{"id":2518,"date":"2020-04-07T14:58:35","date_gmt":"2020-04-07T11:58:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/?p=2518"},"modified":"2020-06-14T17:05:42","modified_gmt":"2020-06-14T14:05:42","slug":"laimingi-vaikai-ar-tai-imanoma","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/laimingi-vaikai-ar-tai-imanoma\/","title":{"rendered":"LAIMINGI VAIKAI. Ar tai \u012fmanoma?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Nesu a\u0161 diplomuota psicholog\u0117 ar pedagog\u0117. Esu tik mama, besistengianti \u012fgyvendinti integralaus aukl\u0117jimo metodik\u0105 prakti\u0161kai. \u0160i\u0173 eksperiment\u0173 d\u0117ka atsiveria vis nauji ir netik\u0117ti \u017emogaus gyvenimo prasm\u0117s sluoksniai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kuo tai susij\u0119 su vaik\u0173 ugdymu namuose? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u016btent tai, kad da\u017eniausiai intelekto ugdymas atskiriamas nuo \u017emogaus asmenyb\u0117s vystymo, kelia did\u017eiul\u0119 sumai\u0161ti tiek m\u016bs\u0173, tiek vaik\u0173 gyvenime. Visos pastangos dedamos \u012f fizini\u0173 bei protini\u0173 sugeb\u0117jim\u0173 lavinim\u0105, paliekant nuo\u0161alyj \u017emogaus prigimt\u012f, jo ry\u0161\u012f su Gamta. \u017dinant pagrindinius Gamtos d\u0117snius, tokie dalykai kaip ribos, bausm\u0117, baim\u0117, kontrol\u0117 suvokiami ir naudojami visai kitokiu b\u016bdu, nepakenkiant nei vaiko vystymuisi kaip asmenybei, nei bendrai sistemai, kurioje visi gyvename. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0160iai dienai vis dar vyrauja po\u017ei\u016bris: ,,man taip sakydavo t\u0117vai ir buvo gerai.\u201d arba ,,mes taip dar\u0117me ir buvo gerai, nesuprantu ko tas vaikas \u010dia o\u017eiuojasi.\u201d \u010cia praleid\u017eiame labai svarb\u0173 moment\u0105 – skirtum\u0105 tarp kart\u0173 ir j\u0173 vystymosi ypatumus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kai mes buvome vaikai tai nuo visuomenei nepriimtino elgesio vienus laik\u0117 baim\u0117 b\u016bti nubaustam, kitus prilaik\u0117 religiniai \u012fsitikinimai, tre\u010dius stabd\u0117 tam tikros moralin\u0117s normos. D\u0117l \u0161i\u0173 faktori\u0173 m\u016bs\u0173 vidinis A\u0161, noras gauti, sugeb\u0117davo susilaikyti ir atsisakyti savo realizacijos. \u0160iai dienai m\u016bs\u0173 vaikai nieko nebijo, nes noras gauti gerokai paaugo. Gali g\u0105sdinti, bausti, reikalauti- jie gyvena pagal visai kitokius d\u0117snius. Noras gauti paaugo ir pas mus. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0160iandien mus taip stipriai valdo ir veda norai, kad nebegalvojame apie pasekmes. D\u0117l sekund\u0117s vald\u017eios, garb\u0117s ar pripa\u017einimo mes galime paaukoti vis\u0105 likus\u012f gyvenim\u0105. Pavyzd\u017eiui, gatv\u0117je ka\u017ekas pasak\u0117 man ka\u017ak\u0105, kas man nepatiko ar u\u017egavo mano savimyl\u0119 – tai a\u0161 pasireng\u0119s sunaikinti j\u012f, nors \u017ainau, kad b\u016bsiu nubaustas u\u017e tai. Ber t\u0105 akimirk\u0105 mano \u201cA\u0161\u201d turi parodyti, kad yra auks\u010diau vis\u0173, kad jis yra teisus! M\u016bs\u0173 vaikams tai nat\u016bralus rei\u0161kinys, nes jie jau gim\u0117 tokiame pasaulyje, jie kitokio ir ne\u017eino. O mes vis bandome gr\u012f\u017eti 10-20 met\u0173 atgal ir paskui save traukiam\u0117s vaikus. Tai kaip dinozaur\u0173 porai gim\u0117 bezd\u017eion\u0117 k\u016bdikis ir jiedu bando priversti bezd\u017eion\u0117l\u0119 gyventi kaip gyvena jie. \u012esivaizduojat koks skirtumas tarp m\u016bs\u0173?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tad nat\u016braliai kyla klausimas jeigu tarp m\u016bs\u0173 ir vaik\u0173 toks kart\u0173 atotr\u016bkis, jeigu mes kalbame skirtingomis kalbomis, vaikai m\u016bs\u0173 nesiklauso, nebijo, tai k\u0105 daryti? Negalime tiesiog leisti jiems ,,bujoti\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Taip. \u0160iai dienai vienintel\u0117 i\u0161eitis – duoti jiems tai, ko reikia. Vaikai ie\u0161ko \u0161aknies, \u017emogaus egzistavimo esm\u0117s. Jie pas\u0105moningai jau\u010dia, kad \u017einodami \u017emonijos gyvenimo prasm\u0119 jie bus laimingi. Jie nesupranta kod\u0117l jiems reikia \u012fgyti auk\u0161t\u0105j\u012f \u012fsilavinim\u0105, \u012fsigyti b\u016bst\u0105, sukurti \u0161eim\u0105 ir t.t.. Jie mato, kad mes visk\u0105 turime ir nesijau\u010diame laimingi. Vaikai nenusiteik\u0119 laukti, noras gauti veda tiesiai \u012f ta\u0161k\u0105, kuriame jie jaus daugiausiai malonumo. Tad nor\u0117dami, kad vaikai b\u016bt\u0173 laimingi, gerbt\u0173 mus, bendradarbiaut\u0173, turime gerokai padirb\u0117ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sunku patik\u0117ti? Patikrinkite. Visada visk\u0105 patikrinkite ir \u0161irdimi pajausite, ar tai tiesa ar ne \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u017dinant pagrindinius Gamtos d\u0117snius, tokie dalykai kaip ribos, bausm\u0117, baim\u0117, kontrol\u0117 suvokiami ir naudojami visai kitokiu b\u016bdu, nepakenkiant nei vaiko vystymuisi kaip asmenybei, nei bendrai sistemai, kurioje visi gyvename. \u0160iai dienai vis dar vyrauja po\u017ei\u016bris: ,,man taip sakydavo t\u0117vai ir buvo gerai.\u201d arba ,,mes taip dar\u0117me ir buvo gerai, nesuprantu ko tas vaikas \u010dia o\u017eiuojasi.\u201d \u010cia praleid\u017eiame labai svarb\u0173 moment\u0105- skirtum\u0105 tarp kart\u0173 ir j\u0173 vystymosi 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