nat\u016brali\u0173 ry\u0161i\u0173, kuriuose \u017emon\u0117s priima save ir vienas kit\u0105 tokius, kokie jie yra, ir siekia ry\u0161io nepaisant skirtum\u0173, tuomet ir \u0161eimos vaizdinys pasikeist\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ta\u010diau \u0161iandien taip n\u0117ra. Pasteb\u0117jau dar svarb\u0173 moment\u0105 \u2013 tiek vyras, tiek moteris da\u017enu atveju patys i\u0161naudoja vienas kito resursus, ir santykiai lieka \u201enualinti\u201c, nes nat\u016brali \u017emogaus programa siekia tik gauti naudos. Kitaip tariant – nustoja veikti hormonai. Kai kitas \u017emogus man nebenaudingas, buvimas su juo man ne tik kad nebeteikia malonumo, bet kelia neigiamus jausmus. Tai \u010dia tik klausimas \u2013 per kiek laiko i\u0161spausime visk\u0105 gero vienas i\u0161 kito.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Prie\u0161 akis matau t\u0105 brand\u017ei\u0105, r\u016bpes\u010dio paliest\u0105 moter\u012f i\u0161 autobuso ir galvoju, jog \u0161iuolaikinio pasaulio vertyb\u0117s tikrai sumai\u0161\u0117 kortas. Juk jeigu moteris, susilaukusi vaik\u0173, atitolsta nuo intymaus santykio su vyru tik tod\u0117l, kad yra pavargusi, r\u016bpinasi daug dalyk\u0173 vienu metu ir nat\u016braliai jos prioritetai kei\u010diasi, tai tuo periodu vyras tur\u0117t\u0173 neleisti jai nuvysti tiek, jog moteris jam pasidaro nepatraukli ar pan. Jis galb\u016bt gal\u0117t\u0173 b\u016bti tas, kuris subiliai gr\u0105\u017eint\u0173 moteriai nor\u0105 ir svarb\u0105 skirti laiko tik judviem. Tikiu, kad moterys to nori, tik didelis gyvenimo tempas jas \u012ftraukia \u012f tam tikras sritis, palikdamas kitas be d\u0117mesio (pvz.: vyras). <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vyras – taip pat \u017emogus, kuriam reikalinga ir \u0161iluma, ir d\u0117mesys. Moterims da\u017cnai atrodo, jog gyvename tik d\u0117l vaik\u0173, o vyras jau ne prie ko. Bet vaikai gimsta i\u0161 abiej\u0173 susiliejimo, tod\u0117l pirmenyb\u0117 visada turi b\u016bti skiriama jiems abiems, kaip auk\u0161\u010diausiam piramid\u0117s ta\u0161kui, o tik tada – vaikams. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jeigu santykiai n\u0117ra statomi s\u0105moningai, tada nat\u016braliai santykiuose abu partneriai siekia naudos sau, kur ir prasilenkia vektoriai: moter\u012f vidiniais instinktais traukia prie vaik\u0173, prie bendr\u0173 nam\u0173, o vyras laukia u\u017esipildymo i\u0161 moters. Tai \u0161iuo atveju, kiek kiekvienas skirt\u0173 savo laiko, d\u0117mesio ir svarbos vir\u0161 savo asmeninio intereso (klausimo \u201ekod\u0117l a\u0161?\u201c), tiek j\u0173 santykiai ir stipr\u0117t\u0173. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Man \u0161i tema labai artima\u2026 Taip norisi tos dr\u0105sos \u2013 nepasl\u0117pti \u0161io gamtos siun\u010diamo i\u0161\u0161\u016bkio po kilimu, o pa\u017einti j\u012f ir s\u0105moningai \u012fveikti. Svarbiausia \u2013 \u012fveikti kartu. Nenualinti vienas kito, santyki\u0173, o maitinti. Maitinti tarpusavio nusileidimais. Och, kaip sunku tai padaryti, bet argi nenorime gyventi laimingai?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Jaunyst\u0117je santykiai atrod\u0117 tokie nenusp\u0117jami, pain\u016bs. Po \u0161itiek met\u0173 praktinio santyki\u0173 studijavimo suprantu, jog i\u0161 ties\u0173 tarp partneri\u0173 egzistuoja tik vienas d\u0117snis, kurio laikantis poros i\u0161lieka kartu ilgai. \u0160iandien, va\u017eiuodama autobusu, nugirdau moter\u0173 pokalb\u012f apie vienos j\u0173 skyrybas. Kokia neteisyb\u0117: ji atidav\u0117 save vis\u0105 vaikams, o vyras susirado jaun\u0105, su dar dideliu noru patirti nauj\u0173 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":16910,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[44],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20019","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vyrai-moterys-santuoka-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/mamos_gimse-532.jpg",2048,1365,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/mamos_gimse-532-800x800.jpg",800,800,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/mamos_gimse-532-800x533.jpg",800,533,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/mamos_gimse-532-768x512.jpg",768,512,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/mamos_gimse-532-1024x683.jpg",1024,683,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/mamos_gimse-532-1536x1024.jpg",1536,1024,true],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/mamos_gimse-532.jpg",2048,1365,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Jaunyst\u0117je santykiai atrod\u0117 tokie nenusp\u0117jami, pain\u016bs. 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