{"id":9367,"date":"2021-05-03T00:05:08","date_gmt":"2021-05-02T21:05:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=9367"},"modified":"2021-05-06T12:29:38","modified_gmt":"2021-05-06T09:29:38","slug":"narcistinis-auklejimas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/narcistinis-auklejimas\/","title":{"rendered":"NARCISTINIS AUKL\u0116JIMAS"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Visai neseniai teko susidurti su terminu ,,narcistinis aukl\u0117jimas\u201d. Pirma mintis buvo ,,ogo, koks siaubas\u201d, o sekanti: ,,Bet tai \u010dia gali b\u016bti plonyt\u0117 riba, kuri\u0105 ir pati galiu per\u017eengti\u201d. Pasirod\u0117 vertas d\u0117mesio dalykas, ne tik man pa\u010diai, bet ir dedant vaikams gyvenimo pamatus. Jeigu pavykt\u0173 savo pavyzd\u017ei\u0173 gyventi vir\u0161 to, tada vaikai jau savo vaikus aukl\u0117t\u0173 dar labiau vir\u0161 to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Suprantu, kad visgi yra skirtumas tarp to, kad t\u0117vai reikalauja i\u0161 vaik\u0173 bazini\u0173 dalyk\u0173 ir tarp to, kad jie i\u0161lieja savo nes\u0117kmingo gyvenimo kart\u0117l\u012f ant vaik\u0173. Nes narcistinis aukl\u0117jimas ir kyla b\u016btent i\u0161 to, kad tokiems t\u0117vams patiems tr\u016bksta s\u0117km\u0117s gyvenime. Jie nori pamatyti ,,t\u0105\u201d s\u0117km\u0119 vaikuose, reikalauja i\u0161 j\u0173 daugiau negu vaikai gali \u012fgyvendinti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ir, pasirodo, \u0161iandien tai tampa vis da\u017enesne problema. Visuomen\u0117je formuojama tokia aplinka, kuri tiesiog vis daugiau ir daugiau t\u0117v\u0173 nukreipia \u012f savo poreiki\u0173 tenkinim\u0105. T\u0117vai tampa ned\u0117mesingi vaiko poreikiams, nebejau\u010dia ry\u0161io su vaiku, reikalauja daryti tai, k\u0105 t\u0117vai mano es\u0105 geriausia. Tokiose \u0161eimose tr\u016bksta vidinio laidavimo tarp t\u0117v\u0173 ir vaik\u0173, tr\u016bksta u\u017etikrintumo, kad ,,k\u0105 a\u0161 bedary\u010diau, tai bus tavo naudai\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>T\u0117vai, spausdami vaikus b\u016bti tobulais visose srityse, paveikia vaiko gyvenim\u0105, sukelia jam kriz\u0119, kurios jis nebegal\u0117s pamir\u0161ti vis\u0105 savo gyvenim\u0105. Tokie t\u0117vai nori visi\u0161kai kontroliuoti vaik\u0105, paseka to vaikas nepasitiki savimi, visada jausis priklausomas nuo t\u0117v\u0173 ir negal\u0117s gyventi savaranki\u0161kai. Net jeigu ir nebus spaudimo, vis tiek jaus, kad ka\u017ekas viduje j\u012f stabdo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u0161 viso to jau akivaizdu, kad tokio scenarijaus nenoriu. Tai kaip sukurti savyje vietos vaikams? Kaip suteikti vaikui pasitik\u0117jimo savimi?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>O kas man suteikia pasitik\u0117jimo savimi? Tai kai mano aplinka leid\u017eia man daryti pa\u010diai, bandyti, tobul\u0117ti, klysti. Kai priima mano polinkius, stipri\u0105sias vietas, palaiko ir padr\u0105sinta save juose realizuoti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To paties nori ir vaikai. Jie tikisi, kad t\u0117vai pad\u0117s jiems vystytis sveikais, savimi pasitikin\u010diais. \u010cia ir gali pasireik\u0161ti t\u0117v\u0173 laidavimas: padr\u0105sinti i\u0161m\u0117ginti \u012fvairius dalykus, nebijoti, b\u016bti \u0161alia. Supa\u017eindinti su visuomen\u0117s d\u0117sniais, pad\u0117ti atpa\u017einti k\u0105 verta pl\u0117toti ir vystyti, o k\u0105 tiesiog neverta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Vaikas turi tik kelet\u0105 met\u0173 i\u0161bandyti visk\u0105, susipa\u017einti, tad turiu juos palyd\u0117ti \u0161ioje kelion\u0117je. Turiu pad\u0117ti pa\u017einti tikr\u0105j\u012f save, atrasti savo pa\u0161aukim\u0105, specialyb\u0119 ir tobul\u0117ti joje, pasitik\u0117ti savimi. Nespausti ir nekritikuoti vaiko pasirinkimo i\u0161bandyti skirtingus dalykus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jau\u010diu, kad norint nepasl\u012fsti ir nenukrypti \u012f narcistin\u012f aukl\u0117jim\u0105, t\u0117vai turi ugdyti savyje po\u017ei\u016br\u012f, kad m\u016bs\u0173 vaidmuo &#8211; ugdyti vaikuose meistri\u0161kum\u0105 gyventi. I\u0161 tikro gyventi ir b\u016bti s\u0117kmingais!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"820\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2809\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti.jpg 820w, https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti-300x132.jpg 300w, https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/drasos-ieskoti-768x337.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 820px) 100vw, 820px\" \/><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Visai neseniai teko susidurti su terminu ,,narcistinis aukl\u0117jimas\u201d. Pirma mintis buvo ,,ogo, koks siaubas\u201d, o sekanti: ,,Bet tai \u010dia gali b\u016bti plonyt\u0117 riba, kuri\u0105 ir pati galiu per\u017eengti\u201d. Pasirod\u0117 vertas d\u0117mesio dalykas, ne tik man pa\u010diai, bet ir dedant vaikams gyvenimo pamatus. Jeigu pavykt\u0173 savo pavyzd\u017ei\u0173 gyventi vir\u0161 to, tada vaikai jau savo vaikus aukl\u0117t\u0173 [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":9346,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9367","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vaiku-auklejimas-straipsniai"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/358e1d5a-286f-498c-968b-9d9eb47a2a3a.jpg",800,400,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/358e1d5a-286f-498c-968b-9d9eb47a2a3a-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/358e1d5a-286f-498c-968b-9d9eb47a2a3a-300x150.jpg",300,150,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/358e1d5a-286f-498c-968b-9d9eb47a2a3a-768x384.jpg",768,384,true],"large":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/358e1d5a-286f-498c-968b-9d9eb47a2a3a.jpg",800,400,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/358e1d5a-286f-498c-968b-9d9eb47a2a3a.jpg",800,400,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/358e1d5a-286f-498c-968b-9d9eb47a2a3a.jpg",800,400,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"iMami","author_link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/author\/roberta-rumbutienegmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Visai neseniai teko susidurti su terminu ,,narcistinis aukl\u0117jimas\u201d. Pirma mintis buvo ,,ogo, koks siaubas\u201d, o sekanti: ,,Bet tai \u010dia gali b\u016bti plonyt\u0117 riba, kuri\u0105 ir pati galiu per\u017eengti\u201d. Pasirod\u0117 vertas d\u0117mesio dalykas, ne tik man pa\u010diai, bet ir dedant vaikams gyvenimo pamatus. Jeigu pavykt\u0173 savo pavyzd\u017ei\u0173 gyventi vir\u0161 to, tada vaikai jau savo vaikus aukl\u0117t\u0173&hellip;","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9367","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9367"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9367\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9408,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9367\/revisions\/9408"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9346"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9367"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9367"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9367"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}