{"id":7503,"date":"2021-01-03T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-01-03T09:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=7503"},"modified":"2021-01-03T23:04:20","modified_gmt":"2021-01-03T21:04:20","slug":"ir-kodel-mes-nesutariame","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/ir-kodel-mes-nesutariame\/","title":{"rendered":"IR KOD\u0116L MES NESUTARIAME?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Kasdien\u0117 saviugda leid\u017eia pa\u017einti tikr\u0105j\u012f save ir atrasti prie\u017eastis kod\u0117l mano ,,a\u0161\u201d ir kito ,,a\u0161\u201d nesusikalba.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Viena i\u0161 \u0161i\u0173 prie\u017eas\u010di\u0173 yra visko vertinimas tik per savo ,,d\u0117\u017eut\u0119\u201d. Tai yra per savo suvokim\u0105, m\u0105stym\u0105, \u012fpro\u010dius, pom\u0117gius ir pan. Kaip ma\u017ei vaikai visk\u0105 vertina tik per savo poj\u016b\u010dius: jeigu man \u0161alta, tai ir visiems \u0161alta, jeigu a\u0161 laimingas, tai nesuprantu kod\u0117l kiti jau\u010diasi kitaip.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tikrai da\u017enai tarp \u017emoni\u0173 kyla nesutarimai d\u0117l to, kad vienas priekai\u0161tauja kitam d\u0117l gyvenimo pa\u017ei\u016br\u0173 skirtumo. Tas pas\u0105moningas noras, kad visi turi galvoti kaip a\u0161 labai apriboja \u017emog\u0173. Tai k\u0105 daryti jeigu norisi jausti ry\u0161\u012f su savo antr\u0105ja puse, vaikais, t\u0117vais, draugais? Kaip i\u0161l\u012fsti i\u0161 tos ,,d\u0117\u017eut\u0117s\u201d?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Turb\u016bt labai gerai visiems \u017einomas pavyzdys: mo\u010diut\u0117s ar mamos jau nuo sen\u0173 laik\u0173 labai m\u0117gsta palepinti vaikus skaniu maistu. Jos plu\u0161a vis\u0105 dien\u0105, ruo\u0161ia, tik\u0117damosios taip parodyti d\u0117mes\u012f, u\u017esitarnauti meil\u0119, o vaikai galiausiai parei\u0161kia, kad jie laikosi dietos, j\u0173 mitybos \u012fpro\u010diai kitokie ar n\u0117ra alkani. Nat\u016brali reakcija: ,,Na ir gerai, ir nevalgykit! Visai negerbiat nei man\u0119s, nei maisto!\u201d. Kaskart kyla \u012ftampa. Ir kaskart ji didesn\u0117.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tai kas \u0161ioje situacijoje kaltas? Kalt\u0173 \u010dia n\u0117ra. Vaikai tur\u0117t\u0173 suprasti, kad maistas buvo ruo\u0161tas su meile, galb\u016bt tai vienintelis t\u0117vams \u017einomas b\u016bdas i\u0161reik\u0161ti r\u016bpest\u012f. Tad reikia atitinkamai pa\u017evelgti \u012f situcij\u0105 t\u0117v\u0173 akimis, atrasti lankstesni\u0173 b\u016bd\u0173 kaip pasakyti ne, kad ne\u012f\u017eeisti. Galb\u016bt pasakyti kok\u012f kompliment\u0105, kad u\u017e visas pastangas b\u016bt\u0173 apmok\u0117ta neb\u016btinai valgant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O t\u0117vai ar seneliai irgi tur\u0117t\u0173 suprasti, kad \u0161iandien vaikai kitokie, kad dabar labai daug \u017emoni\u0173 kontroliuoja k\u0105 valgo, kad \u0161i karta skanaus maisto nebelaiko prioritetu gyvenime ir dauguma net nesupranta kaip galima praleisti tris valandas gaminant maist\u0105. Moderniam \u017emogui tai prabanga ar laiko \u0161vaistymas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Atrodo tai du kardinaliai prie\u0161ingi po\u017ei\u016briai. Tad norint bendrauti be \u012ftampos, abi pus\u0117s turi \u017eengti \u017eingsn\u012f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tai tik pirmas \u012f galv\u0105 at\u0117j\u0119s pavyzdys. Bet tas pats principas galioja ir visose kitose situacijose. \u0160imtus kartu per dien\u0105 padarome ka\u017ek\u0105 gero kitam, o jis neatsako tuo pa\u010diu. Mes pykstame, jau\u010diam\u0117s ne\u012fvertinti. Net esu gird\u0117jusi, kad moteris pyko ant savo vyro, kad jis jai ne tok\u012f ir ne taip kompliment\u0105 pasak\u0117. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u012edomu tai, kad da\u017eniausiai kitas \u017emogus atsid\u0117koja, tik ne tuo pa\u010diu, ko tik\u0117jausi a\u0161. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kartais kyla klausimas kod\u0117l turiu stengtis? Kam to reikia?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0160iai dienai turiu tik vien\u0105 atsakym\u0105 pati sau – kad ,,neperk\u0105stume\u201d vienas kitam gerkl\u0117s. Kuo toliau, tuo sunkiau \u017emon\u0117ms bendrauti be savo ambicij\u0173, puikyb\u0117s \u012fsiki\u0161imo, noro ker\u0161tauti. Vis norisi \u012flisti \u012f kit\u0173 gyvenimus ir juose \u0161eimininkauti tarsi manasis jau b\u016bt\u0173 tobulas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u0161 visada u\u017e tai, kad pakyl\u0117ti \u017emogi\u0161kuosius santykius \u012f auk\u0161tesn\u012f lyg\u012f, kuriame gyventume i\u0161 ties\u0173 laimingai, be joki\u0173 dekoracij\u0173, kauki\u0173, apsimetin\u0117jim\u0173. D\u0117l to ir verta stengtis. \ud83e\udd42<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Kasdien\u0117 saviugda leid\u017eia pa\u017einti tikr\u0105j\u012f save ir atrasti prie\u017eastis kod\u0117l mano ,,a\u0161\u201d ir kito ,,a\u0161\u201d nesusikalba. Viena i\u0161 \u0161i\u0173 prie\u017eas\u010di\u0173 yra visko vertinimas tik per savo ,,d\u0117\u017eut\u0119\u201d. Tai yra per savo suvokim\u0105, m\u0105stym\u0105, \u012fpro\u010dius, pom\u0117gius ir pan. Kaip ma\u017ei vaikai visk\u0105 vertina tik per savo poj\u016b\u010dius: jeigu man \u0161alta, tai ir visiems \u0161alta, jeigu a\u0161 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5292,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[43,44],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7503","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moteris-mama-straipsniai","category-vyrai-moterys-santuoka-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-namu-atmosfera.jpg",1200,628,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-namu-atmosfera-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-namu-atmosfera-300x157.jpg",300,157,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-namu-atmosfera-768x402.jpg",768,402,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-namu-atmosfera-1024x536.jpg",1024,536,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-namu-atmosfera.jpg",1200,628,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/imami-ugdymas-auklejimas-namuose-namu-atmosfera.jpg",1200,628,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Kasdien\u0117 saviugda leid\u017eia pa\u017einti tikr\u0105j\u012f save ir atrasti prie\u017eastis kod\u0117l mano ,,a\u0161\u201d ir kito ,,a\u0161\u201d nesusikalba. 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