{"id":2521,"date":"2019-12-22T12:00:00","date_gmt":"2019-12-22T10:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/?p=2521"},"modified":"2020-06-14T12:26:12","modified_gmt":"2020-06-14T09:26:12","slug":"kai-vaikai-groja-nervais","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/kai-vaikai-groja-nervais\/","title":{"rendered":"KAI VAIKAI ,,GROJA&#8221; NERVAIS"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>T\u0117vai \u017eino kas per malonumas, kai vaikai tarsi pradeda ,,groti m\u016bs\u0173 nervais\u201d.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u0161 tikro, visame tame vyksta labai paprasta mechanika. \u017dmogaus esm\u0117 &#8211; noras jaustis gerai (bet kokia kaina). I\u0161kilus bet kokiam nemaloniam jausmui &#8211; norime grei\u010diau pakeisti visk\u0105 ir gr\u012f\u017eti \u012f ramyb\u0117s, pasitenkinimo b\u016bsen\u0105. Bet jeigu nuolatos jaustum\u0117m\u0117s tik laimingi, taip ir liktume u\u017estrig\u0119 k\u016bdikyst\u0117je. Gamta specialiai mums siun\u010dia \u012fvairius dirgiklius, situacijas, kad mes vystytum\u0117m\u0117s kaip s\u0105moningi \u017emon\u0117s. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Taigi, \u012fsivaizduokime: vaikui kilo noras, jo protas paskai\u010diavo, kad u\u017epild\u0119s \u0161\u012f nor\u0105 jis jausis labai laimingas. U\u017esideg\u0117 \u017ealia \u0161viesa! Ir staiga mama sutrugdo \u0161iam planui, arba tiesiog aplinkyb\u0117s ir norui u\u017esideg\u0117 raudona&#8230; visi\u0161kai normali reakcija &#8211; nepasitenkinimas, prie\u0161i\u0161kumas, isterija, a\u0161aros, rinksmai. Vaikuose labai ai\u0161kiai galima pamatyti m\u016bs\u0173 prigimt\u012f: gauna ko nori &#8211; vaikas \u0161ypsosi, pa\u0117mei \u017eaisl\u0105 i\u0161 rank\u0173 &#8211; verkia, gr\u0105\u017einai &#8211; v\u0117l \u0161ypsosi. Taip veikia mechanizmas, esantis \u017emoguje. Suaug\u0119 \u017emon\u0117s turi valdymo pult\u0105 savo rankose. Vieni labiau moka j\u012f valdyti, kiti ma\u017eiau. Vaikai tokio pulto neturi. Me\u017eesni\u0173 vaik\u0173 smegenys net nei\u0161vyst\u0117 sugeb\u0117jimo sustabdyti emocijas. O k\u0105 jau kalb\u0117ti apie j\u0173 suvaldym\u0105, s\u0105moning\u0105 analiz\u0119.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tad vienas i\u0161 pagalbos b\u016bd\u0173 suma\u017einti j\u016bs\u0173 reakcija \u012f situacijas yra i\u0161ugdyti savyje tok\u012f po\u017ei\u016br\u012f \u012f vaik\u0105, tada vaiko isterijos jus ma\u017eiau dirgins, nes \u012fjungsite prot\u0105, kuris logi\u0161kai paai\u0161kina, kad vaikas tiesiog yra kaip ma\u0161ina, norinti jaustis TIK gerai ir kad visi joje kylantis norai b\u016bt\u0173 \u012fgyvendinti ir ta\u0161kas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Taigi, viskas t\u0117v\u0173 rankose. Tik t\u0117vai b\u016bdami \u0161alia ir parodydami, kad jie supranta, palaiko vaik\u0105 ir bus kartu tiek, kiek vaikui reik\u0117s, padeda vaikui i\u0161gyventi \u0161ias emocines krizes. Taip pat tik t\u0117vai savo ramia reakcija gali parodyti vaikui, kad ne visi norai gyvenime \u012fgyvendinami, kad tenka nusileisti ir pan.. Tai procesas. Tai \u017emogaus k\u016brimo menas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>O tai k\u0105 daryti, kai tiesiog jautiesi i\u0161sek\u0119s nuo nuolatinio vaiko atak\u0173 ir per jautrus bet kokiai neigiamai jo reakcijai savo at\u017evilgiu?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pirmiausia, ugdyti savyje po\u017ei\u016br\u012f, kad a\u0161 irgi esu noras jaustis gerai, ir vaiko prie\u0161i\u0161kumas man &#8211; yra kli\u016btis prie\u0161 mane. \u0160i\u0105 minut\u0119 a\u0161 nor\u0117\u010diau daryti tai, k\u0105 a\u0161 noriu, o dabar turiu to atsisakyti d\u0117l ka\u017ekokios vaiki\u0161kos isterijos. Tai kelia nepasitenkinim\u0105 ir pykti i\u0161 mano pus\u0117s ant vaiko. Bet kaip ra\u0161iau anks\u010diau, toks \u017emogaus vystymosi kelias. Tik d\u0117ka prie\u0161ing\u0173 jausm\u0173 mes vystom\u0117s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pa\u017evelgus i\u0161 \u0161ono tai labai lengva mechanika. Ta\u010diau ji reikalauja didelio darbo su savimi.<br>A\u0161 tikiu, kad j\u016bs\u0173 nereikia \u012ftikin\u0117ti kod\u0117l apskritai verta su\u017eaisti \u0161i\u0105 partij\u0105 b\u016btent mums, o vaikui leisti tik pamatyti kaip turi elgtis s\u0105moningas suaug\u0119s \u017emogus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sud\u0117tinga visa tai prakti\u0161kai pritaikyti, i\u0161kart, ta\u010diau bent u\u017efiksuoti t\u0105 moment\u0105 ,,kod\u0117l vaikas nepatenkintas\u201d ir ,,kod\u0117l a\u0161 susierzinau\u201d jau gera prad\u017eia. \u012ejungus prot\u0105, emocijos ,,nueina\u201d \u012f antr\u0105 plan\u0105 ir j\u016bs kur kas ramiau reaguojate \u012f tai kas vyksta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Labai tikiuosi, kad nuo \u0161iol bus kur kas daugiau ramesni\u0173 ir besi\u0161ypsan\u010di\u0173 mam\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-resized\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/stiprybes.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2798\" width=\"604\" height=\"266\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/stiprybes.jpg 820w, https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/stiprybes-300x132.jpg 300w, https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/stiprybes-768x337.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 604px) 100vw, 604px\" \/><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>T\u0117vai \u017eino kas per malonumas, kai vaikai tarsi pradeda ,,groti m\u016bs\u0173 nervais\u201d. 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