– Noriu to, dabar nenoriu! Noriu to, k\u0105 turi jis! Duok man t\u0105! O dabar \u0161ito noriu! Noriu! Noriu! Noriu!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\ud83d\ude01 Pa\u017e\u012fstama? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Myliu savo vaikus ir noriu suteikti jiems visko, kas geriausia, bet tai nerei\u0161kia, kad kiekvienas j\u0173 galvoje kil\u0119s noras yra geriausia. Mes t\u0117vai – vedliai, matantys kelet\u0105 \u017eingsneli\u0173 \u012f priek\u012f, o pasiduodami vaiko nepaliaujamiems norams, einame jiems i\u0161 paskos ir vedliai tampa vaikai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yra trumpa alegorija, man labai padedanti prisiminti, kad t\u0117vai neturi ir negali daryti visko, ko nori vaikas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Galb\u016bt gird\u0117jote, ji apie t\u0117v\u0105, kuris gatve vedasi garsiai verkiant\u012f s\u016bn\u0173. Visi \u017emon\u0117s \u017ei\u016bri ir \u0161nab\u017edasi koks negailestingas yra t\u0117vas, kaip jis nemyli savo s\u016bnaus. Galiausiai vienas vyras neapsikent\u0117 ir paklaus\u0117 t\u0117vo: ,,Kod\u0117l tu kankini savo s\u016bn\u0173? Negi tau jo negaila?\u201d, o t\u0117vas atsak\u0117:,,Jam nie\u017eti akis, jis nori paimti adat\u0105 ir pasikasyti ak\u012f. Negaliu to leisti. Nenoriu, kad jis vis\u0105 gyvenim\u0105 likt\u0173 aklas.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tikrai gird\u0117jau daugybe tiesiog apsurdi\u0161k\u0173 vaik\u0173 nor\u0173, kurie net jiems pavojingi arba tiesiog j\u0173 ne\u012fmanoma realizuoti. Ir \u017einau, kaip tai kartais vargina t\u0117vus, sunku atlaikyti ir grei\u010diausias sprendimas atrodo ,,IMK KO NORI IR NUSIRAMINK\u201d. Ir nors \u017einai, kad tai ne sprendimas, o tik problemos atid\u0117jimas, bet vistiek pasiduodi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kai sunku suvaldyti t\u0105 bes\u0105lygin\u0119 mamos meil\u0119 vaikui, \u012f pagalba ateina (da\u017eniausiai tik vyro ar draugi\u0173 pagalba) s\u0105moningas, atsietas nuo emocij\u0173 vertinimas – \u0161is elgesys ar situacija vysto mano vaik\u0105 pirmyn ar leid\u017eia jam pasilikti tame lygmenyje, kuriame jis yra. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Be tinkamos aplinkos pagalbos nesugeb\u0117\u010diau i\u0161 10 vaiko reikalaujan\u010di\u0173 zyzim\u0173 atlaikyti net vieno. O kai jau\u010diu palaikym\u0105, gird\u017eiu, kad vaik\u0173 aukl\u0117jimas yra vienas svarbiausi\u0173 darb\u0173 ne tik \u0161eimai, bet ir visuomenei, tai pasitaiko dien\u0173, kai i\u0161 10 zyzimo bandym\u0173 atlaikai 9-10 \ud83d\udcaa\ud83c\udffb\ud83d\ude06. Nes b\u016bni nukreipta \u012f tai, kaip nukreipti vaiko nor\u0105 kita linkme, o v\u0117liau gr\u012f\u017eti prie to kas buvo, pad\u0117ti vaikui suprasti noro esm\u0119, darb\u0105 su jais, i\u0161orinius faktorius, k\u0105 galima \u012fgyvendinti, o ko ne ir pan. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tad \u012fkv\u0117pimo mums, ir kantryb\u0117s \ud83e\udd1e\ud83c\udffb\ud83e\udd1e\ud83c\udffb\ud83e\udd1e\ud83c\udffb\ud83d\udda4<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– Noriu to, dabar nenoriu! Noriu to, k\u0105 turi jis! Duok man t\u0105! O dabar \u0161ito noriu! Noriu! Noriu! Noriu! \ud83d\ude01 Pa\u017e\u012fstama? Myliu savo vaikus ir noriu suteikti jiems visko, kas geriausia, bet tai nerei\u0161kia, kad kiekvienas j\u0173 galvoje kil\u0119s noras yra geriausia. Mes t\u0117vai – vedliai, matantys kelet\u0105 \u017eingsneli\u0173 \u012f priek\u012f, o pasiduodami vaiko […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5389,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5975","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vaiku-auklejimas-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-AUKLEJIMAS.jpg",1200,628,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-AUKLEJIMAS-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-AUKLEJIMAS-300x157.jpg",300,157,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-AUKLEJIMAS-768x402.jpg",768,402,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-AUKLEJIMAS-1024x536.jpg",1024,536,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-AUKLEJIMAS.jpg",1200,628,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-AUKLEJIMAS.jpg",1200,628,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"– Noriu to, dabar nenoriu! 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