{"id":20149,"date":"2025-07-30T01:34:36","date_gmt":"2025-07-29T22:34:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=20149"},"modified":"2025-07-30T01:34:36","modified_gmt":"2025-07-29T22:34:36","slug":"auginti-zmogu-ne-tik-vaika","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/auginti-zmogu-ne-tik-vaika\/","title":{"rendered":"AUGINTI \u017dMOG\u0172, NE TIK VAIK\u0104"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"p1\"><em>Kaip auginti vaik\u0105, kuris moka sustoti<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Visai neseniai su vaikais tur\u0117jome pokalb\u012f apie save, po kilusio konflikto tarp j\u0173. S\u016bnus, apimtas impulsyvumo, susprogdino dukters balion\u0105. Pastaroji moka sukurti dram\u0105. Buvo triuk\u0161minga, intensyvu ir nenusp\u0117jama.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">\u2013 <em>\u0160\u0161\u0161\u2026 ar galiu jums kai k\u0105 nupie\u0161ti ant lentos?<\/em> \u2013 band\u017eiau nutraukti \u0161urmul\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Pavyko.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Nupie\u0161iau \u017emog\u0173, padalint\u0105 \u012f dvi dalis: pirmoji, labai didel\u0117, \u2013 m\u016bs\u0173 \u201egamykliniai parametrai\u201c, impulsyvumas; antroji \u2013 labai ma\u017eyt\u0117, s\u0105mon\u0117.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8211; <em>Kai mes supykstame, kai mums ka\u017ekas nepasiseka, kai i\u0161orin\u0117s situacijos neatitinka m\u016bs\u0173 l\u016bkes\u010di\u0173 \u2013 automati\u0161kai pasijungia emocijos ir impulsyvumas. Mes to negalime valdyti, ypa\u010d vaikai. Auginant s\u0105moningum\u0105 (vaikams sakiau \u2013 \u201esuper gali\u0105\u201c matyti pasekmes: \u201ekas bus po to?\u201c, \u201ekaip tai \u012ftakos m\u016bs\u0173 draugyst\u0119?\u201c), impulsyvumo galia silpsta. Bent jau nebesvaidai daikt\u0173 ir nesprogdini balion\u0173, d\u0117l ko paskui b\u016bna g\u0117da.&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list ul1\"><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Svarbu tai, kai \u017emogus pasiduoda savo prigim\u010diai, jis lyg kal\u0117jime. I\u0161 ten vienas nei\u0161silaisvinsi. Reikia kito \u2013 tokio, kuris irgi dirba su savimi, kuris padeda tau pamatyti save i\u0161 \u0161alies, i\u0161tarti t\u0105 \u201estop\u201c arba parodyti, kad galima kitaip.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Tod\u0117l \u0161eima \u2013 ideali vieta \u0161itam darbui. Jei bent vienas suaug\u0119s geba pamatyti giliau, gali b\u016bti tuo, kuris \u0161velniai traukia kit\u0105 i\u0161 jo vidinio automato. T\u0105 dien\u0105, tarp balion\u0173 ir a\u0161ar\u0173, t\u0105 band\u017eiau padaryti a\u0161.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Neklausiau, kiek vaikai to suprato. Bet abu nurimo. Ir tada sek\u0117 mano paskutinis klausimas s\u016bnui:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">\u2013 <em>Ar dabar dar nori susprogdinti likusius balionus?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Jis papurt\u0117 galv\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8211; <em>\u0160i situacija mums \u2013 kaip dovana. Galime palyginti, kaip veikia k\u016bnas automati\u0161kai ir kaip \u2013 kai nurimsta hormonai. Jau\u010diat?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list ul1\"><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Kambaryje vis dar buvo tyla, bet veiduose pasirod\u0117 nedr\u0105sios \u0161ypsenos. Ne\u017einau, i\u0161 kur atsirado j\u0117g\u0173 \u012fveikti pa\u010dios prigimt\u012f, bet perlipau per save, apkabinau abu ir palikau juodu tyloje. Atsinaujinimo mygtukas buvo paspaustas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">O man \u012f galv\u0105 at\u0117jo naujas suvokimas: gyv\u016bnas gali sau leisti elgtis impulsyviai, pagal savo \u012fgimtus parametrus, bet \u017emogaus tikslas \u2013 i\u0161mokti gyventi tarsi \u201evir\u0161\u201c j\u0173. Toks po\u017ei\u016bris palengina sprendim\u0173 pri\u0117mim\u0105 vaik\u0173 aukl\u0117jime.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Pavyzd\u017eiui, kompiuteriniai \u017eaidimai. Jeigu vaikas nuolat \u201egyvena\u201c Roblox pasaulyje, pagalvojau, kuriame gali nevar\u017eyti sav\u0119s (t. y. \u0161audyti, kovoti, laipioti, grumtis, apgauti ir pan.), tai ko i\u0161 tokio vaiko tik\u0117tis realiame gyvenime, kuris reikalauja valdyti savo vidin\u012f \u017ev\u0117r\u012f? Vaikui tiesiog sunku.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Taip pat, naivu tik\u0117tis, jog vaikas rinksis s\u0105moningai. \u017dinoma, kad eis lengvuoju keliu: ma\u017eai pastang\u0173, daug malonumo. Nes tuo gyvena dauguma vaik\u0173 ir suaugusi\u0173j\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Vaikams reikia pramog\u0173. Reikia atsipalaiduoti. Tai normalu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Ta\u010diau kai pramogos tampa nuolatiniu pab\u0117gimu nuo atsakomyb\u0117s ar rib\u0173, kai visa, kas skatina auginti nevaldom\u0105 \u017emogaus prigimt\u012f, \u2013 \u201ei\u0161laisvinti tikr\u0105j\u012f save\u201c \u2013 u\u017ego\u017eia santyk\u012f su kitais ir savimi, tai jau ne augimas. Tai \u2013 maistas egoizmui. O tikroji vaiko asmenyb\u0117 \u2013 s\u0105moningumas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Ra\u0161au ir stebiuosi, koks kategori\u0161kas gavosi \u0161is \u012fra\u0161as, bet tiek daug vaik\u0173 \u0161iandien tiesiog pask\u0119sta tame \u201etikrojo sav\u0119s i\u0161laisvinime\u201c, kuris da\u017enai rei\u0161kia: \u201enedrausmink man\u0119s, leisk daryti, k\u0105 noriu\u201c. Ir tada mes, suaugusieji, tampame bej\u0117giai prie\u0161 j\u0173 impuls\u0173 potvynius.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Bet juk m\u016bs\u0173 darbas \u2013 b\u016bti jiems tais, kurie padeda u\u017eaugti. Ne tik augti auk\u0161tyn, bet ir gilyn. \u012e save. \u012e t\u0105 viet\u0105, kur gimsta s\u0105moningumas, pasirinkimas, atsakomyb\u0117.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Kartais tai padarai su pie\u0161iniu ant lentos. Kartais \u2013 su apkabinimu po konflikto. Kartais \u2013 su \u201ene\u201c, kuris atrodo nepopuliarus, bet i\u0161gelbsti nuo vidinio chaoso.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Ir tada vaikas ima suprasti: jis gali b\u016bti ne tik \u201ekoks yra\u201c, bet ir \u201ekoks gali ir turi b\u016bti\u201c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p1\">Ir tai \u2013 jau \u017emogus.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kaip auginti vaik\u0105, kuris moka sustoti Visai neseniai su vaikais tur\u0117jome pokalb\u012f apie save, po kilusio konflikto tarp j\u0173. S\u016bnus, apimtas impulsyvumo, susprogdino dukters balion\u0105. Pastaroji moka sukurti dram\u0105. Buvo triuk\u0161minga, intensyvu ir nenusp\u0117jama. \u2013 \u0160\u0161\u0161\u2026 ar galiu jums kai k\u0105 nupie\u0161ti ant lentos? \u2013 band\u017eiau nutraukti \u0161urmul\u012f. Pavyko. Nupie\u0161iau \u017emog\u0173, padalint\u0105 \u012f dvi dalis: [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":20148,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20149","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vaiku-auklejimas-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/378ebcef-6818-4ee1-aece-0e96a54e544b.jpg",1024,512,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/378ebcef-6818-4ee1-aece-0e96a54e544b-800x512.jpg",800,512,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/378ebcef-6818-4ee1-aece-0e96a54e544b-800x400.jpg",800,400,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/378ebcef-6818-4ee1-aece-0e96a54e544b-768x384.jpg",768,384,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/378ebcef-6818-4ee1-aece-0e96a54e544b.jpg",1024,512,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/378ebcef-6818-4ee1-aece-0e96a54e544b.jpg",1024,512,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/378ebcef-6818-4ee1-aece-0e96a54e544b.jpg",1024,512,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Kaip auginti vaik\u0105, kuris moka sustoti Visai neseniai su vaikais tur\u0117jome pokalb\u012f apie save, po kilusio konflikto tarp j\u0173. S\u016bnus, apimtas impulsyvumo, susprogdino dukters balion\u0105. Pastaroji moka sukurti dram\u0105. Buvo triuk\u0161minga, intensyvu ir nenusp\u0117jama. \u2013 \u0160\u0161\u0161\u2026 ar galiu jums kai k\u0105 nupie\u0161ti ant lentos? \u2013 band\u017eiau nutraukti \u0161urmul\u012f. Pavyko. 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