{"id":20035,"date":"2025-05-30T23:34:27","date_gmt":"2025-05-30T20:34:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=20035"},"modified":"2025-05-30T23:48:18","modified_gmt":"2025-05-30T20:48:18","slug":"mes-visai-ne-vienodi-ir-tai-musu-sansas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/mes-visai-ne-vienodi-ir-tai-musu-sansas\/","title":{"rendered":"MES VISAI NE VIENODI &#8211; IR TAI M\u016aS\u0172 \u0160ANSAS"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Pasteb\u0117jau vien\u0105 dalyk\u0105, kuris nuolat i\u0161lenda \u2013 pokalbiuose su draug\u0117mis, su vyru ar net stebint kit\u0173 poras. Mes ka\u017ekod\u0117l vis dar tikim\u0117s, kad vyrai ir moterys <em>tur\u0117t\u0173<\/em> b\u016bti vienodi. Vienodai jausti, vienodai reaguoti, vienodai komunikuoti. Ir kai tai nesuveikia \u2013 apima nusivylimas. Lyg ka\u017ekas tarp m\u016bs\u0173 \u201ene taip\u201c. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ilg\u0105 laik\u0105 ir pati taip galvojau. Jei a\u0161 ka\u017ek\u0105 jau\u010diu, tai jam irgi tur\u0117t\u0173 b\u016bti akivaizdu. Jei man reikia \u0161velnumo, tai juk nat\u016bralu \u2013 jis <em>tur\u0117t\u0173 \u017einoti<\/em>. O geriausias variantas &#8211; jis turi skaityti mano mintis ir mane nustebinti! Bet ne kart\u0105 \u012fsitikinau, jog vyrai neturi toki\u0173 sugeb\u0117jim\u0173 ir jie visk\u0105 jau\u010dia kitaip. Ir tai neb\u016btinai blogai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mes esame du skirtingi pasauliai. Vyras ir moteris yra dvi \u017emogaus pus\u0117s. Kiekvienas \u2013 savaip ribotas, kol neprisileid\u017eia kito. Ne tam, kad susiliet\u0173 \u012f vien\u0105, o kad papildyt\u0173 vienas kit\u0105. Tai ne tik gra\u017ei metafora \u2013 tai ir reali vidin\u0117 b\u016bsena. Kai \u012fsis\u0105monini, jog kito nereikia \u201epataisyti\u201c, tik tada atsiranda erdv\u0117s tikram ry\u0161iui.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pajuokaujame, kad vyrai i\u0161 Marso, o moterys i\u0161 Veneros, bet praktikoje tuo sunku remtis. Kod\u0117l? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nes kai reikia spr\u0119sti buit\u012f, auginti vaikus ar kurti artum\u0105, tas \u201eplanet\u0173\u201c modelis ma\u017eai pagelbsti. Jis labiau pabr\u0117\u017eia skirtumus, bet nepasi\u016blo tilt\u0173. O juk tiltai ir yra tai, ko mums reikia. Ne teorij\u0173, o paprasto: \u201eA\u0161 gird\u017eiu, kad tau tai svarbu, net jei pats taip nejau\u010diu.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A\u0161 \u2013 jausminga, man reikia \u017eod\u017ei\u0173, smulkmen\u0173, \u0161ilumos. Jis \u2013 konkretus, orientuotas \u012f sprendimus. Man atrodo, kad jis ka\u017eko \u201enepagauna\u201c. Jam atrodo, kad a\u0161 \u201eperlenkiu\u201c. Ir mes \u2013 lyg dvi skirtingos kalbos, abi teisingos, bet viena kitai \u2013 sunkiai i\u0161ver\u010diamos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Moteris i\u0161 prigimties nori ry\u0161io, o vyras \u2013 nori laisv\u0117s. Ir nors i\u0161 prad\u017ei\u0173 tai atrodo prie\u0161tara, i\u0161 ties\u0173 tai tiesiog du skirtingi impulsai. Moteris daugiau prisitaiko, jau\u010dia, nori susilieti. Vyras da\u017enai nori pab\u0117gti \u2013 ne tod\u0117l, kad nemyli, o tod\u0117l, kad ry\u0161ys j\u012f g\u0105sdina. Kai t\u0105 \u017einai \u2013 ir nesureik\u0161mini tylos ar grubesnio atsakymo. Suvoki: jis vis tiek \u010dia. Tik savaip.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nuo jaunyst\u0117s maniau, kad man reikia \u201ei\u0161mokyti\u201c vyr\u0105 jausti, reaguoti, matyti pasaul\u012f mano akimis. Bet po \u0161itiek bendro darbo met\u0173 supratau, kokia paika \u0161i mintis buvo. Abu partneriai yra sutverti savo vaidmenyse ir viskas, ko mums tr\u016bksta &#8211; i\u0161mokti gyventi tik d\u0117l bendro ry\u0161io, stengtis <em>priimti<\/em>. Nes tada tarp m\u016bs\u0173 atsiranda vietos ry\u0161iui, o ne l\u016bkes\u010di\u0173 nusivylimui.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nereikia b\u016bti vienodais, kad b\u016btum\u0117m kartu. U\u017etenka abiem <em>nor\u0117ti b\u016bti<\/em>, net jei kalbam skirtingai.  Tikra partneryst\u0117 gimsta tada, kai abu \u017emon\u0117s atsiveria palaipsniui \u2013 ne per j\u0117g\u0105, ne i\u0161 baim\u0117s prarasti, o i\u0161 s\u0105moningo noro kurti. Ir kai tai darome ne tam, kad pakeistume kit\u0105, bet kad labiau pa\u017eintume \u2013 ima rastis ne tik ry\u0161ys, bet ir pagarba.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Pasteb\u0117jau vien\u0105 dalyk\u0105, kuris nuolat i\u0161lenda \u2013 pokalbiuose su draug\u0117mis, su vyru ar net stebint kit\u0173 poras. Mes ka\u017ekod\u0117l vis dar tikim\u0117s, kad vyrai ir moterys tur\u0117t\u0173 b\u016bti vienodi. Vienodai jausti, vienodai reaguoti, vienodai komunikuoti. Ir kai tai nesuveikia \u2013 apima nusivylimas. Lyg ka\u017ekas tarp m\u016bs\u0173 \u201ene taip\u201c. Ilg\u0105 laik\u0105 ir pati taip galvojau. 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