{"id":9297,"date":"2021-04-19T23:52:46","date_gmt":"2021-04-19T20:52:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=9297"},"modified":"2021-04-22T16:16:26","modified_gmt":"2021-04-22T13:16:26","slug":"nuoseklumas-auklejime","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/nuoseklumas-auklejime\/","title":{"rendered":"NUOSEKLUMAS AUKL\u0116JIME"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Tikiu, kad s\u0105moningi t\u0117vai turi i\u0161sik\u0117l\u0119 savo vaikams aukl\u0117jimo tikslus. Kad ir abstrak\u010diai, bet numat\u0119 kam, kod\u0117l, link kur juos veda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar prie\u0161 susilaukiant vaik\u0173, kartu su vyru i\u0161sik\u0117l\u0117me savo gyvenimo ir aukl\u0117jimo tikslus. Abu \u017einojome, kad dirbti reik\u0117s daug, rezultatas pasirodys geriausiu atveju po 13 met\u0173. Ry\u017eom\u0117s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jau \u0161e\u0161tuosius metus rimtai investuodama \u012f vaik\u0173 aukl\u0117jim\u0105 pasteb\u0117jau, kad labai da\u017enai m\u016bs\u0173 i\u0161sikeltas tikslas neplanuotai ,,apauga\u201d \u012fvairiais planais, programomis, r\u0117mais, ribojimais, emocijomis arba atsiranda vis ka\u017ekoki\u0173 svarbesni\u0173 min\u010di\u0173 ir tas i\u0161sikeltas tikslas tarsi praranda ry\u0161kum\u0105, skon\u012f… Staiga vaikai tampa tavo akyse ned\u0117kingi u\u017e tai, k\u0105 d\u0117l j\u0173 darai, atrodo, kad jie net nebegirdi tav\u0119s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Paseka to, nebelieka j\u0117g\u0173, motyvacijos, kartais jautiesi kaip ,,r\u016bke\u201d (pasimet\u0119s, sutrik\u0119s, nusivyl\u0119s, piktas), ne\u017einai k\u0105 daryti. Tada pradedi ,,\u0161okin\u0117ti\u201d nuo vien\u0173 id\u0117j\u0173 prie kit\u0173, neriesi i\u0161 kailio sudaryn\u0117dama vis naujus ir naujus planus, i\u0161bandai \u012fvairiausius patarimus, o galiausiai kyla noras visk\u0105 mesti, nes suvoki, kad niekas NEVEIKIA!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0160ioje vietoje man \u012f pagalb\u0105 ateina pirmasis nuoseklaus aukl\u0117jimo \u012frankis – aplinka, kuri nepaisant vis\u0173 ,,kalneli\u0173\u201d tave palaiko ir primena apie i\u0161sikeltus tikslus. Mano gyvenime tai vis\u0173 pirma yra vyras, suprantantis koks reik\u0161mingas yra \u017emogaus aukl\u0117jimas ir kiek kartais daug reikia atsisakyti, kad visgi siekti u\u017esibr\u0117\u017eto tikslo, nesustoti viduryje proceso, net jeigu ir nesimato rezultat\u0173. O rezultatai tikrai ateina, tik ne t\u0105 sunki\u0105 akimirk\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kantryb\u0117s ir svarbos man suteikia knygos apie vaik\u0173 aukl\u0117jim\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u017dinoma nei\u0161gyven\u010diau be kit\u0173 moter\u0173, kuri\u0173 gyvenime b\u016bsimos kartos aukl\u0117jimas yra numeris 1. Jos \u0161vie\u010dia man kaip \u0161vyturys, kol a\u0161 kapanojuosi audringoje j\u016broje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nuosekliame aukl\u0117jime man taip pat svarbus yra atsinaujinimas. A\u0161 vis randu sen\u0173, ka\u017ekur giliai pasisl\u0117pusi\u0173 \u0161ablon\u0173 liekan\u0173, kurios vis ver\u010dia ki\u0161ti visk\u0105 r\u0117mus, planuoti, kontroliuoti. Tie dalykai pastaruoju laiku man visai neveikia, o jei ir veikia, tai labai trumpam. \u010cia kaip laikantis dietos svoriui mesti – pirmas savaites laikaisi u\u017esibr\u00e9\u017eto tikslo, o v\u0117liau jis blanksta ir tolsta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aukl\u0117jimas – tai ilga distancija, \u010dia reikia pastovaus, nuolatinio jud\u0117jimo, o ne sprinto. Taigi, kai tikslas v\u0117l tampa svarbus, tada treniruoju save tiesiog b\u016bti \u010dia ir dabar. I\u0161 vienos pus\u0117s bandau b\u016bti jautri vaik\u0173 b\u016bsenoms, derintis prie j\u0173 ir m\u0117gautis procesu, i\u0161 kitos – laikytis dantimis \u012fsikandus \u012f tiksl\u0105 ir bet kok\u012f u\u017esi\u0117mim\u0105, veikl\u0105 paversti \u012frank\u012f priart\u0117ti prie to tikslo, neleisti emocijoms pakilti auk\u0161\u010diau tikslo. Tada tampa nesvarbu nei laiko r\u0117mai, nei konkre\u010dios veiklos. Da\u017eniausiai tas laikas b\u016bna improvizuotas, bet tarsi vienoj tekm\u0117j su visa \u0161eima, be prievartos ar spaudimo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar vienas svarbus \u012frankis, padedantis orientuotis kiek tolstame ar art\u0117jame prie tikslo – tai dienora\u0161tis. Kasdienis klausim\u0173 sau k\u0117limas ir bandymas b\u016bti s\u0105\u017einingai su savimi, negriau\u017eti sav\u0119s, o priimti visk\u0105 kaip galimyb\u0119 tobul\u0117ti labai padeda steb\u0117ti save i\u0161 \u0161alies, nuimti \u012ftamp\u0105, matyti proces\u0105 ir nujausti kada v\u0117l art\u0117ja ,,r\u016bkas\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O tada ratas kartojasi i\u0161 prad\u017ei\u0173: ,,r\u016bkas\u201d -> u\u017esibr\u0117\u017eto tikslo i\u0161sikelimas -> seno po\u017ei\u016brio atnaujinimas nauju -> pastangos i\u0161laikyti nuoseklum\u0105 procese.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0160tai tokia m\u016bs\u0173 \u0161eimos nuoseklaus aukl\u0117jimo formul\u0117. Netgi pavadin\u010diau aukl\u0117jimo disciplina, kurios laikosi t\u0117vai. Galb\u016bt ji nematoma akimis, bet labai ai\u0161kiai formuoja ne tik nam\u0173 atmosfer\u0105, bet ir visos \u0161eimos gyvenim\u0105. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Tikiu, kad s\u0105moningi t\u0117vai turi i\u0161sik\u0117l\u0119 savo vaikams aukl\u0117jimo tikslus. Kad ir abstrak\u010diai, bet numat\u0119 kam, kod\u0117l, link kur juos veda. Dar prie\u0161 susilaukiant vaik\u0173, kartu su vyru i\u0161sik\u0117l\u0117me savo gyvenimo ir aukl\u0117jimo tikslus. Abu \u017einojome, kad dirbti reik\u0117s daug, rezultatas pasirodys geriausiu atveju po 13 met\u0173. Ry\u017eom\u0117s. Jau \u0161e\u0161tuosius metus rimtai investuodama \u012f vaik\u0173 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":9309,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"default","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"default","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[160,42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9297","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-ugdymas-seimoje-priesmokyklinis","category-vaiku-auklejimas-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/36460d83-6b08-4a4f-8661-928119b4f799-3.jpg",800,400,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/36460d83-6b08-4a4f-8661-928119b4f799-3-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/36460d83-6b08-4a4f-8661-928119b4f799-3-300x150.jpg",300,150,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/36460d83-6b08-4a4f-8661-928119b4f799-3-768x384.jpg",768,384,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/36460d83-6b08-4a4f-8661-928119b4f799-3.jpg",800,400,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/36460d83-6b08-4a4f-8661-928119b4f799-3.jpg",800,400,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/36460d83-6b08-4a4f-8661-928119b4f799-3.jpg",800,400,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Tikiu, kad s\u0105moningi t\u0117vai turi i\u0161sik\u0117l\u0119 savo vaikams aukl\u0117jimo tikslus. Kad ir abstrak\u010diai, bet numat\u0119 kam, kod\u0117l, link kur juos veda. Dar prie\u0161 susilaukiant vaik\u0173, kartu su vyru i\u0161sik\u0117l\u0117me savo gyvenimo ir aukl\u0117jimo tikslus. Abu \u017einojome, kad dirbti reik\u0117s daug, rezultatas pasirodys geriausiu atveju po 13 met\u0173. Ry\u017eom\u0117s. Jau \u0161e\u0161tuosius metus rimtai investuodama \u012f vaik\u0173…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9297","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9297"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9297\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9310,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9297\/revisions\/9310"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9309"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9297"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9297"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9297"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}