{"id":2505,"date":"2020-02-02T11:47:00","date_gmt":"2020-02-02T09:47:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/?p=2505"},"modified":"2020-06-14T12:29:56","modified_gmt":"2020-06-14T09:29:56","slug":"berniukai-ir-mergaites-skirtumas-auklejime","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/berniukai-ir-mergaites-skirtumas-auklejime\/","title":{"rendered":"BERNIUKAI IR MERGAIT\u0116S. Skirtumas aukl\u0117jime"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

– Turite vaik\u0173?
– Taip, s\u016bn\u0173 ir dukr\u0105.
– Pasisek\u0117, auginate porel\u0119.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Kol vaikai ma\u017ei, nuo 0 iki 3 ar 4 met\u0173 net nesusim\u0105stai, kad yra ka\u017ekoks vidinis aukl\u0117jimo skirtumas tarp mergai\u010di\u0173 ir berniuk\u0173. Abu ma\u017eiukai, abu meilu\u010diai.. kaip ir vienodi. O staiga pasieki rib\u0105, kai suvoki, jog nebe\u017einai kaip kalb\u0117ti su s\u016bnumi, o dukra tave ,,skaito\u201d net be \u017eod\u017ei\u0173. Kai tuo tarpu, vyras pasako s\u016bnui \u017eod\u012f – ir jiems viskas ai\u0161ku. Tada puoli ie\u0161koti ,,ko dar ne\u017einau\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u0161 puikiai \u017einau, kad vyrai ir moterys yra visi\u0161kai skirtingi, bet VIS praleid\u017eiu svarb\u0173 fakt\u0105 – mano vaikai irgi yra vyras ir moteris, tik suma\u017eintame pavidale, kuris ir painioja mane.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jeigu \u017evelgtume giliau \u012f m\u016bs\u0173 prigimt\u012f, tai atrastume save: kas mes esame, kokios m\u016bs\u0173 funkcijos, kod\u0117l mes skirtingi, kaip b\u016bti kartu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stebiu savo vaikus ir nenustoju \u017eav\u0117tis kiek jie atskleid\u017eia apnuogint\u0105, nesugadint\u0105 moters ir vyro prigimt\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nesuprasdavau kod\u0117l vyras gali gyventi be vonios, jam u\u017etenka du\u0161o. O moteris gali (ir jai reikia) valand\u0173 valandas gul\u0117ti vonioje. O tada matai: s\u016bnus vonioje ,,ie\u0161ko\u201d veiksmo, o dukra prie\u0161ingai – ie\u0161ko b\u016bd\u0173 m\u0117gautis \u0161ilta vonia. Nesu ma\u010diusi, kad s\u016bnus gul\u0117t\u0173 vonioje ir \u017ei\u016br\u0117t\u0173 \u012f vien\u0105 ta\u0161k\u0105. Nes vyrai to nedaro. O a\u0161 tikiuosi, kad ,,gal ramiai maudom\u0117s \u0161iandien?\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moteris savyje turi did\u017eiul\u0119 dovan\u0105, ji turi poreik\u012f \u0161eimai. Ji nori r\u016bpintis \u0161eima, aplink save sukurti jauki\u0105, ger\u0105 viet\u0105 visiems. Moteris – tai namai. Ji jau\u010dia pasaul\u012f. Taip, mes vertiname visk\u0105 emocijomis, kas mus riboja, bet \u0161is jausm\u0173 pasaulis daro mus jautresnias kitiems. Tod\u0117l mes gimdome vaikus, juos auginame, aukl\u0117jame. Tai m\u016bs\u0173 tikrasis gyvenimo variklis, teikiantis d\u017eiaugsmo. Moteris \u0161eimoje siekia pas\u0117ti teigiamas vertybes, r\u016bpest\u012f vienas kitu. Ji to trok\u0161ta ir savo tro\u0161kimu kreipiasi \u012f vyr\u0105, kuris stengiasi ,,sumed\u017eioti\u201d tai savo moteriai. Moteris nori jausti, kad priklauso savo vyrui.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vyrui i\u0161 prigimties duotas poreikis jausti moters norus ir juos u\u017epildyti. Vyras nejau\u010dia \u0161eimos, aplinkos taip stipriai kaip moteris, tod\u0117l jie turi b\u016bti partneriai. Papildyti vienas kit\u0105.
Tad \u017evelgiant \u012f berniukus, jau\u010diasi j\u0173 pastangos ka\u017ek\u0105 atne\u0161ti, paduoti, paguosti ir pan.. o mergait\u0117s savo k\u016bno kalba i\u0161duoda, kad jos pra\u0161o, laukia, tikisi. Sud\u0117ting\u0173 aprai\u0161k\u0173 vaikuose nepamatysime dar, bet j\u0173 skirtumai ver\u010dia gerokai pakeisti bendravimo pob\u016bd\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nors i\u0161 pirmo \u017evilgsnio \u0161iandieninis vaizdas visai kitoks, net nekvepia tuo, apie k\u0105 ra\u0161au, nes viskas tiesiog ,,apaug\u0119\u201d visi\u0161kai atitolusiom nuo Gamtos, \u017emogaus i\u0161kraipytom vertyb\u0117m, bet a\u0161 \u017evelgiu \u012f savo vaikus ir matau juose t\u0105 teising\u0105 moters ir vyro prigimties s\u0117kl\u0105. Kaip bus toliau priklausys nuo dirvos, kurioje jie augs (aplinkos), bei m\u016bs\u0173 r\u016bpes\u010dio. Ta\u010diau negaliu ignoruoti to, kokie jie yra. Jie skirtingi. Skirtingas ir mano pri\u0117jimas prie kiekvieno. Kas \u017eavi mergaites, berniukai net nepastebi. O kas patinka berniukams – mergait\u0117ms atrodo ne\u012fdomu. Galima i\u0161ved\u017eioti visoki\u0173 teorij\u0173, pasiteisinim\u0173, ta\u010diau kvie\u010dio gr\u016bdo nepakeisi. Tai kvietys, ne saul\u0117gr\u0105\u017ea, kad ir kaip nor\u0117tume jos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moters ir vyro tema labai plati, bet kvie\u010diu, prad\u017eiai, tiesiog steb\u0117ti savo vaikus ir paie\u0161koti juose sav\u0119s, bei savo partnerio. Aptarti tai su savo antr\u0105ja puse. Ma\u017eiau bereikalingos trinties namuose d\u0117l dalyk\u0173, kuri\u0173 mes net nenulemiam, stipresnis ry\u0161ys ir pavyzdys vaikams kaip i\u0161likti ir veikti drauge. Dviguba nauda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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