Galb\u016bt teko gird\u0117ti posak\u012f ,,T\u0117vas nemyli vaiko jeigu gaili jam ryk\u0161t\u0117s\u201d. A\u0161 perfrazavau sau taip: ,,Vaikas nejau\u010dia meil\u0117s, jeigu n\u0117ra kontrasto jai – rib\u0173.\u201d Visai kaip mes nesuvoktume dienos, jei neb\u016bt\u0173 nakties, \u0161ilto be \u0161alto, skanaus nuo bjauraus. Visas m\u016bs\u0173 gyvenimas paremtas dviem prie\u0161ingyb\u0117m, bet taip mes susikuriame ribas aplink save. Manau ir mums, kaip t\u0117vams, svarbu sukurti tam tikr\u0105 rib\u0173 lauk\u0105 aplink vaikus, kad i\u0161 to nepasitenkinimo jie jaust\u0173 t\u0105 tikr\u0105j\u012f m\u016bs\u0173 meil\u0117s skon\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mes \u0161eimoje pasirinkome tok\u012f keli\u0105 – parodyti vaikams, kad m\u016bs\u0173 santykiuose egzistuoja dvi b\u016bsenos. Viena, kai mes gyvename draugyst\u0117je, ry\u0161yje, sutarime. O antra – kai vaikai pasiekia ribas – mes nustojame b\u016bti draugai, mes nebesame lyg\u016bs, t\u0117vai tampa auk\u0161tesni. Mes turime pavyzd\u012f su mylin\u010dia mama ir li\u016bte, kuri gali sudr\u0105skyti. Ne\u0161aukiame, nemu\u0161ame, neg\u0105sdiname, ta\u010diau parodome, kad taip veikia desniai gamtoje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vaikas turi \u017einoti, kad nuo jo elgesio priklauso ar mes sugr\u012f\u017etame \u012f pirmin\u0119 b\u016bsen\u0105, kuomet mes draugai, ar liekame b\u016bsenoje, kurioje a\u0161 auk\u0161tesn\u0117.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
O kaip \u017einoti kada man b\u016bti mama, o kada li\u016bte?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pirmiausia, reikia kalb\u0117tis. Paai\u0161kinti vaikui 1001 kart\u0105 kod\u0117l mes taip elgiam\u0117s ir nemeluoti, kad ateis baubas ar pagaus me\u0161ka. Tiesiog paai\u0161kinti kas vyksta gyvenime. Parodyti jam, kad jeigu jis, gav\u0119s paai\u0161kinimus, nesutinka, tu panaudosi j\u0117g\u0105 (pvz.: automobilio saugos dir\u017eai, jeigu vaikas po paai\u0161kinimo savo noru nesutinka prisisegti, tada segsime dir\u017e\u0105 per j\u0117g\u0105) arba pati darysi taip, kaip reikia, bet su vaiku ,,deryb\u0173\u201d nebevesi (pavyzd\u017eiui vaikas neina miegoti, jeigu po paai\u0161kinimo jis vistiek spyriojasi, tai a\u0161 pati einu miegoti. Nereikia n\u0117 5 min ir vaikas miega :)). <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ribos visada yra aplink mus. Man atrodo dar svarbu, kad vaikas matyt\u0173, kad a\u0161 taip pat turiu ribas. Turiu paai\u0161kinti jam, kad a\u0161 taip pat esu apribota gamtos, visuomen\u0117s \u012fstatymais. A\u0161 turiu i\u0161mokyti j\u012f pamatyti kur yra ribos, kaip apsaugoti save visuomen\u0117je. A\u0161 negaliu daryti k\u0105 tik noriu, nes mane nubaus ar net nu\u017eudys. Jeigu vaikas matys, kad jo t\u0117vams n\u0117ra joki\u0173 rib\u0173, tai jis vis\u0105 savo gyvenim\u0105 jaus, kad jis irgi neturi rib\u0173.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mes taip parodome vaikui tikr\u0105j\u012f gyvenim\u0105. Ir tai ne mes, veikiami i\u0161 pyk\u010dio. Ver\u010diau mes atspindime jam gamtos, visuomen\u0117s po\u017ei\u016br\u012f \u012f j\u012f. Jeigu jis to nei\u0161moks \u0161eimoje, tada gyvenimas i\u0161mokys. Tik tik tai gali b\u016bti skaud\u017eiu keliu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Galb\u016bt teko gird\u0117ti posak\u012f ,,T\u0117vas nemyli vaiko jeigu gaili jam ryk\u0161t\u0117s\u201d. A\u0161 perfrazavau sau taip: ,,Vaikas nejau\u010dia meil\u0117s, jeigu n\u0117ra kontrasto jai – rib\u0173.\u201d Visai kaip mes nesuvoktume dienos, jei neb\u016bt\u0173 nakties, \u0161ilto be \u0161alto, skanaus nuo bjauraus. Visas m\u016bs\u0173 gyvenimas paremtas dviem prie\u0161ingyb\u0117m, bet taip mes susikuriame ribas aplink save. 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