Kaip lengva, atrodo, \u017eav\u0117tis ma\u017eesniu vaiku: koks jis mielas, kaip \u012fdomiai ka\u017ek\u0105 pasak\u0117, nupie\u0161\u0117, sukonstravo. Tas teigiamas d\u0117mesys ir palaikymas yra tarsi tr\u0105\u0161os: vaikas auga, pasitiki savimi, nebijo \u017eengti pirmyn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
O su vyresniu vaiku neretai pradedame elgtis kaip su sau lygiu: jis jau turi \u201esuprasti i\u0161 karto\u201c, teisingai reaguoti \u012f pastabas, \u201esusitvarkyti\u201c. Ir ka\u017ekur pakeliui dingsta tas \u0161velnus \u017evilgsnis, kur\u012f nat\u016braliai turime ma\u017eiesiems. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ugdydama \u0161eimoje skirtingo am\u017eiaus vaikus supratau vien\u0105 dalyk\u0105: bet kurio vaiko vidinis pasaulis nusipelno pagarbos, r\u016bpes\u010dio ir palaikymo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tikiu, kad b\u016btent toks ir yra t\u0117v\u0173 vaidmuo – pirmiausia sukurti sveik\u0105, palaikan\u010di\u0105 aplink\u0105, kurioje vaikas gali augti. Nesvarbu, kiek jam met\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u0161 da\u017enai prie\u0161 u\u017emiegant pagalvoju: \u201eRytoj nor\u0117\u010diau labiau pasistengti b\u016bti kiekvieno vaiko pasaulyje.\u201c Kartais u\u017eeina trumpa kalt\u0117s banga, bet kai ji praeina, gr\u012f\u017etu prie principo, kuris m\u016bs\u0173 \u0161eimoje veikia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pamenu, kai organizuodavau vaik\u0173 stovyklas, visada b\u016bdavo gra\u017eus, vieningas planas visoms am\u017eiaus grup\u0117ms (kuris neretai jau pirm\u0105 dien\u0105 atsidurdavo \u0161iuk\u0161li\u0173 d\u0117\u017e\u0117je). Atrod\u0117 logi\u0161ka: visk\u0105 apgalvojom, bus \u012fdomu. O rezultatas – prie\u0161ingas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tik v\u0117liau supratome, kod\u0117l: band\u0117me \u201epataikyti\u201c \u012f kiekvieno vaiko nor\u0105 ir b\u016bti jam draugu. Bet vaiko noras kinta grei\u010diau, nei mes sp\u0117jam sureaguoti. O ir neb\u016btinai jis atitiks planus! Tad nat\u016bralu, kad kiekvienas ima tempti antklod\u0119 \u012f savo pus\u0119 ir vietoj bendros veiklos gaudavosi asmenybi\u0173 pe\u0161tyn\u0117s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
L\u016b\u017eis \u012fvyko tada, kai fokus\u0105 perk\u0117l\u0117me nuo individuali\u0173 nor\u0173 \u012f bendr\u0105 lauk\u0105, kuris priklauso visiems. Vietoj bandymo \u012ftikti kiekvienam ar pritempti visus prie m\u016bs\u0173 sumanymo tiesiogiai, prad\u0117jome kurti erdv\u0119 bendrai kryp\u010diai ir dirbti su tais, kurie nori, stengiasi, \u012fsitraukia. Taip gimdavo branduolys, kuris traukdavo vis daugiau vaik\u0173. Tas garsiai r\u0117kiantis \u201eA\u0161\u201c gaudavo pauz\u0119, o \u201eMes\u201c sinergija tapdavo lauku, kuriame kiekvienas prad\u0117davo skleistis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tas pats principas i\u0161gelb\u0117ja mane ir ugdant savo vaikus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Trys vaikai \u2013 trys skirtingi nor\u0173 rinkiniai. Kol bandai \u012ftikti vienam, \u017ei\u016br\u0117k, norai jau pasikeit\u0117 ir viskas apsivert\u0117. Bet kai kuriame bendr\u0105 vidin\u012f \u0161eimos pasaul\u012f (nematom\u0105 akimis, bet jau\u010diam\u0105), staiga tampa papras\u010diau: vyresni vaikai v\u0117l tampa tais \u017emon\u0117mis, kuri\u0173 pasauliu gali nuo\u0161ird\u017eiai \u017eav\u0117tis ne ma\u017eiau nei ma\u017eaisiais. Jau nelalbant kiek daug pati i\u0161mokstu ir kaip tai stipriai kei\u010dia, formuoja mane.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ry\u0161ys man yra gelb\u0117jimosi ratas visose situacijose. Kai jis yra, a\u0161 pradedu gird\u0117ti ne tik \u017eod\u017eius, bet ir k\u016bno signalus: kada vaikas pervarg\u0119s, kada jam per daug, kada jam reikia artumo, o kada – erdv\u0117s. Ir tada klausimas \u201ekaip su juo bendrauti?\u201c tampa paprastesnis, nes vaikas jau\u010dia pagrind\u0105: t\u0117vai yra \u0161alia, a\u0161 esu saugus, a\u0161 visada galiu kreiptis pagalbos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir net jei kartais iki galo nesuprantu, kas dedasi jo galvoje ar \u0161irdyje, pats nueitas kelias link jo, pastanga suprasti, i\u0161tverm\u0117 b\u016bti \u0161alia ir u\u017esimezg\u0119s ry\u0161ys yra tikr\u0173 tikriausias laim\u0117jimas. Vaikas prisimena ne m\u016bs\u0173 tobulus sprendimus. Jis prisimena, ar buvome \u0161alia tada, kai jam to reik\u0117jo. Net jeigu tas \u017einojimas ateis tik po daugelio met\u0173.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Kaip lengva, atrodo, \u017eav\u0117tis ma\u017eesniu vaiku: koks jis mielas, kaip \u012fdomiai ka\u017ek\u0105 pasak\u0117, nupie\u0161\u0117, sukonstravo. Tas teigiamas d\u0117mesys ir palaikymas yra tarsi tr\u0105\u0161os: vaikas auga, pasitiki savimi, nebijo \u017eengti pirmyn. O su vyresniu vaiku neretai pradedame elgtis kaip su sau lygiu: jis jau turi \u201esuprasti i\u0161 karto\u201c, teisingai reaguoti \u012f pastabas, \u201esusitvarkyti\u201c. 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