{"id":2541,"date":"2020-02-14T12:30:00","date_gmt":"2020-02-14T10:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/?p=2541"},"modified":"2020-06-14T12:32:25","modified_gmt":"2020-06-14T09:32:25","slug":"visi-kalbes-apie-meile-kalbesime-ir-mes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/visi-kalbes-apie-meile-kalbesime-ir-mes\/","title":{"rendered":"VISI KALB\u0116S APIE MEIL\u0118. KALB\u0116SIME IR MES"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Nor\u0117dama ka\u017eko i\u0161mokyti vaikus, turiu pati tuo tik\u0117ti ir gyventi. \u0160iandien &#8211; \u0160v. Valentino diena, dauguma \u017emoni\u0173 kalb\u0117s apie meil\u0119. Kalb\u0117sime ir mes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nepaisant to ,,saldaus, raudono\u201d meil\u0117s \u012fpakavimo: \u0161irdeli\u0173, g\u0117li\u0173, saldaini\u0173, dovan\u0173, mes puikiai matome, kad vis daugiau ir daugiau por\u0173 nejau\u010dia jos, nesugyvena, skiriasi, bando i\u0161 naujo ir v\u0117l skiriasi&#8230; Ir pati did\u017eiausia problema tame, kad \u017emogaus visas d\u0117mesys sukoncentruotas \u012f jau galutin\u012f rezultat\u0105. Mes norime t\u0173 ,,tobul\u0173\u201d santyki\u0173, kuriuos matome kine, visi \u017eurnal\u0173 vir\u0161eliai pilni laiming\u0173 por\u0173, draugai irgi visi \u0161ypsosi ir nenori apie tai net kalb\u0117ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tai k\u0105, tik a\u0161 viena \u0161itame pasaulyje turiu problem\u0173? O gal visi gyvename iliuzijoje, nepa\u017einodami kas i\u0161 ties\u0173 yra meil\u0117? Realyb\u0117 n\u0117ra \u017emoni\u0173 sure\u017eisuota. \u010cia susiduriame su daug vidini\u0173 sunkum\u0173, nes Jis nenori to, a\u0161 noriu to, mes skirting\u0173 charakteri\u0173, m\u016bs\u0173 pom\u0117giai skiriasi, man nepatinka tai, o jis man priekai\u0161tauja d\u0117l to&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nustebstite su\u017einoj\u0119, kad visa tai visi\u0161kai netrugdo pastatyti tikros meil\u0117s. Tikros. Ne tos gyv\u016bnin\u0117s, paremtos tik hormonais. Ir ne tos egoistin\u0117s, kai a\u0161 duodu tau, nes tu duodi man. O \u017emogi\u0161kos, kai tu priimi kit\u0105 tok\u012f, koks jis yra, nes m\u016bs\u0173 siekis b\u016bti kartu, m\u0117gautis vienas kitu, gyventi tuo bendru ta\u0161ku, nejausti baim\u0117s, o pulsuoti palaikymu vienas kitam.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pirmas \u017eingsnelis &#8211; pakeisti po\u017ei\u016br\u012f. Kai tikslas poroje yra ne pats rezultatas ir jausmas, kad turime tur\u0117ti visk\u0105, santykiai turi b\u016bti tobuli, bet pats nuolatinis siekis to, net jeigu ir \u0161iandien mes negalime pa\u017ei\u016br\u0117ti vienas \u012f kit\u0105 (,,ir varge, ir d\u017eiaugsme\u201d(i\u0161 santuokos \u012f\u017eado)).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Greitai nepasiekus tikslo, mes nusivyliame ir nustojame jo siekti, ir santykius (kaip tiksl\u0105) pradedame u\u017ekeisti kitais dalykais, tad labai greitai pamir\u0161tame, ko i\u0161 ties\u0173 taip tro\u0161kome. O kai tikslas tampa pats procesas, tada a\u0161 m\u0117gaujuosi tuo kiekvien\u0105 akimirk\u0105, nes neturiu galutinio \u201ctobulumo\u201d ta\u0161ko. Patiriame did\u017eiausi\u0105 malonum\u0105 suvokdami, kad tobulumas yra pa\u010diame siekyje, kai abu nori ir stengiasi priart\u0117ti vienas prie kito, nori ir stengiasi i\u0161girsti ir b\u016bti i\u0161klausytas, stengiasi nusileisti, galvoti apie kito poreikius. Tai padaryti labai sud\u0117tinga, nes mes gim\u0119 galvoti tik apie save. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ta\u010diau b\u016btent tas siekis, per a\u0161aras ar per d\u017eiaugsm\u0105, ir sukuria ypating\u0105 lauk\u0105 aplink partnerius, kuriame pati Gamta vysto santykius reikiama kryptimi. Savo nuolatiniais priekai\u0161tais vienas kitam mes tarsi u\u017edarome duris \u0161irdyse ir negalime gauti krypties, pagalbos. Jau\u010diam\u0117s vieni, sutrik\u0119, nelaimingi. Savo i\u0161didumu a\u0161 vis dar galvoju, kad esu protingesn\u0117 u\u017e Gamt\u0105, kad \u017einau kaip j\u0105 valdyti, i\u0161naudoti. Ir per \u0161\u012f savo aklum\u0105 a\u0161 net nepastebiu, kad esu ma\u017eyt\u0117 marionet\u0117, valdoma Gamtos. Neturiu savyje net vietos suvokti, kad visi mano veiksmai, mintys, norai kyla i\u0161 kur kas giliau negu manasis ,,A\u0161\u201d. Atv\u0117rus duris- atsiranda ir pagalba, ir \u017einojimas, ir didesnis siekis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A\u0161 da\u017enai, kilus vidiniam konfliktui, tiesiog tyliu. Negaliu pratarti n\u0117 \u017eod\u017eio. Moterims turb\u016bt b\u016bdinga nekalb\u0117ti kelet\u0105 dien\u0173, \u012f klausim\u0105 ,,ar viskas gerai?\u201d atsakyti garsiai ,,taip\u201d, o mintyse ,,ne&#8230;\u201d. Ne\u017einau kaip viskas b\u016bt\u0173, bet \u0161iose b\u016bsenose mano vyras nepalieka man\u0119s vienos, o supranta, kad ne\u012fmanoma sav\u0119s i\u0161traukti i\u0161 tokio ,,kal\u0117jimo&#8221;. Visokiais b\u016bdais jis padeda \u012fveikti \u0161i\u0105 vidin\u0119 tams\u0105, primindamas m\u016bs\u0173 tiksl\u0105, m\u016bs\u0173 SIEK\u012e tapti stipriu junginiu, m\u016bs\u0173 nor\u0105 gyventi kartu laimingai ,,kol mirtis mus i\u0161skirs\u201d. Taip gauname did\u017eiuli\u0105 dovan\u0105 &#8211; dar vien\u0105 gram\u0105 meil\u0117s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/meiles.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2804\" width=\"494\" height=\"218\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/meiles.jpg 820w, https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/meiles-300x132.jpg 300w, https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/meiles-768x337.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 494px) 100vw, 494px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Nor\u0117dama ka\u017eko i\u0161mokyti vaikus, turiu pati tuo tik\u0117ti ir gyventi. \u0160iandien dauguma \u017emoni\u0173 kalb\u0117s apie meil\u0119. 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