{"id":6561,"date":"2020-11-01T00:06:15","date_gmt":"2020-10-31T22:06:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=6561"},"modified":"2020-11-01T00:20:23","modified_gmt":"2020-10-31T22:20:23","slug":"santykiai-seimoje","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/santykiai-seimoje\/","title":{"rendered":"SANTYKIAI \u0160EIMOJE"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>T\u0119siant kritikos \u0161eimoje tem\u0105, norisi i\u0161kelti \u012f pirm\u0105 plan\u0105 tai, kas efektyviausiai padeda dirbti su kritika &#8211; tai stipr\u016bs santykiai \u0161eimoje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tikrai a\u0161 nepirmoji, kuri sako, kad \u0161eima n\u0117ra tik biologiniai k\u016bnai. \u0160eima &#8211; tai vis\u0173 nari\u0173 bendrumo ta\u0161kas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kaip b\u016bna gera prisiminus tas akimirkas, kai visi \u0161eimoje i\u0161 tikro sutaria, jau\u010diasi, kad visi kartu juda ta pa\u010dia kryptimi. Atrodo turi tiek j\u0117g\u0173, kad d\u0117l \u0161eimos gerov\u0117s gali kalnus nuversti! Ta\u010diau b\u016bna dien\u0173, kai atrodo, jog kiekvienas gyvena tik sau, visai nerodo d\u0117mesio, nevertina, net nesiklauso. Tai toki atveju sunku r\u016bpintis \u0161eimos nariais.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Daug specialist\u0173 kalba apie tai, kad gyvename tokiu \u017emogaus i\u0161sivystimo periodu, kad stipr\u016bs santykiai savaime neegzistuoja. Kartais mums pasiseka pajusti t\u0105 bendrum\u0105, bet jeigu visi nariai, o ypa\u010d t\u0117vai, s\u0105moningai neformuoja \u0161eimos bendrumo ta\u0161ko, tai jis per laik\u0105 ir visi\u0161kai u\u017eg\u0119sta. Net artimi \u017emon\u0117s susvetim\u0117ja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Labiausiai mane ir domina kaip stiprinti santykius \u0161eimoje, kurie ne tik atsvert\u0173 neigiamas i\u0161rai\u0161kas (kritik\u0105, ker\u0161t\u0105, manipuliacijas ir pan.), bet tos vertyb\u0117s ateityje persiduot\u0173 i\u0161 kart\u0173 \u012f kartas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jausti, kad priklausai \u0161eimai yra galingas \u012frankis, kuris leid\u017eia ateityje kontroliuoti, vertinti save b\u016btent \u0161ios priklausomyb\u0117s at\u017evilgiu. Galiu pasverti kaip mano elgesys privers jaustis t\u0117vus, kaip jie reaguos jeigu elgsiuos taip ar anaip&#8230; mes gi \u017einome kaip veikia g\u0117da, s\u0105\u017ein\u0117. B\u016bti \u0161eimos viena i\u0161 sudedam\u0173j\u0173 ugdo \u017emog\u0173, kuris geba jausti j\u012f supan\u010di\u0105 aplink\u0105, suvokia savo vaidmen\u012f visuomen\u0117je, ribas, vertybes, pasitiki savimi, dr\u0105siai priima save koks jis yra ir bando realizuoti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dr\u012fs\u010diau sakyti, kad tai vienas svarbiausi\u0173 aukl\u0117jimo u\u017edavini\u0173 &#8211; i\u0161mokyti vaikus jausti, kad jie yra \u0161eimos, kaip vieneto, dalis, kuriai jie padeda, skiria dal\u012f sav\u0119s, i\u0161klauso, patys pasipasakoja, kartu sprend\u017eia problemas, dalinasi d\u017eiaugsmais ir tuo, kas juos neramina.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tai pati saugiausia vieta pasaulyje, kuri\u0105 kuriame nuo pat pirm\u0173j\u0173 dien\u0173. Tod\u0117l gimus vaikams, labai svarbu i\u0161kart formuoti \u0161eimos elgesio taisykl\u0117s ir j\u0173 laikytis. Taisykl\u0117s &#8211; tai \u0161eimoje ai\u0161kiai apibr\u0117\u017etos ribos, kurias per\u017eeng\u0119 vaikai pajaust\u0173, kad turi ka\u017ek\u0105 keisti arba yra rizika ,,i\u0161kristi\u201d i\u0161 \u0161eimos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tarp \u0161i\u0173 bazini\u0173 \u0161eimos taisykli\u0173, viena svarbiausi\u0173 visgi tur\u0117t\u0173 b\u016bti: ,,visada renkam\u0117s suart\u0117jim\u0105, buvim\u0105 kartu, nes tik tada esame stipr\u016bs kaip kum\u0161tis\u201d. Man tai sakydavo mama ir, pamenu, tikrai tas pasitik\u0117jimas \u0161eima pad\u0117jo atlaikyti daug labai sud\u0117ting\u0173 situacij\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dar labai svarbus \u017einojimas, kad \u017emogus gimsta su tam tikru charakteriu, jame atsiranda nauji jausmai, \u012fvairios savyb\u0117s ir vis tai yra nulemiama prigimties. Tas pats netinkamas vaiko elgesys &#8211; jeigu vaikas nemokinamas elgtis kitaip, tai jis ir elgsis kaip gyv\u016bnas. Jis vadovaujasi tam tikrais elgesio \u0161ablonais, kuriuos suformuoja t\u0117vai. Ir kai vaikas susiduria su ka\u017ekokiu nauju rei\u0161kiniu, jis daro, kas ,,\u012fra\u0161yta\u201d. O jeigu to n\u0117ra &#8211; taip, kaip veikia jo prigimtis. Jis ne\u017eino, kad galima elgtis kitaip. Tod\u0117l viskas, kas nutinka ir egzistuoja m\u016bs\u0173 gyvenime turi b\u016bti nuolatos apkalbamos, i\u0161siai\u0161kinamos \u0161eimoje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ramiu, pozityviu pri\u0117mimu prie visokiausi\u0173 dalyk\u0173, mes rodome vaikams pavyzd\u012f kaip \u0161eimoje galima i\u0161spr\u0119sti problemas, juk mes kaip vienas kum\u0161tis, tad bet koks individo netinkamas elgesys yra visos \u0161eimos reikalas. Tokiu b\u016bdu, mes stipriname savo ry\u0161\u012f, kuriame kiekvienas \u0161eimos narys gali atrasti tikr\u0105j\u012f save ir b\u016bti laimingas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"820\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/su-pagarba.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2816\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/su-pagarba.jpg 820w, https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/su-pagarba-300x132.jpg 300w, https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/su-pagarba-768x337.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 820px) 100vw, 820px\" \/><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>T\u0119siant kritikos \u0161eimoje tem\u0105, norisi i\u0161kelti \u012f pirm\u0105 plan\u0105 tai, kas efektyviausiai padeda dirbti su kritika &#8211; tai stipr\u016bs santykiai \u0161eimoje. Tikrai a\u0161 nepirmoji, kuri sako, kad \u0161eima n\u0117ra tik biologiniai k\u016bnai. \u0160eima &#8211; tai vis\u0173 nari\u0173 bendrumo ta\u0161kas. 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