{"id":8292,"date":"2021-02-04T22:14:39","date_gmt":"2021-02-04T20:14:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=8292"},"modified":"2021-02-04T22:14:40","modified_gmt":"2021-02-04T20:14:40","slug":"ar-as-bloga-mama","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/ar-as-bloga-mama\/","title":{"rendered":"AR A\u0160 BLOGA MAMA?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Tai buvo vienos i\u0161 mano draugi\u0173 klausimas. Bet neabejoju, kad daug moter\u0173 sau j\u012f u\u017eduoda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pamenu \u0161i draug\u0117 negal\u0117jo susilaukti vaikelio beveik 5 metus. Nesunkiai galima \u012fsivaizduoti kokia laiminga Ji buvo, kai pastojo. Tada gim\u0117 s\u016bnus. Linksmuolis toks. Ir Ji pati \u0161vyt\u0117jo!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u017dinoma, kaip ir kiekvienos mama tapusios moters, taip ir Jos gyvenimas persitvark\u0117. Greta laim\u0117s poj\u016b\u010dio, d\u017eiaugsmo stebint kaip auga ma\u017eylis, atsirado ir mil\u017eini\u0161ka atsakomyb\u0117, r\u016bpestis kitu, nuovargis, laiko ir bendravimo stoka. Ne visada lengva i\u0161laikyti balans\u0105 tarp b\u016bvimo moterimi, mama, \u017emona. Ta\u010diau kiek pamenu Ji niekada nenuleisdavo rank\u0173, visada ie\u0161kodavo kaip save motyvuoti ir sunkiais momentais visada sulaukdavau Jos skambu\u010dio (nors tie skambu\u010diai labiau pad\u0117jo man).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pra\u0117jus pusantr\u0173 met\u0173 gavau nuo Jos \u017einut\u0119, kad Ji v\u0117l laukiasi. Ra\u0161\u0117, kad yra sutrikusi, nes begalo myli savo s\u016bn\u0173, o dabar jau\u010diasi kaip ir kalta, kad jis gaus ma\u017eiau d\u0117mesio ir Ji tur\u0117s savo meil\u0119 padalinti abiems. Bijojo kaip viskas bus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tuomet jau tur\u0117jau du vaikus ir puikiai supratau apie k\u0105 Ji kalba. Kai esi prisiri\u0161usi prie vieno vaiko, atrodo kaip bus \u012fmanoma myl\u0117ti du? Bet Ji atlaik\u0117 visk\u0105 \u0161auniai ir pati pajuto, kad meilei rib\u0173 n\u0117ra. \u0160iandien Ji d\u017eiaugiasi s\u016bnumi ir dukra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Atrodo viskas \u0161aunu. Bet \u0161tai tas momentas, kai Ji ima klausti sav\u0119s: ,,Ar a\u0161 bloga mama, nes nesugebu b\u016bti tinkamu pavyzd\u017eiu? Juk taip nor\u0117jau vaik\u0173, o dabar, kai juos turiu, kartais nor\u0117\u010diau, kad j\u0173 neb\u016bt\u0173, kad tur\u0117\u010diau bent kiek daugiau laiko sau, kad namai b\u016bt\u0173 kaip normali\u0173 \u017emoni\u0173, kad pagaliau gerai i\u0161simiego\u010diau, gal\u0117\u010diau be problem\u0173 i\u0161sinuomoti b\u016bst\u0105, kad nereik\u0117t\u0173 gird\u0117ti kaimyn\u0173 priekai\u0161t\u0173 d\u0117l triuk\u0161mo ir stresuoti vie\u0161umoje… Ar a\u0161 bloga mama, nes manyje kyla tokios mintys?…\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pamenu klausiau Jos. Ie\u0161kojau savyje \u017eod\u017ei\u0173 k\u0105 pasakyti ir radau tik \u0161iuos: ,,Klausyk, tu ne viena. Tu nuostabi mama, tavo vaikams labai pasisek\u0117, kad turi mam\u0105, kuri nebijo pa\u017evelgti \u012f tikr\u0105j\u0105 save, nevaidina sau, bet ie\u0161ko kaip suteikti jiems to, ko i\u0161 tikro \u0161iandien reikia – \u017emogaus aukl\u0117jimo. Tai pati did\u017eiausia dovana, kuri\u0105 tik tu gali duoti savo vaikams\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nor\u0117jau tik parodyti, kad suprantu j\u0105 ir palaikau. A\u0161 pati pagaunu save toje ,,sav\u0119s kaltinimo\u201d stadijoje, kuri kartais \u012fkalina kaip kal\u0117jimas ir nieko gero neduoda nei man, nei kitiems. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tokiais momentais visada padeda aplinka, kuri supranta, kad vaik\u0173 aukl\u0117jime visada vyksta bangavimas – vien\u0105 dien\u0105 tu \u012fkv\u0117ptas ir \u012fkv\u0117pi kitus, kit\u0105 – vos pakyli i\u0161 lovos. Vien\u0105 dien\u0105 tave veda ketinimas u\u017eauginti \u017emones, kit\u0105 – tu nematai n\u0117 vieno pliuso, kod\u0117l tur\u0117tum gai\u0161ti laik\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bet tas bangavimas ir yra tikrasis d\u017eiaugsmas. Jame yra galimyb\u0117 tobul\u0117ti pa\u010diai ir parodyti vaikams koks yra gyvenimas ne filmuose, o realyb\u0117je. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Tai buvo vienos i\u0161 mano draugi\u0173 klausimas. Bet neabejoju, kad daug moter\u0173 sau j\u012f u\u017eduoda. Pamenu \u0161i draug\u0117 negal\u0117jo susilaukti vaikelio beveik 5 metus. Nesunkiai galima \u012fsivaizduoti kokia laiminga Ji buvo, kai pastojo. Tada gim\u0117 s\u016bnus. Linksmuolis toks. Ir Ji pati \u0161vyt\u0117jo! \u017dinoma, kaip ir kiekvienos mama tapusios moters, taip ir Jos gyvenimas persitvark\u0117. 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