{"id":6856,"date":"2020-11-25T00:50:29","date_gmt":"2020-11-24T22:50:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=6856"},"modified":"2020-11-25T00:50:30","modified_gmt":"2020-11-24T22:50:30","slug":"dalykai-kuriuos-turi-zinoti-mano-vaikai-kaip-vertinti-kitus","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/dalykai-kuriuos-turi-zinoti-mano-vaikai-kaip-vertinti-kitus\/","title":{"rendered":"DALYKAI, KURIUOS TURI \u017dINOTI MANO VAIKAI | KAIP VERTINTI KITUS"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Kai pa\u017evelgiu \u012f \u017emogaus vystym\u0105si i\u0161 nat\u016bralios gamtos pus\u0117s, matau, kad po dviej\u0173 met\u0173 vaiko gyvenime prasideda nauja kelion\u0117 \u012f pasaul\u012f, kuris pradeda atrodyti kitaip: negaliu nieko kontroliuoti, turiu pats daryti, kiti \u017emones nedaro ko a\u0161 noriu ir t.t.. Prasideda \u012fvairios baim\u0117s, ple\u010diasi emocij\u0173 spektras. Jis tur\u0117s tapti savaranki\u0161kas. Jis tur\u0117s i\u0161mokti kaip reikia bendrauti su kitais. Su\u017einoti, kokie yra blogi ir geri tarpusavio santykiai ir kaip juos statyti bei i\u0161laikyti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kai vaikui sueina 4-5 metai – jis jau pakankamai didelis, kad suvokt\u0173, jog kitas \u017emogus yra atsietas nuo tav\u0119s, jis turi savo min\u010di\u0173 ir veiksm\u0173 trajektorij\u0105 ir mes negalime jos vertinti, kritikuoti, niekinti, \u0161aipytis, nes mes ne\u017einome kur ir kaip tie \u017emon\u0117s ,,juda\u201d. \u0160iame periode jau ir galima mokytis santyki\u0173 statyb\u0173. Bet tam pirma reikia suvokti, kas yra \u017emogus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Savo s\u016bnui (5m) da\u017enai duodame pavyzd\u012f, kad kiekvienas \u017emogus yra tarsi radijo imtuvas (nes tai s\u016bnui pa\u017e\u012fstamas veikimo principas). Aplink mus yra labai daug nematom\u0173 bang\u0173 – nor\u0173. Ir \u012f kiekvien\u0105 radijo imtuv\u0105 patenka \u0161is nor\u0173 srautas, tik kiekvienas pagauname skirting\u0105 t\u0173 nor\u0173 kombinacij\u0105: vienas nori \u017eaisti, kitas miegotis, tre\u010dias \u017eaisdamas valgyti ir pan..<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gyvenime a\u0161 visk\u0105 vertinu tik pagal savo ,,pagautas\u201d bangas (tai ko a\u0161 noriu ir kaip a\u0161 matau visk\u0105) ir tai mane labai klaidina, nes \u010dia niekada neatsiras kito \u017emogaus, kuris 100% galvot\u0173 kaip a\u0161. Kiekvienas \u017emogus yra visi\u0161kai individualus ir unikalus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tod\u0117l, manau, labai svarbu, kad mano vaikai suprast\u0173 \u0161\u012f esmin\u012f dalyk\u0105 – kitas \u017emogus yra kaip atskiras radijo imtuvas, gaudantis tik jam reikalingas bangas. Ir tod\u0117l kito \u017emogaus negaliu kritikuoti, \u0161aipytis i\u0161 jo d\u0117l to, koks jis yra. \u017dmogus negali pakeisti to, koks gim\u0117.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pas mus dabar da\u017enai vyksta kova tarp vaik\u0173 kieno n o r a s yra svarbesnis \ud83d\ude02: koki\u0105 knyg\u0105 skaitysime, kok\u012f film\u0105 \u017ei\u016br\u0117sime, k\u0105 valgysime, k\u0105 \u017eaisime ir pan.. s\u016bnus net dukrai sako ,,a\u0161 neb\u016bsiu su tavim, jeigu tu nedarysi ko a\u0161 noriu\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mes \u017einome, kad vaikai apnuogina mus, suaugusius. Parodo kokie esame i\u0161 ties\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nat\u016bralu, kad visi pyk\u010diai ir emociniai susikirtimai kyla, kai kitu transliuoja ne t\u0105 pat\u012f da\u017en\u012f kaip mano, a\u0161 nenoriu niekam nenusileisti pirma. Bet \u012fvertinus, kad mes pagauname tai skirtingas bangas, pradeti i\u0161 tikro i\u0161girsti kit\u0105, priimti j\u012f, pamatyti tikr\u0105j\u012f j\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tai labai sud\u0117tingas darbas, ta\u010diau kuo grei\u010diau \u012fprasime j\u012f daryti, tuo lengviau bus bendrauti su \u017emon\u0117mis, sukurti ir i\u0161laikyti \u0161eim\u0105, b\u016bti komunikabiliu darbe ir gyvenime. Toks \u017emoni\u0173 vertinimas panaikina visus ,,jis nepadar\u0117 tai, ji daro taip, a\u0161 noriu kitaip, jis sako netaip…\u201d tai tiesiog laiko gai\u0161imas, negatyvo k\u016brimas ir niekur nevedantys priekai\u0161tai, kurie tik griauna m\u016bs\u0173 bendrai pastatyt\u0105 ry\u0161\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pasikartosiu, niekada neatsiras kito \u017emogaus, kuris 100% galvot\u0173 kaip a\u0161. Kiekvienas \u017emogus yra visi\u0161kai individualus ir unikalus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Kai pa\u017evelgiu \u012f \u017emogaus vystym\u0105si i\u0161 nat\u016bralios gamtos pus\u0117s, matau, kad po dviej\u0173 met\u0173 vaiko gyvenime prasideda nauja kelion\u0117 \u012f pasaul\u012f, kuris pradeda atrodyti kitaip: negaliu nieko kontroliuoti, turiu pats daryti, kiti \u017emones nedaro ko a\u0161 noriu ir t.t.. Prasideda \u012fvairios baim\u0117s, ple\u010diasi emocij\u0173 spektras. Jis tur\u0117s tapti savaranki\u0161kas. Jis tur\u0117s i\u0161mokti kaip reikia bendrauti […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6855,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6856","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vaiku-auklejimas-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/f08e2b2b-4050-4839-bfb0-c374c9ce5c58.jpg",600,300,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/f08e2b2b-4050-4839-bfb0-c374c9ce5c58-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/f08e2b2b-4050-4839-bfb0-c374c9ce5c58-300x150.jpg",300,150,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/f08e2b2b-4050-4839-bfb0-c374c9ce5c58.jpg",600,300,false],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/f08e2b2b-4050-4839-bfb0-c374c9ce5c58.jpg",600,300,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/f08e2b2b-4050-4839-bfb0-c374c9ce5c58.jpg",600,300,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/f08e2b2b-4050-4839-bfb0-c374c9ce5c58.jpg",600,300,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Kai pa\u017evelgiu \u012f \u017emogaus vystym\u0105si i\u0161 nat\u016bralios gamtos pus\u0117s, matau, kad po dviej\u0173 met\u0173 vaiko gyvenime prasideda nauja kelion\u0117 \u012f pasaul\u012f, kuris pradeda atrodyti kitaip: negaliu nieko kontroliuoti, turiu pats daryti, kiti \u017emones nedaro ko a\u0161 noriu ir t.t.. 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