{"id":21293,"date":"2026-08-21T22:55:01","date_gmt":"2026-08-21T19:55:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=21293"},"modified":"2026-08-21T22:55:01","modified_gmt":"2026-08-21T19:55:01","slug":"eikit-po-velniu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/eikit-po-velniu\/","title":{"rendered":"EIKIT PO VELNI\u0172!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Arba dienos, kai atrodo, kad visi i\u0161 tav\u0119s ka\u017eko nori<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vis pagalvoju, kada gi b\u016bna tas momentas, kai norisi pasakyti, jog eikit visi po velni\u0173! Norisi nematyti, negird\u0117ti. Trumpam persikrauti. Galvoju kod\u0117l taip yra? I\u0161 kur, kada kyla tokios mintys? Ir \u0161iai dienai vienas ry\u0161kiausi\u0173, pasikartojan\u010di\u0173 atvej\u0173 – per didelis vis\u0173 reikalavimas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tikiu, kad mes, moterys, ypatingai jautriai tai i\u0161gyvename. Tas \u012fgimtas noras, jog visiems b\u016bt\u0173 par\u016bpinta viso, ko jiems reikia  da\u017cnai nutrina asmenines ribas. Nors kartais klausiu gal neveltui gamtoje sutverta taip, jog vaikai gauna emocin\u012f palaikym\u0105, patarimus, aukl\u0117jim\u0105 ir pan. labiau per mam\u0105. Ji visgi ar\u010diau j\u0173 nei t\u0117tis (dauguma atveju, nenoriu nieko \u012f\u017eeisti). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tai ,,tomis” dienomis, kai nu\u0161audo visi vidiniai saugikliai, \u0117miau fiksuoti kas sukelia mano reakcijas, kaip to i\u0161vengti ar su\u0161velninti. Galiausiai, panaudoti vis\u0173 labui. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vienas da\u017eniausiai sutinkam\u0173 pavyzd\u017ei\u0173, kai vaikai suka aplink ratus, tarsi nori i\u0161 man\u0119s ka\u017eko, bet paklausti ar kas nutiko, ar nori ka\u017ek\u0105 pasakyti, jie nuo\u0161ird\u017eiai ne\u017eino k\u0105 atsakyti. Jie tarsi jau\u010dia, kad turiu ka\u017ek\u0105 jiems duoti. Po toki\u0173 keli\u0173 valand\u0173 man ima kilti pirmoji irzlumo banga su gana su svariais pasiteisinimais: tegul sugalvoja ko nori, lai patys pasidaro, prie ko \u010dia a\u0161?!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Negana to, \u012f tok\u012f emocin\u012f fon\u0105 gr\u012f\u017cta vyras. Jis tikisi vos keli\u0173 minu\u010di\u0173 su \u017emona, bet bent menkiausias jo kvietimas pokalbiui su\u017eadina vidinius \u017eaibus, lydimus kaltinimais ,,ko jis dabar i\u0161 man\u0119s reikalauja? O man? Kas apie mane pagalvos?”. \u0160tai \u010dia bet kuriuo momentu ima suktis uraganas ir jau nebeai\u0161ku, kas i\u0161 ko \u010dia reikalauja ko. S\u0117di u\u017ean\u010dia galva ir stebi spektakl\u012f, pavadinimu ,,\u0160eima”. \u0160m\u0117steli mintis, kad gal tu ir suk\u016brei t\u0105 uragan\u0105, gal a\u0161 ir turiu j\u012f nuraminti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nevyniojant nieko \u012f vat\u0105, dr\u0105siai ra\u0161au, kad taip, moteris pirmoji gauna sm\u016bg\u012f i\u0161 gamtos, paskui j\u0105 – visa jos aplinka. Kelion\u0117s tikslas, deja, taip pat priklauso kiek moteris staigiai geba numesti savas tiesas ir stengiasi ie\u0161koti b\u016bd\u0173 kilstel\u0117li nam\u0173 atmosfer\u0105 auk\u0161\u010diau kilusios suirut\u0117s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ry\u0161ys.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vienintelis man \u017einomas b\u016bdas, kuris veikia visada. Tik ne tas ry\u0161ys, kuriame sukandus dantis reikia dar truput\u012f pakent\u0117ti, dar truput\u012f visus suprasti ir dar ka\u017ekaip gra\u017eiau sureaguoti. Tokiomis akimirkomis manyje tam papras\u010diausiai neb\u0117ra vietos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Veikia kitas dalykas \u2013 nustoti ai\u0161kintis, kas \u010dia teisus. Vaikai, kurie jau kelias valandas sukasi aplink mane, grei\u010diausiai ir patys ne\u017eino, ko nori. Vyras, gr\u012f\u017e\u0119s namo ir norintis keli\u0173 minu\u010di\u0173 pokalbio, neb\u016btinai ka\u017eko i\u0161 man\u0119s reikalauja. O a\u0161, mintyse \u0161aukdama \u201eo kas pagalvos apie mane?\u201c, i\u0161 ties\u0173 irgi ka\u017eko i\u0161 j\u0173 reikalauju.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kad suprast\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kad pamatyt\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kad duot\u0173 erdv\u0117s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kad pagaliau nieko nenor\u0117t\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ir staiga pasidaro juokinga: namuose pilna \u017emoni\u0173, kurie vienas i\u0161 kito ka\u017eko laukia, ir kiekvienas jau\u010diasi tas, i\u0161 kurio reikalaujama. \u0160tai \u010dia man ir prasideda tikrasis darbas. Pabandyti pakeisti krypt\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u0161 \u201eko j\u016bs visi i\u0161 man\u0119s norite?\u201c \u012f \u201ekas dabar vyksta tarp m\u016bs\u0173?\u201c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kartais tam u\u017etenka pris\u0117sti \u0161alia vaik\u0173. Kartais \u2013 garsiai pasakyti, kad man jau per daug ir reikia de\u0161imties minu\u010di\u0173 tylos. Kartais \u2013 apkabinti vyr\u0105 anks\u010diau, nei sp\u0117ju i\u0161vardyti visus argumentus, kod\u0117l \u0161iandien jis pasirinko visi\u0161kai netinkam\u0105 moment\u0105 pokalbiui.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ka\u017ekas turi pirmas nustoti maitinti uragan\u0105. Ir vis da\u017eniau matau, kad \u0161eimoje tas \u201epirmas\u201c neb\u016btinai yra kaltas. Tai tiesiog tas, kuris pirmas pasteb\u0117jo, kas vyksta. T\u0105 akimirk\u0105, kai pastebiu a\u0161, pasirinkimas jau mano.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Galiu dar kart\u0105 \u012frodyti savo ties\u0105. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Arba pabandyti i\u0161saugoti tai, kas u\u017e j\u0105 svarbiau.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Arba dienos, kai atrodo, kad visi i\u0161 tav\u0119s ka\u017eko nori Vis pagalvoju, kada gi b\u016bna tas momentas, kai norisi pasakyti, jog eikit visi po velni\u0173! Norisi nematyti, negird\u0117ti. Trumpam persikrauti. Galvoju kod\u0117l taip yra? I\u0161 kur, kada kyla tokios mintys? Ir \u0161iai dienai vienas ry\u0161kiausi\u0173, pasikartojan\u010di\u0173 atvej\u0173 – per didelis vis\u0173 reikalavimas.  Tikiu, kad mes, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":21292,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[43],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21293","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moteris-mama-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/43174978-301a-48a0-bd30-60e26f838991.jpeg",1366,683,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/43174978-301a-48a0-bd30-60e26f838991-800x683.jpeg",800,683,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/43174978-301a-48a0-bd30-60e26f838991-800x400.jpeg",800,400,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/43174978-301a-48a0-bd30-60e26f838991-768x384.jpeg",768,384,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/43174978-301a-48a0-bd30-60e26f838991-1024x512.jpeg",1024,512,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/43174978-301a-48a0-bd30-60e26f838991.jpeg",1366,683,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/43174978-301a-48a0-bd30-60e26f838991.jpeg",1366,683,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Arba dienos, kai atrodo, kad visi i\u0161 tav\u0119s ka\u017eko nori Vis pagalvoju, kada gi b\u016bna tas momentas, kai norisi pasakyti, jog eikit visi po velni\u0173! Norisi nematyti, negird\u0117ti. Trumpam persikrauti. Galvoju kod\u0117l taip yra? I\u0161 kur, kada kyla tokios mintys? 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