{"id":7992,"date":"2021-01-20T00:30:06","date_gmt":"2021-01-19T22:30:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=7992"},"modified":"2021-01-23T22:01:51","modified_gmt":"2021-01-23T20:01:51","slug":"isgirsti-ne-tik-ausimis","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/isgirsti-ne-tik-ausimis\/","title":{"rendered":"I\u0160GIRSTI NE TIK AUSIMIS…"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Pamenu, kai mano t\u0117vai apsipykdavo ar tiesiog d\u0117l ko nors nesusikalb\u0117davo, tai mama buvo ta, kuri nor\u0117jo i\u0161girsti labai daug, o t\u0117tis tas, kuris negal\u0117jo pratarti n\u0117 \u017eod\u017eio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u016bdama vaikas ir matydama tai i\u0161 \u0161alies, negal\u0117jau suprasti kod\u0117l jiems taip sunku suprasti, kad jie tiesiog du skirtingi padarai ir vienintelis b\u016bdas susikalb\u0117ti – pabandyti priimti vienas kit\u0105 ir ,,\u017eaisti\u201d su tomis kortomis, kokias kiekvienam i\u0161meta likimas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0160iandien juos suprantu. Pati da\u017enai papuolu \u012f tokias situacijas, kai noriu, bet negaliu praverti burnos. Ir neabejoju, kad i\u0161 \u0161alies kitas galvoja t\u0105 pat\u012f, k\u0105 a\u0161 galvojau matydama savo t\u0117vus. Bet kai pats patenki \u012f t\u0105 jausm\u0173, min\u010di\u0173 s\u016bkur\u012f – negali nieko kontroliuoti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kartu su vyru nuolatos mokom\u0117s kaip b\u016bti t\u0117vais, sutuoktiniais, partneriais, draugais. Kaskart nustembame susid\u016br\u0119 su tuo, kad da\u017eniausiai klausom\u0117s, bet negirdime vienas kito, viduje t\u016bnantis vis\u0173 gal\u0173 meistras \u017eino geriau ir kitam kalbant, komentuoja kiekvien\u0105 i\u0161girst\u0105 \u017eod\u012f (neva a\u0161 \u017einau daugiau \ud83d\ude48). Nuolat vis i\u0161lenda asmeninis vertinimas, interesas ir tai sulaiko mus nuo suart\u0117jimo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kai nebesinori meluoti nei sau, nei kitam, tada imi ie\u0161koti b\u016bd\u0173 kaip pagerinti tarpusavio komunikacij\u0105, kuri veda prie tvaresni\u0173 tarpusavio santyki\u0173. Pradedi pasteb\u0117ti, kad \u017emon\u0117s yra labai skirtingi ir kiekvienas susiduria su skirtingais sunkumais.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pavyzd\u017eiui, yra \u017emoni\u0173, kurie tam tikrose situacijose u\u017esidaro, nemoka paai\u0161kinti kas jiems yra, k\u0105 jie jau\u010dia, o gal dar ir nesupranta iki galo, tai kito \u017emogaus supratimas ir klausin\u0117jimas gali nuo to i\u0161vaduoti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Arba moteris da\u017enai jau\u010diasi nei\u0161klausyta, bet ne visada ji palika pakankamai vietos vyrui pasisakyti, arba vyras ne visada klausosi jos nuo\u0161ird\u017eiai. Ir visa tai jau\u010diama. Ore. Ne\u012fmanoma to suvaizdinti. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Santykiuose egzistuoja tiek daug subtilybi\u0173, kuri\u0173 \u017emon\u0117s nepastebi, nesureik\u0161mina, ta\u010diau jau\u010dia ir i\u0161gyvena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ugdydama tiek save, tiek vaikus siekiu atrasti prie\u017eastis kod\u0117l man\u0119s nesiklauso, kod\u0117l taip sunku i\u0161girsti kit\u0105, kaip valdyti savo santykius, kaip stiprinti tarpusavio ry\u0161\u012f su man brangiais \u017emon\u0117mis. Galiausiai, kai \u017amogus tau labai labai svarbus, tu imi gird\u0117ti daugiau negu jis pasak\u0117. Nes imi klausytis \u0161irdimi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Teigiami santykiai – tvir\u010diausias pagrindas po kojomis gyvenime. Ir \u0161iandien \u0161is pagrindas drebantis. Tad kaip sakoma: ,,\u017dinodamas ligos diagnoz\u0119, gal\u0117si pritaikyti ir vaistus jai gydyti\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Pamenu, kai mano t\u0117vai apsipykdavo ar tiesiog d\u0117l ko nors nesusikalb\u0117davo, tai mama buvo ta, kuri nor\u0117jo i\u0161girsti labai daug, o t\u0117tis tas, kuris negal\u0117jo pratarti n\u0117 \u017eod\u017eio. B\u016bdama vaikas ir matydama tai i\u0161 \u0161alies, negal\u0117jau suprasti kod\u0117l jiems taip sunku suprasti, kad jie tiesiog du skirtingi padarai ir vienintelis b\u016bdas susikalb\u0117ti – pabandyti priimti […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4523,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[44],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7992","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vyrai-moterys-santuoka-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-santuoka.jpg",1200,628,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-santuoka-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-santuoka-300x157.jpg",300,157,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-santuoka-768x402.jpg",768,402,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-santuoka-1024x536.jpg",1024,536,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-santuoka.jpg",1200,628,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/imami-seima-santuoka.jpg",1200,628,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Pamenu, kai mano t\u0117vai apsipykdavo ar tiesiog d\u0117l ko nors nesusikalb\u0117davo, tai mama buvo ta, kuri nor\u0117jo i\u0161girsti labai daug, o t\u0117tis tas, kuris negal\u0117jo pratarti n\u0117 \u017eod\u017eio. 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