{"id":5813,"date":"2020-09-15T22:24:06","date_gmt":"2020-09-15T19:24:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=5813"},"modified":"2020-09-15T23:44:33","modified_gmt":"2020-09-15T20:44:33","slug":"konfliktas-tarp-kartu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/konfliktas-tarp-kartu\/","title":{"rendered":"KONFLIKTAS TARP KART\u0172"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Kelet\u0105 dien\u0173 galvoje sukasi klausimas – k\u0105 vaikams gali duoti t\u0117vai?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0160iandien jau\u010diasi toks mil\u017eini\u0161kas atotr\u016bkis tarp kart\u0173, kur\u012f vis dar bandome kompensuoti i\u0161oriniais dalykais. Bet da\u017enai jie tik sukuria iliuzij\u0105, kad mes turime tarpusavio ry\u0161\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Atrodo, kai a\u0161 buvau ma\u017ea, viskas buvo gerai. O kas \u0161iandien pasikeit\u0117? Kod\u0117l m\u016bs\u0173 vaik\u0173 netenkina gyvenimas toks, kok\u012f tur\u0117jome mes? Ko jie tikisi i\u0161 savo t\u0117v\u0173? Ko mes nesuteikiame \u0161iai kartai, kad jie ,,b\u0117ga\u201d ir nuo m\u016bs\u0173, ir patys nuo sav\u0119s \u012f virtual\u0173 pasaul\u012f?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mano gyvenime vis daug\u0117ja pavyzd\u017ei\u0173, kuomet pastebiu, kad atotr\u016bkis tarp kart\u0173 vis ry\u0161k\u0117ja. Seneliai, t\u0117vai ir vaikai – kiekvienas kalba tarsi savo kalba, gyvena savo laikme\u010diu. Mums tikrai tr\u016bksta s\u0105ly\u010dio ta\u0161k\u0173, kuriuose visos kartos rast\u0173 bendr\u0105 kalb\u0105. Svarbiausia, kad visi kaip ir nori palaikyti santykius, bendrauti, bet tai nepavyksta…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Li\u016bdina ir vis did\u0117jantis depresijos skai\u010dius tarp vaik\u0173. Da\u017enai t\u0117vai tikisi, kad vaikai bus tokie kaip jie buvo ar yra, dom\u0117sis tais dalykais, kuriais dom\u0117josi jie, svajos studijuoti, dirbti, sukurti \u0161eimas, o jaunuoliai elgiasi kone prie\u0161ingai. Jie nemato prasm\u0117s kod\u0117l reikia aukoti savo gyvenim\u0105, dirbti tiek daug ir neb\u016bti laimingu. Tod\u0117l akivaizdu, kad vaikai matydami savo t\u0117v\u0173 gyvenimo pavyzd\u017eius, jau\u010dia, jog t\u0117vai negali jiems duoti ko jiems reikia, tod\u0117l gana anksti emoci\u0161kai atsiskiria nuo t\u0117v\u0173, u\u017esidaro savyje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0160iandieninis konfliktas tarp t\u0117v\u0173 ir vaik\u0173 tame, kad vaikai turi pakilti \u012f visi\u0161kai nauj\u0105 egzistavimo lyg\u012f, nei egzistavo j\u0173 t\u0117vai. Jie turi savo tarpusavio ry\u0161iuose atskleisti sekan\u010di\u0105 savo egzistavimo pakop\u0105, kuri nesibaigia tik materialiais dalykais. Tai pakopa, paremta socialiniais ry\u0161iais.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ankstesn\u0117s kartos taip pat siek\u0117 tarpusavio ry\u0161io, ta\u010diau tai vyko pas\u0105moningai, jos ne\u017einojo kaip tiksliai tai i\u0161reik\u0161ti, o \u0161iandien vaikai gali t\u0105 padaryti. Tik, d\u0117ja, ankstesn\u0117s kartos (net ne\u017einodamos) tai stabdo kaip neva nenormal\u0173 dalyk\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Man tai \u010dia ka\u017ekoks paradoksas! \u0160iandienos karta nori atskleisti egzistavimo esm\u0119, neatlikti bereikaling\u0173 veiksm\u0173, i\u0161 ties\u0173 d\u017eiaugtis gyvenimu, neapsiriboti tik materiliais dalykais, bet j\u0173 vidiniai klausmai ir ie\u0161kojimai g\u0119sinami vaistais kaip neva tai hiperaktyvumas, depresija ir pan.. tada naudojame \u012fvairias naujausias technologijas, terapijas, vaistus, kad tik su\u017eadinti nor\u0105 gyventi, o galiausiai gr\u0105\u017einame atgal \u012f ,,savo\u201d pasaul\u012f, kuris jaunimui jau seniai praeitas etapas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tai tarsi vaikas nori atidaryti duris, o t\u0117vai draud\u017eia ir bando \u012ftikinti gyventi u\u017edarytomis durimis. Nes jie tai ne\u017eino kas yra u\u017e j\u0173 ir nori apsaugoti vaik\u0105. Ta\u010diau tas noras vaik\u0105 ,,dr\u0105sko\u201d i\u0161 vidaus, mat jo gimimo ir gyvenimo esm\u0117 ir yra atverti tas duris.. tai \u010dia ir gaunasi tas konfliktas. Tiesiog vis\u0173 kart\u0173 aukl\u0117jimo spraga, kuri \u0161iandien labai ry\u0161kiai matosi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u0161 vienos pus\u0117s, viskas baugina, nes tai globali problema, ne vienos \u0161eimos reikalas. Bet i\u0161 kitos, taip kaip atsirado ir i\u0161nyko dinozaurai, taip ir \u017emon\u0117s pasieks reikiamo i\u0161sivystymo lygmens. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jei atvirai, tai vis dar ne\u017einau ko vaikams konkre\u010diai reikia, kokia ta kita egzistavimo pakopa, bet esu u\u017etikrinta, kad ateityje gyvenimas tikrai nebus toks, kaip buvo mano, ar mano t\u0117v\u0173, seneli\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tad savo vaikams ar an\u016bkams turiu \u0161ans\u0173 i\u0161likti artima, jei stengsiuosi suprasti ir palaikyti tai, kad vaikai tinkamai siekia savo gyvenimo tikslo, tos sekan\u010dios egzistavimo pakopos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Taip kartu visk\u0105 ir atskleisim \ud83d\udda4\ud83e\udd1d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Kelet\u0105 dien\u0173 galvoje sukasi klausimas – k\u0105 vaikams gali duoti t\u0117vai? \u0160iandien jau\u010diasi toks mil\u017eini\u0161kas atotr\u016bkis tarp kart\u0173, kur\u012f vis dar bandome kompensuoti i\u0161oriniais dalykais. Bet da\u017enai jie tik sukuria iliuzij\u0105, kad mes turime tarpusavio ry\u0161\u012f. Atrodo, kai a\u0161 buvau ma\u017ea, viskas buvo gerai. O kas \u0161iandien pasikeit\u0117? Kod\u0117l m\u016bs\u0173 vaik\u0173 netenkina gyvenimas toks, kok\u012f […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5812,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5813","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vaiku-auklejimas-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/2297654a-ddb8-4aa4-823b-79de18ffc9ab.jpg",768,384,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/2297654a-ddb8-4aa4-823b-79de18ffc9ab-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/2297654a-ddb8-4aa4-823b-79de18ffc9ab-300x150.jpg",300,150,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/2297654a-ddb8-4aa4-823b-79de18ffc9ab.jpg",768,384,false],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/2297654a-ddb8-4aa4-823b-79de18ffc9ab.jpg",768,384,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/2297654a-ddb8-4aa4-823b-79de18ffc9ab.jpg",768,384,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/2297654a-ddb8-4aa4-823b-79de18ffc9ab.jpg",768,384,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Kelet\u0105 dien\u0173 galvoje sukasi klausimas – k\u0105 vaikams gali duoti t\u0117vai? \u0160iandien jau\u010diasi toks mil\u017eini\u0161kas atotr\u016bkis tarp kart\u0173, kur\u012f vis dar bandome kompensuoti i\u0161oriniais dalykais. 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Kod\u0117l m\u016bs\u0173 vaik\u0173 netenkina gyvenimas toks, kok\u012f…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5813","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5813"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5813\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5833,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5813\/revisions\/5833"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5812"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5813"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5813"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5813"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}