{"id":4866,"date":"2020-07-06T23:28:28","date_gmt":"2020-07-06T20:28:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=4866"},"modified":"2020-07-10T22:29:14","modified_gmt":"2020-07-10T19:29:14","slug":"mama-ir-sunus","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/mama-ir-sunus\/","title":{"rendered":"MAMA IR S\u016aNUS"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Prisipa\u017einsiu, man, kaip mamai, auginan\u010diai s\u016bn\u0173, vis da\u017eniau pasitaiko situacij\u0173, kai suprantu, kad ne\u017einau kaip bendrauti su penkiame\u010diu berniuku. Jam jau reikalingas t\u0117vo pavyzdys, kuris vystyt\u0173 vyri\u0161kas jo savybes. Bet tai kur tada mama? Kaip ir kuo tur\u0117\u010diau prisid\u0117ti, kad jis vystyt\u0173si nat\u016braliai? Kaip mamai bendrauti su s\u016bnumi? Jau kur\u012f laik\u0105 sprend\u017eiu \u0161\u012f galvos\u016bk\u012f \ud83e\udd2a.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0160iandien \u017eaid\u0117me \u017eaidim\u0173 aik\u0161tel\u0117je. Netrukus at\u0117jo trys mergait\u0117s (apie 6-7 met\u0173). A\u0161 nelabai ir pasteb\u0117jau. Bet kadangi akylai steb\u0117jau savo vaikus, i\u0161kart pama\u010diau, kad pasikeit\u0117 s\u016bnaus elgesys. Tada pama\u010diau mergaites ir man pasidar\u0117 viskas ai\u0161ku \ud83d\ude01. Pama\u010dius prie\u0161ingos lyties atstoves, suveik\u0117 prigimtis. S\u016bnus visaip band\u0117 atkreipti \u012f save d\u0117mes\u012f \ud83d\ude48\ud83d\ude05.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Labai gerai pamenu t\u0105 moment\u0105, kai prie\u0161 akis i\u0161vydau du pasirinkimus. Pirma, labai nor\u0117josi net negalvojus pasakyti garsiai: ,,Aronai, k\u0105 \u010dia darai? Nori su\u017eav\u0117ti mergaites? Atrodai kvailai. Baik gal?\u201d. Taip ir b\u016b\u010diau padariusi turb\u016bt, bet ka\u017ekas mane sustabd\u0117. Stov\u0117jau ir \u017ei\u016br\u0117jau kas vyksta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Man visi\u0161kai ner\u016bp\u0117jo ,,k\u0105 pagalvos \u017emon\u0117s\u201d, juk dabar mano s\u016bnus \u017eengia pirmuosius \u017eingsnius \u012f jam nauj\u0105, nepatirt\u0105 santyki\u0173 pasaul\u012f. Ir jam reikia palaikan\u010dio draugo \u0161alia, o ne to, kuris pa\u017eemins, ir i\u0161 jo pasi\u0161aipys. Draugai taip nedaro. Draugai padeda bet kokioje situacijoje. Nor\u0117jau parodyti jam, kad palaikau j\u012f, kad nebijot\u0173 ir \u017einot\u0173, kad gali manimi pasikliauti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bet buvo sunku, net labai! Taip nor\u0117josi pad\u0117ti prad\u0117ti normal\u0173 pokalb\u012f. Ma\u010diau, kad vaikai i\u0161 sav\u0119s nemoka to padaryti. Jie tiesiog ne\u017eino kaip\u2026 tod\u0117l ir elgiasi kaip ma\u017eos bezd\u017eion\u0117l\u0117s \ud83d\ude48.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Galiausiai po bandym\u0173 atkreipt\u012f \u012f save d\u0117mes\u012f, s\u016bnus nukreip\u0117 mintis kitur, mergait\u0117s irgi greit i\u0161\u0117jo. Viskas t\u0119s\u0117si kaip buv\u0119, nors viduje \u0161i smulkmena paliko ka\u017ek\u0105 nepaprasto.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Likusi\u0105 dienos dal\u012f vis klausiau sav\u0119s k\u0105 galiu duoti kaip mama tokioje situacijoje? Koks mano vaidmuo \u0161iame naujame s\u016bnaus socialini\u0173 ry\u0161i\u0173 etape? Iki tol jam u\u017eteko mamos, \u0161eimos. O dabar matau kaip s\u016bnus \u017eengia pirmus \u017eingsnius \u012f tikr\u0105j\u012f pasaul\u012f ir taip norisi, kad pamatai b\u016bt\u0173 tvirti. Juk visas m\u016bs\u0173 gyvenimo pagrindas &#8211; santykiai!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Supratau tik vien\u0105, kad turiu \u012fprasti bendraujant su s\u016bnumi (ir ne tik juo) neignoruoti m\u016bs\u0173 skirtingos prigimties, labiau koncentruotis \u012f m\u016bs\u0173 draugyst\u0119, tarpusavio pagalb\u0105. Tai yra tai, kas mums suteikia stabilumo ir pasitik\u0117jimo savimi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>D\u0117koju gyvenimui, kad galiu dalyvauti kuriant santyki\u0173 pamatus kartu su savo vaikais ir labai viliuosi, kad jie panaudos tai s\u0117kmingai kurdami savo ir kit\u0173 gyvenimus \ud83d\ude4f\ud83c\udffb\ud83d\ude0c\u2764\ufe0f<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-resized\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2809\" width=\"523\" height=\"229\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti.jpg 820w, https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti-300x132.jpg 300w, https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti-768x337.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 523px) 100vw, 523px\" \/><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Prisipa\u017einsiu, man, kaip mamai, auginan\u010diai s\u016bn\u0173, vis da\u017eniau pasitaiko situacij\u0173, kai suprantu, kad ne\u017einau kaip bendrauti su penkiame\u010diu berniuku. Jam jau reikalingas t\u0117vo pavyzdys, kuris vystyt\u0173 vyri\u0161kas jo savybes. Bet tai kur tada mama? Kaip ir kuo tur\u0117\u010diau prisid\u0117ti, kad jis vystyt\u0173si nat\u016braliai? Kaip mamai bendrauti su s\u016bnumi? Jau kur\u012f laik\u0105 sprend\u017eiu \u0161\u012f galvos\u016bk\u012f \ud83e\udd2a. 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Jam jau reikalingas t\u0117vo pavyzdys, kuris vystyt\u0173 vyri\u0161kas jo savybes. Bet tai kur tada mama? Kaip ir kuo tur\u0117\u010diau prisid\u0117ti, kad jis vystyt\u0173si nat\u016braliai? Kaip mamai bendrauti su s\u016bnumi? Jau kur\u012f laik\u0105 sprend\u017eiu \u0161\u012f galvos\u016bk\u012f \ud83e\udd2a.&hellip;","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4866","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4866"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4866\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4908,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4866\/revisions\/4908"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4865"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4866"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4866"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4866"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}