{"id":6983,"date":"2020-11-30T22:18:03","date_gmt":"2020-11-30T20:18:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=6983"},"modified":"2020-12-03T23:18:29","modified_gmt":"2020-12-03T21:18:29","slug":"priklausomybe-seimai","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/priklausomybe-seimai\/","title":{"rendered":"PRIKLAUSOMYB\u0116 \u0160EIMOS VIENETUI"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Kiek daug dalyk\u0173 \u0161eimoje i\u0161sispr\u0119st\u0173, jeigu visi \u0161eimos nariai jaust\u0173, jog jie priklauso \u0161eimai, tam bendrumui, kuris gim\u0117 tarp vis\u0173 ir kaskart stipr\u0117t\u0173. Tada nebekilt\u0173 tiek problem\u0173 d\u0117l rib\u0173 nustatymo, nepagarbos, nesusikalb\u0117jimo, atitolimo, depresijos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Toki\u0105 teorij\u0105 i\u0161girdau dar prie\u0161 gimstant pirmam vaikui. Ji man pasirod\u0117 logi\u0161ka: jeigu visi jau\u010diame, kad \u0161eima – tai kaip vienas organizmas, tai n\u0117 vienas jame gyvenantis \u017emogus juk nenor\u0117s pakenkti sau pa\u010diam. Tad ie\u0161kojau b\u016bd\u0173 kaip to pasiekti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pirmiausia kardinaliai pakei\u010diau po\u017ei\u016br\u012f \u012f vaik\u0105. Gim\u0119s k\u016bdikis jau yra suaug\u0119s \u017emogus, tik jo k\u016bnas nei\u0161sivyst\u0117, jam tr\u016bksta \u012fg\u016bd\u017ei\u0173 ir patirties, bet pati jo esm\u0117 jau subrendusi. Tai pad\u0117jo \u012f vaik\u0105 \u017evelgti kitaip, kaip ir dviem sluoksniais: vienas, kad jo k\u016bnui ir protui reikia m\u016bs\u0173 pagalbos, tai \u010dia mes sprend\u017eiame daug dalyk\u0173, o antras, kad vaikas yra mano partneris, draugas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nuo pirm\u0173 dien\u0173 pasakojau kaip gyvename, k\u0105 matome aplink, kod\u0117l renkuosi t\u0105 ar an\u0105 dalyk\u0105. Kai vaikas paaugo, stengiausi parodyti, kad viskas, k\u0105 jis mato, girdi, supranta yra svarbu ir man labai \u012fdomu. Dabar s\u016bnui jau penki ir mes daug kalbame. Visai neseniai jis prad\u0117jo vakarais organizuoti \u0161eimos susitikimus, kuriuose mes pasakojam\u0117s istorijas ir v\u0117liau atsakin\u0117jame \u012f s\u016bnaus paruo\u0161tus klausimus. Tame visi vienodai \u012fdom\u016bs ir svarb\u016bs. S\u016bnus jau\u010diasi m\u016bs\u0173 partneris kuriant \u0161eimos santykius.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0160eimos bendrumo poj\u016bt\u012f kuria visi, ta\u010diau t\u0117vai aktyviau projektuoja b\u016bsenas, \u017eaidimus, pokalbius, \u012fvykius taip, kad visi \u0161eimos nariai pajust\u0173, kad jie yra svarb\u016bs, mylimi, reikalingi. Kad jie gali pasipasakoti, aptarti klausimus, nesl\u0117pti emocij\u0173, nes viskas, kas priklauso man asmeni\u0161kai, priklauso ir \u0161eimai. Pavyzd\u017eiui, mano bloga ar gera nuotaika \u012ftakoja vis\u0173 kit\u0173 nuotaikas. Ir kai a\u0161 negaliu susivaldyti, tada kreipiuosi pagalbos \u012f \u0161eim\u0105. Mes kalbame apie tai, kaip sudetinga kartais b\u016bna suvaldyti save, k\u0105 d\u0117l to gal\u0117t\u0173 padaryti kiti \u0161eimos nariai. O kartais klausimai b\u016bna visai buitiniai: ,,kod\u0117l perkame tuos apelsinus, o ne tuos? Kaip palaikyti tvark\u0105 namuose?\u201d ir t.t. Saky\u010diau nesvarbu kas aptariama, bet svabu koks kiekvieno po\u017ei\u016bria yra. Jeigu mes nekritikuojame, nesi\u0161aipome, ne\u017eeminame – tai nat\u016bralu, kad visi \u0161eimos nariai jausis saug\u016bs, savi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Matau tokius pavyzd\u017eius draug\u0173 \u0161eimose, kuomet jie nuo pirm\u0173j\u0173 dien\u0173 investavo nema\u017eai \u012f \u0161eimos bendrumo k\u016brim\u0105, ta\u010diau paauglyst\u0117je n\u0117ra joki\u0173 b\u0117d\u0173. Vaikai puikiai skiria kur jie yra kaip draugai su t\u0117vais, o kur egzistuoja hierarchija, pareigyb\u0117s ir pan. \u017daviuosi tokiais t\u0117vais. Tai taip \u012fkv\u0117pia neapsigauti, kad tai ne\u012fmanoma \ud83d\udda4.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Manau, jeigu vaikai \u0161eimoje i\u0161moks gyventi kaip mini visuomen\u0117je, su priklausomybe jai, savo pareigom, tai ateityje jie bus laisvi. Laisvi integruotis \u012f bet kok\u012f kolektyv\u0105, \u012f pla\u010di\u0105 visuomen\u0119. Jie jau tur\u0117s tam tikrus \u012fg\u016bd\u017eius, kurie reikalingi s\u0117kmingam gyvenimui sociume. D\u0117l to verta investuoti \u012f \u0161eimos santykius jau dabar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Kiek daug dalyk\u0173 \u0161eimoje i\u0161sispr\u0119st\u0173, jeigu visi \u0161eimos nariai jaust\u0173, jog jie priklauso \u0161eimai, tam bendrumui, kuris gim\u0117 tarp vis\u0173 ir kaskart stipr\u0117t\u0173. Tada nebekilt\u0173 tiek problem\u0173 d\u0117l rib\u0173 nustatymo, nepagarbos, nesusikalb\u0117jimo, atitolimo, depresijos. Toki\u0105 teorij\u0105 i\u0161girdau dar prie\u0161 gimstant pirmam vaikui. Ji man pasirod\u0117 logi\u0161ka: jeigu visi jau\u010diame, kad \u0161eima – tai kaip vienas […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4516,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6983","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vaiku-auklejimas-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-zaidzia.jpg",1200,628,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-zaidzia-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-zaidzia-300x157.jpg",300,157,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-zaidzia-768x402.jpg",768,402,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-zaidzia-1024x536.jpg",1024,536,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-zaidzia.jpg",1200,628,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-zaidzia.jpg",1200,628,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Kiek daug dalyk\u0173 \u0161eimoje i\u0161sispr\u0119st\u0173, jeigu visi \u0161eimos nariai jaust\u0173, jog jie priklauso \u0161eimai, tam bendrumui, kuris gim\u0117 tarp vis\u0173 ir kaskart stipr\u0117t\u0173. 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