Kartais pagalvoju, kam apskritai reikalinga dviej\u0173 \u017emoni\u0173 \u2013 vyro ir moters \u2013 s\u0105junga? Kokia jos prasm\u0117? Ar tik tam, kad susilauktume vaik\u0173, juos u\u017eaugintume ir prat\u0119stume gimin\u0119?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jeigu pa\u017evelgtume \u012f gyv\u016bn\u0173 pasaul\u012f, pamatytume, kad daugeliui r\u016b\u0161i\u0173 viskas vyksta gana paprastai. Patinas ir patel\u0117 susiporuoja, susilaukia jaunikli\u0173, kur\u012f laik\u0105 jais r\u016bpinasi, o v\u0117liau pasuka savais keliais. \u017dinoma, gamtoje yra \u012fvairiausi\u0173 pavyzd\u017ei\u0173, net ir toki\u0173, kai poros i\u0161lieka kartu vis\u0105 gyvenim\u0105. Ta\u010diau esm\u0117 ta, kad gyv\u016bnai vadovaujasi savo prigimtine programa. Jiems nereikia s\u0105moningai mokytis kurti santyki\u0173 \u2013 jie tiesiog daro tai, k\u0105 diktuoja j\u0173 prigimtis. O \u017emogus?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mes juk turime ne tik instinktus, bet ir galimyb\u0119 juos pa\u017einti, suprasti, kas mus valdo, ir netgi s\u0105moningai pasirinkti, kaip elgtis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gamta mums padovanojo nuostab\u0173 mechanizm\u0105. Potrauk\u012f tarp vyro ir moters, \u012fsimyl\u0117jim\u0105, n\u0117\u0161tum\u0105, k\u016bdikio gimim\u0105, prisiri\u0161im\u0105, nor\u0105 r\u016bpintis savo vaikais. Visa tai lydi sud\u0117tingi biologiniai ir hormoniniai procesai, kurie padeda \u017emon\u0117ms suart\u0117ti ir kurti \u0161eim\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ta\u010diau \u012fdomiausia tai, kad \u0161ie jausmai n\u0117ra pastov\u016bs. Pradinis \u012fsimyl\u0117jimo intensyvumas ilgainiui kei\u010diasi. Ir nors kartais kalbama apie trej\u0173 met\u0173 \u012fsimyl\u0117jimo laikotarp\u012f, i\u0161 ties\u0173 n\u0117ra jokio universalaus hormoninio laikrod\u017eio, kuris po trej\u0173 met\u0173 tiesiog i\u0161sijungt\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bet pats klausimas nuo to niekur nedingsta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kas nutinka, kai tas pradinis susi\u017eav\u0117jimas praeina? Kai nebejau\u010diu to, k\u0105 jau\u010diau anks\u010diau?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jeigu vis\u0105 savo gyvenim\u0105 vadovaujuosi tik tuo, k\u0105 jau\u010diu, tuomet viskas atrodo labai paprasta. Nebemyliu. Nebejau\u010diu. Nebegaunu to, ko noriu. Vadinasi, \u0161ie santykiai man nebetinka.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir viskas. Skiriam\u0117s. Ie\u0161kome kito \u017emogaus, su kuriuo v\u0117l pajusime t\u0105 pat\u012f susi\u017eav\u0117jim\u0105, artum\u0105, malonum\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bet kuo tuomet mes i\u0161 esm\u0117s skiriam\u0117s nuo tos prigimtin\u0117s programos, pagal kuri\u0105 gyvena gyv\u016bnai? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gal skamba grubiai, bet man atrodo, kad b\u016btent \u010dia ir slypi labai svarbus klausimas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ar \u017emogui pakanka tiesiog sekti savo instinktais? O gal mums duota galimyb\u0117 sukurti ka\u017ek\u0105 daugiau?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir \u010dia prasideda visai kita santyki\u0173 pus\u0117, apie kuri\u0105, mano manymu, mes kalbame gerokai per ma\u017eai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Juk kai pradedame s\u0105moningai kurti ry\u0161\u012f su kitu \u017emogumi, kai dedame pastangas i\u0161saugoti artum\u0105 ne tik tada, kai mums gera, mes pirm\u0105 kart\u0105 pradedame pasteb\u0117ti ir savo pa\u010di\u0173 prigimt\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Iki tol man atrodo, kad a\u0161 tiesiog normaliai gyvenu. Noriu b\u016bti mylima, suprasta, i\u0161girsta. Pykstu, kai negaunu to, ko tikiuosi. Priekai\u0161tauju, kai kitas elgiasi ne taip, kaip nor\u0117\u010diau. Ir visa tai atrodo savaime suprantama.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bet vos tik pabandau s\u0105moningai atsi\u017evelgti \u012f kit\u0105 \u017emog\u0173, net kai mano pa\u010dios norai tam prie\u0161inasi, pradedu matyti, kiek daug manyje veikia dalyk\u0173, kuri\u0173 anks\u010diau n\u0117 nepasteb\u0117davau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir galb\u016bt b\u016btent \u010dia prasideda tikrasis \u017emogaus augimas?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Juk \u0161eima n\u0117ra vien vieta, kurioje gimsta ir auga vaikai. Tai ir vieta, kurioje du suaug\u0119 \u017emon\u0117s gali mokytis kurti ry\u0161\u012f, kuris nepriklausyt\u0173 vien nuo j\u0173 momentini\u0173 jausm\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir vaikai visa tai mato. Mes juos aukl\u0117jame ne tik \u017eod\u017eiais, ne tik ai\u0161kindami, kas yra gerai ir kas blogai. Mes jiems kasdien rodome, k\u0105 rei\u0161kia b\u016bti \u017emogumi. Kaip elgiam\u0117s, kai nesutariame. Kaip r\u016bpinam\u0117s vienas kitu. Kaip mokom\u0117s i\u0161girsti kit\u0105, net kai patys norime visai ko kito.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir man atrodo, kad tai viena did\u017eiausi\u0173 dovan\u0173, kurias galime perduoti savo vaikams. Nes juk nenorime j\u0173 u\u017eauginti tik tam, kad jie vien\u0105 dien\u0105 susirast\u0173 partner\u012f, susilaukt\u0173 vaik\u0173, o pasikeitus jausmams visk\u0105 prad\u0117t\u0173 i\u0161 naujo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Norisi perduoti jiems ka\u017ek\u0105 daugiau. Galimyb\u0119 suprasti, kad santykiai n\u0117ra vien tai, k\u0105 gauname i\u0161 kito \u017emogaus. Kad meil\u0117 n\u0117ra tik jausmas, kuris \u0161iandien yra, o rytoj gali i\u0161nykti. Kad ry\u0161\u012f galima s\u0105moningai kurti, auginti, stiprinti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ir \u0161tai tod\u0117l mane taip neramina skyryb\u0173 mastas. Ne tod\u0117l, kad manau, jog kiekviena santuoka privalo b\u016bti i\u0161saugota bet kokia kaina. Gyvenime b\u016bna labai \u012fvairi\u0173 situacij\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bet tod\u0117l, kad vis da\u017eniau kyla klausimas: ar mes apskritai suprantame, kam kuriame \u0161eim\u0105?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jeigu vienintelis m\u016bs\u0173 tikslas yra gerai jaustis kartu, kas mus laikys, kai tie jausmai pasikeis?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Galb\u016bt dviem \u017emon\u0117ms reikia ka\u017eko daugiau. Bendro tikslo, kuris b\u016bt\u0173 auk\u0161\u010diau u\u017e kiekvieno asmeninius norus. Ne tik u\u017eauginti vaikus, ne tik susikurti patog\u0173 gyvenim\u0105, bet ir i\u0161mokti kurti tikr\u0105 ry\u0161\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tok\u012f, kuriam jau reikia ne vien gamtos duot\u0173 instinkt\u0173, bet ir m\u016bs\u0173 pa\u010di\u0173 s\u0105moning\u0173 pastang\u0173.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Kartais pagalvoju, kam apskritai reikalinga dviej\u0173 \u017emoni\u0173 \u2013 vyro ir moters \u2013 s\u0105junga? Kokia jos prasm\u0117? Ar tik tam, kad susilauktume vaik\u0173, juos u\u017eaugintume ir prat\u0119stume gimin\u0119? Jeigu pa\u017evelgtume \u012f gyv\u016bn\u0173 pasaul\u012f, pamatytume, kad daugeliui r\u016b\u0161i\u0173 viskas vyksta gana paprastai. Patinas ir patel\u0117 susiporuoja, susilaukia jaunikli\u0173, kur\u012f laik\u0105 jais r\u016bpinasi, o v\u0117liau pasuka savais keliais. 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