{"id":9763,"date":"2021-05-21T23:55:58","date_gmt":"2021-05-21T20:55:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/?p=9763"},"modified":"2021-05-21T23:55:59","modified_gmt":"2021-05-21T20:55:59","slug":"kaip-iveikti-sunkumus-santykiuose","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugdymasirauklejimas.lt\/home\/kaip-iveikti-sunkumus-santykiuose\/","title":{"rendered":"KAIP \u012eVEIKTI SUNKUMUS SANTYKIUOSE?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Gera kartais sugr\u012f\u017eti \u012f t\u0105 moment\u0105, kai su vyru vienas kitaip i\u0161tar\u0117m: ,,Taip. Ir varge, ir d\u017eiaugsme\u201d. Jis i\u0161 milijardo moter\u0173 pasirinko mane, o a\u0161 j\u012f. Mes kaip vienas naujas darinys, pasiry\u017e\u0119s iki gyvenimo galo visk\u0105, kas nepatinka padengti meile. Koks nuostabus siekis!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bet kaip j\u012f realizuoti?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

,,Jis man\u0119s nesupranta! Jis negirdi man\u0119s! Ji man\u0119s negerbia ir nepriima koks esu!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trynkt! Bark\u0161t! \ud83d\udca3…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ir neb\u0117ra to vieno k\u016bno, to vieno siekio, kur\u012f i\u0161sik\u0117l\u0117m kartu… vos per kelias minutes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stebint kas vyksta santyki\u0173 srityje, statistika tikrai ned\u017eiugina. Jeigu anks\u010diau \u017emon\u0117s i\u0161laikydavo santuok\u0105 kelet\u0105 met\u0173, \u0161iandien – vos kelis m\u0117nesius. Net vaiko gimimas nei\u0161laiko moters ir vyro kartu, o kartais ir prie\u0161ingai – paa\u0161trina ir pagreitin\u0105 santyki\u0173 nutr\u016bkim\u0105.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u0161 vis ie\u0161kau atsakymo kod\u0117l? Ar galime ka\u017ek\u0105 daryti kitaip? Nuo ko tai priklauso? Kaip i\u0161mokyti vaikus santyki\u0173 meno? Kaip atrasti \u012frankius, kuriuos perduoti jiems?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u0161 ties\u0173 atsakym\u0173 nereikia ie\u0161koti toli. Visi jie kuo puikiausiai atsiskleid\u017eia tarp man\u0119s ir mano vyro, erdv\u0117je tarp m\u016bs\u0173. Tik tam reikia aktyvuoti savo jautrum\u0105. Tirti save, steb\u0117ti savo reakcijas, kas jas i\u0161\u0161aukia, bandyti ka\u017ek\u0105 savyje keisti ir v\u0117l tikrinti, kalb\u0117tis apie tai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Santykiuose labai \u017eenkl\u0173 vaidmen\u012f turi moteris. J\u0117ga, slypinti joje. Ji gali arba visk\u0105 sunaikinti, arba sukurti meil\u0117s tvirtov\u0119! Tod\u0117l visada esu linkusi manyti, kad santyki\u0173 stiprinime pirmuosius \u017eingsnius turi \u017eengti b\u016btent ji. Vyras tai tikrai pasteb\u0117s. Ar atsakys tuo pa\u010diu? Priklausys nuo vyro. Bet \u0161iuo konkre\u010diu atveju a\u0161 \u012f\u017evelgiu naud\u0105 tame, kad moteris i\u0161vengs bereikalingo emocinio sudirgimo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pavyzd\u017eiui, tarkim man nepatiko kaip vyro mama ka\u017ek\u0105 pasak\u0117. \u012eprastai a\u0161 d\u0117l to imu kaltinti vyr\u0105 ir versti j\u012f vos ne i\u0161si\u017ead\u0117ti savo mamos, nes Ji pasak\u0117 Man! D\u0117l to mes nuolatos konfliktuojame. Bet jeigu a\u0161 \u012f visk\u0105 pa\u017evelg\u010diau i\u0161 to ta\u0161ko, kuriame mes buvome kaip vienas k\u016bnas, kartu, tada tie priekai\u0161tai dingt\u0173. Gerai pagalvojus mano vyras ne prie ko, a\u0161 i\u0161tek\u0117jau u\u017e jo, o ne jo \u0161eimos. Ir m\u016bs\u0173 abiej\u0173 gyvenimas nukreiptas \u012f erdv\u0119 tarp m\u016bs\u0173. Ten nei uo\u0161vin\u0117s, nei koleg\u0173, nei kaimyn\u0173 n\u0117ra. Ten tik a\u0161 ir jis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kitas pavyzdys, kuomet mane erzina vyro elgesys ar jo nuomon\u0117. \u012eprastai a\u0161 savo kritik\u0105 i\u0161reik\u0161\u010diau garsiai, nes juk reikia b\u016bti nuo\u0161ird\u017eiam (=\u012frodyti savo teisum\u0105). Bet v\u0117lgi, \u012fvertinus visk\u0105 i\u0161 sieko b\u016bti kartu kaip vienas kum\u0161tis ta\u0161ko, turiu galvoti k\u0105 ir kaip kalbu. Juk noriu, kad vyras jaust\u0173, jog a\u0161 vis dar j\u012f i\u0161sirinkau i\u0161 viso milijardo ir myliu j\u012f tok\u012f, koks jis yra!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jeigu norisi \u012f\u017eengti dar giliau, tai svarbu tampa savyje prapl\u0117sti po\u017ei\u016br\u012f \u012f gyvenim\u0105. Suvokti, kad a\u0161 esu d\u0117\u017eut\u0117 su visokiais + ir -, jis yra d\u0117\u017eut\u0117. Kai pamatau savyje ka\u017ekok\u012f tr\u016bkum\u0105, a\u0161 nestoviu prie\u0161ais veidrod\u012f ir nerei\u0161kiu pretenzij\u0173 pati sau. \u017dinau jas ir stengiuosi pasitaisyti. Lygiai taip pat ir su vyru. Matau. Suprantu, bet nepriekai\u0161tauju, nei\u0161ry\u0161kinu. \u017dinoma, su laiku t\u0105 pat\u012f turi daryti ir vyras. Tada tarpusavyje atsiranda laukas, kuriame abu partneriai vietoj kaltin\u0119 vienas kit\u0105, orientuojasi \u012f abiej\u0173 i\u0161sikelt\u0105 siek\u012f – visk\u0105, kas nepatinka padengti meile. Juk tai toks nuostabus siekis! \ud83d\udda4<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Gera kartais sugr\u012f\u017eti \u012f t\u0105 moment\u0105, kai su vyru vienas kitaip i\u0161tar\u0117m: ,,Taip. Ir varge, ir d\u017eiaugsme\u201d. Jis i\u0161 milijardo moter\u0173 pasirinko mane, o a\u0161 j\u012f. Mes kaip vienas naujas darinys, pasiry\u017e\u0119s iki gyvenimo galo visk\u0105, kas nepatinka padengti meile. Koks nuostabus siekis! Bet kaip j\u012f realizuoti? ,,Jis man\u0119s nesupranta! Jis negirdi man\u0119s! 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