Vaiko netinkamas elgesys neb\u016btinai rodo, kad problema yra pa\u010diame vaike. Labai da\u017enai jis tik parodo situacij\u0105, kurioje gyvena visa \u0161eima. Tod\u0117l kai vaiko elgesys mus i\u0161g\u0105sdina, suerzina ar nuli\u016bdina, pirmas klausimas tur\u0117t\u0173 b\u016bti ne \u201ekas jam negerai?\u201c, o \u201ekas vyksta m\u016bs\u0173 namuose?\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jeigu atsitinka nelaim\u0117, griebiam\u0117s pirmosios pagalbos vaistin\u0117l\u0117s. Pana\u0161iai ir \u0161eimoje. Kai pasirodo ka\u017ekoks ne\u012fprastas vaiko elgesys, kuris po to turi nemaloni\u0173 pasekmi\u0173, pirmoji pagalba tur\u0117t\u0173 b\u016bti ne skub\u0117jimas taisyti vaik\u0105, o bandymas pa\u017evelgti \u012f bendr\u0105 \u0161eimos atmosfer\u0105. Kas vyko tarp m\u016bs\u0173? Kuo gyvenome? Ko nepasteb\u0117jome? Ko nei\u0161girdome?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Da\u017enai vaikas ka\u017ek\u0105 transliuoja, tik mes to laiku nei\u0161girstame. Kartais jis yra sudirgintas. Kartais jis tiesiog sugeria tai, kuo gyvename mes patys. O kartais mes esame taip susikoncentrav\u0119 \u012f savo r\u016bpes\u010dius, kad net nepastebime, jog \u012ftampa, kuri\u0105 ne\u0161iojam\u0117s savyje, jau seniai tapo bendra nam\u0173 atmosfera.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mes da\u017enai \u017ei\u016brime \u012f pasekmes: tas ka\u017ek\u0105 pasak\u0117, tas supyko, tas trenk\u0117 durimis, tas prad\u0117jo verkti. Bet tai dar n\u0117ra pati prie\u017eastis. Tai tik matoma jos forma. Jeigu norime suprasti, kas i\u0161 tikr\u0173j\u0173 vyksta, turime \u017ei\u016br\u0117ti giliau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Man labai artimas palyginimas su virtuve. Kai gaminame maist\u0105, jau\u010diame kvapus. Kepama m\u0117sa skleid\u017eia aromat\u0105, prieskoniai pasklinda ore, kav\u0105 da\u017enai geriame ne tik d\u0117l skonio, bet ir d\u0117l kvapo. \u0160eimoje vyksta ka\u017ekas pana\u0161aus, tik tas poveikis yra neap\u010diuopiamas. Jis neturi kvapo, neturi skonio, bet mes visi j\u012f jau\u010diame. Tai emocin\u0117 atmosfera. Nematomos bangos, kurios sklinda namuose ir veikia kiekvien\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vaikai tam ypa\u010d jautr\u016bs. Jie dar nemoka visko i\u0161reik\u0161ti \u017eod\u017eiais, bet labai tiksliai pagauna tai, kas vyksta tarp suaugusi\u0173j\u0173. Jie jau\u010dia dirglum\u0105, atitolim\u0105, \u012ftamp\u0105, skub\u0117jim\u0105, nei\u0161sakyt\u0105 nepasitenkinim\u0105. Net jei jiems niekas nieko tiesiai nepasako, jie tai vis tiek sugeria.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tod\u0117l i\u0161 vaik\u0173 negalime reikalauti to, ko patys dar nesame suk\u016br\u0119 savo santykiuose. Atmosferos jie nei\u0161moksta i\u0161 pamokym\u0173. Jie j\u0105 \u012fkvepia i\u0161 m\u016bs\u0173 gyvenimo kartu. I\u0161 to, kaip kalbam\u0117s. Kaip sprend\u017eiame \u012ftampas. Kaip vienas \u012f kit\u0105 \u017ei\u016brime. Kaip vienas kit\u0105 palaikome arba ne.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vis labiau matau, kad \u0161eima – tai ne tik atskiri \u017emon\u0117s po vienu stogu. \u0160eima yra laukas tarp m\u016bs\u0173. Bendras jausminis laukas, kuriame visi arba jau\u010diasi saug\u016bs, arba ne. Ir b\u016btent \u0161itas laukas yra tikroji vieta, \u012f kuri\u0105 tur\u0117tume kreipti \u017evilgsn\u012f, kai vaike pasirodo ka\u017ekas sunku.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tai n\u0117ra lengva. Daug sunkiau negu tiesiog sudrausminti, paai\u0161kinti ar sukontroliuoti. Sunku atsitraukti nuo savo asmenini\u0173 jausm\u0173, nuo nuoskaud\u0173, nuo nuovargio, nuo to, k\u0105 jau\u010diu a\u0161 ar mano vyras, ir prad\u0117ti \u017ei\u016br\u0117ti \u012f tai, kas vyksta tarp m\u016bs\u0173. Bet b\u016btent ten da\u017eniausiai ir slypi prie\u017eastis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tod\u0117l kai vaike pasirodo \u201eproblema\u201c, man vis ma\u017eiau norisi j\u0105 matyti kaip jo asmenin\u012f tr\u016bkum\u0105. Da\u017eniau matau j\u0105 kaip \u017eenkl\u0105. Kaip kvietim\u0105 sustoti ir patikrinti, kuo dabar kv\u0117puoja m\u016bs\u0173 namai. K\u0105 juose kuriame. K\u0105 vieni kitiems perduodame.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nes gyvenimas \u0161eimoje i\u0161 tikr\u0173j\u0173 pana\u0161us \u012f virtuv\u0119. Joje nuolat ka\u017ek\u0105 gaminame. Tik ne vien maist\u0105. Mes gaminame artum\u0105. Arba atitolim\u0105. Palaikym\u0105. Arba \u012ftamp\u0105. Ramyb\u0119. Arba skub\u0117jim\u0105. Vaikai auga ne tik i\u0161 to, k\u0105 jiems sakome, bet ir i\u0161 to, k\u0105 kasdien kuriame tarp sav\u0119s.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Vaiko netinkamas elgesys neb\u016btinai rodo, kad problema yra pa\u010diame vaike. Labai da\u017enai jis tik parodo situacij\u0105, kurioje gyvena visa \u0161eima. Tod\u0117l kai vaiko elgesys mus i\u0161g\u0105sdina, suerzina ar nuli\u016bdina, pirmas klausimas tur\u0117t\u0173 b\u016bti ne \u201ekas jam negerai?\u201c, o \u201ekas vyksta m\u016bs\u0173 namuose?\u201c Jeigu atsitinka nelaim\u0117, griebiam\u0117s pirmosios pagalbos vaistin\u0117l\u0117s. Pana\u0161iai ir \u0161eimoje. 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