Galiu prisipa\u017einti\u2013 b\u016bti atvirai poroje man vis dar n\u0117ra lengva. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ne d\u0117l to, kad bijau pasakyti ties\u0105 ar nenor\u0117\u010diau dalintis. Bet kartais atrodo, kad kai kurie dalykai yra \u201ene tiek svarb\u016bs\u201c, kad vert\u0117t\u0173 juos kelti. Arba kad \u201ene dabar\u201c, \u201ene \u0161iandien\u201c, \u201ekam gadintis nuotaik\u0105\u201c. O tada praeina savait\u0117, o gal dvi \u2013 ir suprantu, kad viduje kaupiasi. Lyg ma\u017eytis debesis, kurio niekas nemato, bet jis ten yra. Kol galiausia prapliumpa lietus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pasteb\u0117jau, kad tyl\u0117jimas \u2013 neapsaugo. O atid\u0117tas \u017eodis \u2013 da\u017eniausiai tampa skaudesnis, kai pagaliau i\u0161tariamas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pasteb\u0117jau, kad b\u016bti atvirai \u2013 tai ne visada rei\u0161kia i\u0161kalb\u0117ti visk\u0105 iki galo. Kartais tai tiesiog sakyti: \u201eA\u0161 jau\u010diuosi nutolusi.\u201c<\/em> \u201eMan reikia, kad i\u0161girstum.\u201c<\/em> \u201eBijau, kad tai mus tolina.\u201c<\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n Mano \u012fsitikinimu, svarbu b\u016bti nuo\u0161ird\u017eiam pa\u010diam su savimi ir savo partneriu. O kai tarp dviej\u0173 \u017emoni\u0173 skamba tiesa, net ir nelabai gra\u017ei \u2013 atsiranda erdv\u0117. Erdv\u0117 gird\u0117ti, matyti, reaguoti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kuo daugiau sakau garsiai tai, k\u0105 jau\u010diu \u2013 tuo ma\u017eiau reikia ai\u0161kintis po to. Net jei reakcija i\u0161 kitos pus\u0117s ne i\u0161 karto ideali. Nes kai \u017emogus \u017eino, kur tu esi \u2013 jam lengviau prie tav\u0119s prieiti. Ypatingai, jeigu tas \u017emogus toks kaip a\u0161 – u\u017erakinu visk\u0105 po \u0161imtu spin\u0173 \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n\n Atvirumas n\u0117ra vienkartinis sprendimas. Tai pasirinkimas kiekvien\u0105 dien\u0105 \u2013 pasitik\u0117ti, kad santykiai pakankamai stipr\u016bs atlaikyti ne tik \u0161ypsenas, bet ir pastabas. Ne tik palaikym\u0105, bet ir nelygumus. Ir galb\u016bt tai yra tikras artumas \u2013 ne kai viskas tobula, o kai viskas tikra<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Po daugelio met\u0173 supratau vien\u0105 dalyk\u0105: mes su vyru esame ne du oponentai, o viena sistema. Vienas k\u016bnas. Vienas organizmas. Ir jei ka\u017ekas skauda man \u2013 tai ne \u201emano problema\u201c, tai m\u016bs\u0173 signalas, kad ry\u0161ys prarado pusiausvyr\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Tokiais momentais stengiuosi ne susisukti \u012f save, o priminti sau \u2013 jei tai jau\u010diu a\u0161, vadinasi, jau\u010diame mes abu. Tik gal vienas i\u0161 m\u016bs\u0173 tai jau\u010dia tyliai, dar be \u017eod\u017ei\u0173. Ir atvirumas n\u0117ra b\u016bdas \u012fskaudinti, o kvietimas sugr\u012f\u017eti \u012f kontakt\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Mes nesame tobuli. Bet jeigu laikysime ry\u0161\u012f ne kaip atsakomyb\u0119 ar pareig\u0105, o kaip dovan\u0105, kuria r\u016bpinam\u0117s abu, tuomet visi momentai gali virsti augimu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Mes abu kartais suklumpame. Bet jei bent vienas i\u0161 m\u016bs\u0173 primena: \u201emes esame toje pa\u010dioje valtyje\u201c<\/em> \u2013 viskas v\u0117l gr\u012f\u017eta \u012f viet\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Galiausiai, gal svarbiausia yra net ne kiek mes vienas kit\u0105 suprantame, o kiek stengiam\u0117s nesiliauti b\u016bti \u0161alia \u2013 net kai nesuprantame? <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Galiu prisipa\u017einti\u2013 b\u016bti atvirai poroje man vis dar n\u0117ra lengva. Ne d\u0117l to, kad bijau pasakyti ties\u0105 ar nenor\u0117\u010diau dalintis. Bet kartais atrodo, kad kai kurie dalykai yra \u201ene tiek svarb\u016bs\u201c, kad vert\u0117t\u0173 juos kelti. Arba kad \u201ene dabar\u201c, \u201ene \u0161iandien\u201c, \u201ekam gadintis nuotaik\u0105\u201c. O tada praeina savait\u0117, o gal dvi \u2013 ir suprantu, kad […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5378,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"set","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[44],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20037","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vyrai-moterys-santuoka-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-straipsniai-nupirkti-vyra.jpg",1200,675,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-straipsniai-nupirkti-vyra-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-straipsniai-nupirkti-vyra-300x169.jpg",300,169,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-straipsniai-nupirkti-vyra-768x432.jpg",768,432,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-straipsniai-nupirkti-vyra-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-straipsniai-nupirkti-vyra.jpg",1200,675,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-straipsniai-nupirkti-vyra.jpg",1200,675,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Galiu prisipa\u017einti\u2013 b\u016bti atvirai poroje man vis dar n\u0117ra lengva. 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